Love is forever...

United States
January 22, 2011 7:54pm CST
I've been hearing a lot nowadays that love lasts forever... true love, that is. According to these sentiments, if you really, truly love someone, you'll love them forever... I really don't know what to think about this idea. What do you guys think? Does real love last forever? If you "fall out of love", does that mean you were never really in true love in the first place?
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@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
23 Jan 11
I don't think love lasts forever. Just like everything else; nothing lasts forever. Things change and they change for a reason, thank goodness!
• United States
23 Jan 11
Nothing lasts forever, and that's a cause of beauty... isn't that an ancient Japanese philosophy? Speaking of which, I really like some Japanese ideals of beauty. Impermanence, imperfection, etc.... Really quite intriguing, and I find that some part of me agrees quite earnestly.. I digress.. Thanks for your response though, be blessed.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I think they had something like that, probably based from Buddhism. But, I think it's intriguing too... it's all in nature=beauty.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
I believe that true love lasts forever. In my own point of view, when a person falls out of love, it was not true love after all. However, the person fell in love somehow. I am not saying that the love was not real. The feeling is real but the feeling is not strong enough to last for a lifetime.
• United States
25 Jan 11
So do you believe that there are different levels of love? Perhaps a "true love", then a type of love a little weaker than that, then another one less than that one, another one less than that, etc..?
@mokkka (883)
• Bulgaria
23 Jan 11
"Forever" sounds like a really long period of time so I cannot say if it may last till the end of somebody's life as long as I am still 22 but I may share my experience.% years ago I met a man who made me feel in really strange way.I started going out with him against all natural rules-parents,friends,distances...And now after we have gone trough various of things I still tremble when I hear his voice.I have met many men for that period and I have tried to like some of them but it is not the same.I feel him and he feels me.Even if we are far from each other somehow know that the other is happy or said and we know when exatly to call the other and stuff like that.It is as if we read our thoughts.
• United States
23 Jan 11
That sounds really incredible! I'm glad you've found someone who really seems to be the perfect one for you. I'm somewhat of a believer in the sixth sense... do you remember ever having these feelings in other situations?
@Marmot (595)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Actually I don't believe a forever love at all. I think time can change everything. It is normal that people change their GF or BF, even husband and wife. Some times, love is just a short relationship and can changes. We can not say that people haven't fall in love in the first place when they get divorced, because if there is no love between them, why they get married? Right?
• United States
23 Jan 11
I'm not sure I would necessarily agree. There are a lot of feelings one can have that could be mistaken for love. A deep infatuation or obsession could likely fool anyone into thinking they're really in love with someone!
• United States
23 Jan 11
Absolutely not. Love is not forever, love in infallible. Love is very fragile and had to be maintained very carefully and there are many, many factors involved. What most people don't understand is that everyone continues to grow and change throughout their lives. Sometimes, people just grow apart through the years. This does not mean there was never "real" love, it only means that you are not the same people who want the same things anymore. Things happen, things change and no one can tell the future. I absolutely do not believe that anything that can happen in the future can invalidate the present. There is nothing I hate more than people who say they "wasted" their years with someone just because the relationship doesn't work out.
• United States
23 Jan 11
Thanks for your insights into this... This question keeps popping up in my head though- What is love?!
• China
23 Jan 11
I believe true love lasts forever.I have been in love with my boyfriend for 8 years.Now we still love each other deeply.Love is a feeling.If the feeling is kept fresh,you will never fall out of love. True love is understanding and tolerating each other!I believe there is true love in the world!
• United States
23 Jan 11
That's lovely. Are you guys going to get married soon? :) What about your past... do you think you've ever loved someone and the feelings are still there? For example, let's say you had a long-term relationship with someone in high school. If you were to see him, do you think you'd find yourself still deeply in love with him? Or do you regard those feelings you had in the past as not "true love"?
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
If you love someone, there's no boundary whatsoever when it comes to earthly things, spiritually, emotionally, physically, etc..etc...sharing & giving with each other. Loving truly means a union of feelings, thoughts, desires, urges, understanding, and knowledge of what it means to be in loved, but also, set a limits for whatever you'd like to be done and accomplished according to the rules both of you agreed upon. Love only lasts forever if both lovers comply with what they're set from the start until eternity. If you fall out of love, it means that either of you, don't want to set an agreement (with limits)with your lover. Another thing is, you are not compatible with each other or don't like what you are doing, or find another lover because you're not good in bed, that's why you "fall out of love". Come to think of it, if you truly in love with another person, there must be a union of souls between you & your partner. In addition, the culture and your environment plays a vital role in molding both of you as a human beings. It must be with limits and understanding for whatever undertakings both of you must be fulfilled. In today's generation, it's very rare to find people who truly in love because of the rapid change in environment, technologies, relationships, behavior, attitude, etc..etc...even the minute cells changes for a period of time. That's why human beings on our planet earth are prone to be damaged, also by another human beings - survival of the fittest.
• United States
23 Jan 11
You're totally right- people these days are always "in love". Just take a look at our media, and then you might see why... Anyways, yeah, especially teenagers... A few days into a relationship... "I love you so much..." WHAT is up with that?! Whatever love is, I know one thing- THAT'S not love, LOL.
@roselean (38)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
For me, I believed that true love lasts because I have been in love and until now, I am still in love with the same man. It's already been thirteen years since I fall in love with him, though we've been through a lot of difficult times and we even almost break up but love always keep us together..until now...hopefully, it will last for him too.
• United States
23 Jan 11
It's nice to hear your personal anecdote. However, I have a question. What about your previous crushes, for example, when you were in school? Do you regard them as just that? Only crushes? Have you ever had a time where you felt confused and realised it wasn't really love?
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
I'm not anti romantic but there is no such thing as forever. Nothing last forever even the good ones. Love just like any other emotions we are capable of feeling is a fleeting thing.It comes and it goes. Having a lasting love is a decision, and ,yes, it is true love. Why? Because you would not want to work things out over and over again if it is not. You can readily let it go by all means and find another love when it ends. But the mere fact that you are making a decision to stay and make that love works and lasts until a life time is no doubt a real love.
• United States
23 Jan 11
Thanks for your insights! I don't know though... but hey, some people even say love doesn't exist at all, not even as an emotion. Just a deception from our evolutionary instincts telling us to further our species, apparently __
@dong88 (796)
• China
23 Jan 11
Hello!I think that love is forever,when you truly love someone,you will always love him,love him for everything,even his shortcomings, you will be inclusive.
• United States
23 Jan 11
Hey there! Thanks for your response. I really just want to see other people's takes on that viewpoint of love I wrote of in the original post, and as I'm still unsure of my own opinion, could you please elaborate with some examples or explanations of your own? More material for me to read ^_^ lol.