You Disagree?, Fine,But What Are You Talking About?

@jujunme (2343)
United States
January 19, 2011 9:46pm CST
Someone responds to your discussion by disagreeing with your opinion.You say fine, since you relsh an opposite point of view and think it just may start an interesting debate.But, then you start reading the response and you realize that not only does this person disagree with you,but, his or her opinion has absolutely nothing to do with your discussion,or, merely disagrees with you by saying "i disagree" and nothing else,then there are some who go into a tirade of how ignorant you are for daring to think you're right and yet his or her opinion is so off the wall, there's no possible way to take them seriously. and last but certainly not least is the responder who, with all good intentions, advises you to change your opinion since it's so obvious(in their mind)you are wrong and you would do well to heed their advice, since they are telling you the "truth" and are only trying to help you. Haven't had any responders such as this?, i say you're very lucky, but, i've read discussions with replies like this almost on a daily basis and wonder why the discussion starter even bothers to further the discussion, since so many of them are not even worth a reply.so, i'm interested to know, have you had responders like this? and if so, do you attempt to further the discussion?,or ignore them completely?
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6 responses
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 11
I guess I am lucky because I did not have any responder like that. But again, I did not post a lot of discussion, so I maybe that kind of responder? I remember I disagreed several times with the one who wrote the discussion. I just replied any arguments till we both agreed that we are different in seeing things.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
20 Jan 11
Jenny.... .... There is nothing in this world that can make me go against you..! ....
@jujunme (2343)
• United States
20 Jan 11
jennyze:i would say, i'm very lucky as well since with the exception of 1 or 2 responses i really didn't care for, most people who have responded to my discussions have been very helpful and respectable.but as i mentioned in this discussion, i just don't underatnad why some members will respond to their replys, even when the person adds nothing to the discussion, besides disagreeing or being rude.i can't see why they just don't ignore them.
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 11
@Voldie When there is something that we disagree, I will do scold you gently. Luv you. @Jujunme Sometimes it is good to have the last saying?
• United States
20 Jan 11
Hi jujunme, I too am very active here and can't figure out why on earth members feel so strong to the point where as at times it gets pretty nasty. For me no I do not get into debates, as why? This is not the reason why I engage and interact on here so avidly. I figure I have enough in my off-line life can't imagine why I want to get this frustrated online. My other rant, would be at times members do start discussions way over their league, they then cannot back up their stance but instead of moving on they come back and comment back with ridiculous replies that all I can say is how annoying and please get a life. I understand that at times members get so heated that one feels what right is right, and what is wrong is wrong but why get so worked up and get so heated as it certainly does not look good for new members to read. Why can't members simply say: I respect your opinion and will hold truth to mine. Although I will say that on my end as I encounter such discussions they certainly make me laugh and bring up my spirits as they make for entertaining moments. As I can see from the objective side as to who is who and why.
• United States
20 Jan 11
Absolutely you may call me HWG, That is great to hear, I have seen you around and find you a great contribution to myLot. Keep up the great works as I do enjoy reading a great many of your comments.
• United States
26 Jan 11
@junjunme, I just wanted to add that I have been referring new members to your discussion when they ask me about ratings. We all know they cannot rate until they are 100 reputation, but I figure if they can see the ill effects on why never to rate negative unfairly as long time memberships get affected. I have had several thumbs up after they have read you full discussion. I figured we can't change everyone but maybe, just maybe start them out right. Thanks for my br and because of the influence it has had on several new members I (+) your discussion and comments, as I received many who appreciated and were not able to rate!
@mark98 (570)
• China
20 Jan 11
I would like to hear everyone's views. I would like to see discussion of different points of vies, which is more helpful to my understanding. I thank anyone who responds my discussion.
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@jujunme (2343)
• United States
20 Jan 11
i can't say i like to hear "everyones views" since some people seem to not only disagree with you, but,do so n a way that adds nothing to the discussion at all, either with a rude comment or with an opposite opinion so off topic, you wonder if they even read your discussion at all.
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@NoWayRo (1063)
• Romania
20 Jan 11
Hi jujunme, I'd say I'm here to interact with other people, learn new things and engage in interesting discussions. I'm not here to argue with anybody about anything. From time to time the discussions heat up, we cannot stay away of controversial topics, or otherwise myLot would be a really boring place. If the discussion is still entertaining, of if I learn new things from the responder, I keep it going. If it's just for the sake of argument, I ignore it. I surely don't want to end up preaching on the Internet, even when the discussion reaches topics I feel strongly about.
@jujunme (2343)
• United States
20 Jan 11
Most of us are here to "interact with other people" and can even enjoy an opposite opinion, since we can sometimes learn a lot from these. but as you mentioned someone just looking to argue with you , it's best to ignore them, since their whole obective seems to be the need to rile someone up.Why would anyone want to further that type of discussion?
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@SIMPLYD (74863)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
When i find someone in an argumentative note, i would simply ignore it too. People have different opinions and we are not here to make a debate but maybe add an opinion or suggestion to a topic o maybe we participate to broaden it. Whatever the opinions are , we should respect them. But you will also notice if the person would simply just like to comment a word or two for the sake of earning a point here at Mylot.
@murtaza45 (173)
• India
20 Jan 11
are you about says to disagree to much to talk about not disgree for matter to peoplet and relative sensative our disagree our feeld our knowledge for work.
@jujunme (2343)
• United States
20 Jan 11
Yes, everything you mentioned and more i ignore them all and for good reason. they contribute nothing to the discussion and are a waste of time and effort.
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• Malaysia
20 Jan 11
Good or no good i appreciate their effort to come in
@jujunme (2343)
• United States
20 Jan 11
It doesn't take much "effort" for someone to reply to your discussion and have nothing to say, besides disagreeing with you or being rude.so, i don't see why you would appreciate them for responding to your discussion.The whole point in interacting with anyone here is if both you and your responders can enjoy an interesting and good exchange of ideas and opinions.
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