How to get over someone you like, that left you all of a sudden.

United States
January 20, 2011 12:09am CST
I met this guy at work, and we started going out last year. Everything went out fine, we hang out, spend quality time, watch movies, and do something fun together. But after a few months, he told me he is going to move out the fact that his contract in his company is already expired and he has to look for another job. To me, it was so sudden. He didn't even mention it to me the moment he received the memo. So now he left, just when I started to know him better, and I like him so much. He is a very nice guy, but he told me we might as well break up because it wouldn't work for both of us if we are far away. But it's just 2 hours away. I understand his situation, but the fact that he's leaving really made me sad. Sometimes he'd text me, and sometimes leave messages on Facebook. Until one day, I learned that he deleted me on Facebook... So now I have no more updates on him and I don't want to text him either. Until now I can't get over the fact that he left, and it seems like everywhere I go, there's always something that reminds me of him. What should I do to avoid all of these?
2 responses
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Greetings! I understand how it feels because I had also met a guy that I really like. I don't know what's our status and I don't know what are his plans. He had been so nice to me before as if we're in a relationship but now, he changed. He became cold to me now anyway, back to your discussion, its really hard to forget someone but we really have to because we're only hurting ourselves. Be strong. Maybe he'll come back to you. Don't show to him that you're affected. Pretend as if he's nothing to you. Do things that can make you happy. He's not the only guy in this world. Maybe someone better is meant for you so don't feel sad. Yes, Its hard to fight the feeling but we really have to and we can only do it by making ourselves busy. Have time for yourself, family and friends. Another thing is, "feel the pain til it hurts no more." . You can always cry until there's no more tears you could cry. That's what I did when my boyfriend broke up with me. I cried and cried until I realized what I'm doing to myself. I'm only wasting my time on him. So go girl! I know you can do it. :)
• United States
20 Jan 11
Thank you for the great advice girl. But I think there's no way for us to be back together again. If our roads will meet again, that would be nice, but I know things will never be the same again as before. I guess it's really time for me to shut things down that would remind me of him.
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Yes. MOVE ON. there's someone better meant for you. You just have to wait for him so while you're waiting, prepare yourself. :) You're welcome! Have a great day! :)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Thank you for that great advice. I will prepare myself as of now.
@Sissi321 (131)
• China
21 Jan 11
i stay with each other in the christmas day,and i bought him two clothes...and we also talk about our future...but the first day in 2011,he don't call me as usual...i am so angry , i say we break up...he agree...then he tell me he is sorry about to deserte me on purpose...he is waiting for me to say that ...so sadly...hehe...i also can't accept this at first...but i think it over and tell myself i should adjust myself...i should deserve the good guy...i do so much things for him, and he don't know to cherish it ...why do i insist and hurt myself?i should do the good things for myself...and let him know that i can live well without him...and i must let him regret what he did...
• United States
23 Jan 11
Some guys just really don't appreciate what we do for them. But cheer up. You deserve someone else better.