How to handle a hard relationship...

@smelz23 (190)
Philippines
January 24, 2011 6:34am CST
First of all any Filipinos are here in Mylot? My mother does not want me to have a GF. I am 25 years of age now and she always does not allow me to meet with my GF. but i cant disobey my mothers order coz i am still living in our house and still cant find any work. what will i do.
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4 responses
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Pinoy myLotter here! Good gracious, man. Get yourself a job and get your @ss off their house... right now. You're too old to still be living with your parents, pre. I'm saying these with all due respect.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
As a parent, my concerns are for your own good and for your future as a whole. Filipino parents are very aggressive in holding their children to have girlfriend cause of the fact, that today's generation really have a tendency to get married at young age. It doesn't mean that your mother is angry with you or in your relationship, she cares for you a lot, that's why she wants you to have a happy life. What happened if you have girlfriend and suddenly she got pregnant? Who will help you in your situation? Yes, your parents of course, especially your mother. Work will come on time for you, just be patient and discipline yourself to find work that suits your satisfaction. Have a stable job first before finding a girlfriend, and save more money in the bank for future use.
@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
hello smelz, You already answered your question. Yes you are old enough,but you are not prepared yet since you don't have a job. Where does a relationship takes people anyway?..wasn't it to marriage? What will you do if ever you will have a GF,and suddenly she asks you to marry her? What will happen next?...live with your mother,and you are jobless? Think about the future,find a job and save money for yourself. I am just saying my opinion here,being jobless is not easy. Welcome to mylot and enjoy mylotting
• India
24 Jan 11
Well i am not a Fillipino, let me clarify that before. Regarding your problem, you should talk to your mother that you have now reached an age where you should meet girls, since you will get married soon. You should tell her that you have a gf and like you love her. Or just let your mom and your girl meet once and let them talk to each other. If your mom likes her she wont stop you then from meeting her. Who knows?