do you believe in destiny?

Philippines
January 24, 2011 7:58am CST
i usually hear people say that their is always someone out there for you. when i broke up with my boyfriend, my family and friends usually comfort me with those words saying, "if it is not meant to be it will never be, there is someone out there for you, just wait and see." and i felt comforted with it. but there are times late at night when i realize, if there is always someone for you, how come there are those who never got married? i mean like bachelors or spinsters?? how come they never got their love? where are they? and so is there such a thing as destiny? what do you think?
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22 responses
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Destiny is a psychological phenomena that has been derived by psychologist to present something valuable in arts & sciences. Mankind has a place of his own on this earth and that he needs to exert his knowledge, skills, abilities, money, charms, etc..etc..to find his true love. As time goes by, people change and our beliefs changes. There's no reason for you to believe in destiny, it's your prowess to find a girl you love and in return, the lady will love you so.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
you have a point there. im a girl by the way. hehe no worries. thank you for the response. :)
31 Jan 11
Sometimes something are mean to be. but also sometimes destiny played such a game with us. He wants us to fight to prove how much we need something.
• Philippines
29 Jan 11
Of course I really believe in destiny. And also to the saying that "if it is not meant to be then its not yours, but if it comes back to you then that is destiny" Although there are lots of couple who never really end up together even if they've been on the relationship for years.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Well, I don't call it a destiny when something happen to me. Even it is called love or success. Because as I think about things that happen into our life. It seems they are all in time...
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
I think we all have our own destiny.. For those bachelors and spinsters out there, perhaps they're destined to have no partner. There are a lot of reasons why some people choose to be single. Some may have fallen out of love or others don't just see it as a priority in life. Whichever we prefer, we can't predict what lies ahead of us. Destiny exists for those who believe. If you believe that someday you'll find the right person for you, then you will. Just keep all your senses in mind, think positive, and everything will follow. Good luck for your soul-searching.. Let your soulmate find you, let destiny unravel... ^_~ Happy Mylotting mimoy36!
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Jan 11
Destiny is way-larger than relationships. Even in people's individual lives (unless one's central focus in life is 'to be a spouse'). And Love is everywhere, while most marriages are little specks of sand in the ocean-of-Love. I'm a bachelor, and would enjoy marriage if it makes people happy. But as I'm a freak, people are happier when I am alone. If you mean to ask 'Do you believe that everyone is destined to meet their mate?' then yes, but probably not the way anyone understands it. My mate is Jesus (or 'Jess' ), and I meet her in every smiling face I cause.
@derek_a (10874)
25 Jan 11
This has been a question that has been asked by manking for thousands of years. If we have free will, then how can destiny be absolute? I think there are karmic forces in our life that try to guide us, but that those karmic forces are created by our selves in the deeper part of our mind. With meditation and contemplation, which as a Zen practitioner I do every day, we don't have to follow the strong karmic forces if we can get a deep enough insight into them. We can if we focus deeply enough, change what seems our inevitable destiny into something that we choose for ourselves. I think this is the challenge facing nearly all human beings. _Derek
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
If you love something- set it free! It will come back, if it was meant to be! Some people do not enjoy sharing their lives with anyone else. They prefer to spend their lives alone. There is a Grand Design for mankind, and all must live within this Design!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Jan 11
I think the ones that never married are the smart ones. Marriage is such a hassle no matter how much u love someone or mine was anyway.
@meerat75 (111)
24 Jan 11
I used to believe in destiny - but is there any thing like. No. It is just a soothing experience and destiny should be redefined. The meaning so far for that word and the concept behind is simply psychology and nothing more than that. Think, you will understand it. Meera
@llbo1981 (1237)
• China
25 Jan 11
The answer to me is yes,i do believe in destiny in daily life of ours.Although this,we can make good effort to change our destiny,it is also an attitude toward the destiny.So many examples about the people who change their destiny.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Assuming that we all have a predetermined end as well as course of our lives, we still are accorded the choice as to how to reach that end, in which terms to face it as well what kind of lives we should live.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
24 Jan 11
I don't really believe in destiny;life is a continuous struggle and if you don't make efforts to improve your life and just wait for destiny's help,it will never happen.I think your fate depends partially on your actions and also on the place and society you live in.
25 Jan 11
i have watched a movie called my amnesia girl. in that story, it was saying that some of us already found our destiny but maybe too busy in other things that made us lose them.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
I do believe in destiny. Why and how? Because no one wants to have a miserable life with their loved ones. And if some reason, they lost the person they love, come what may, it will come back in time no matter who will get hurt and be in pain. I mean, if two people love each other and meant for each other separated by some unwanted reasons, time will come they will come back in each other arms again. Now you ask why there are people who did not get married? It's their choice. For sure they have loved someone in their younger years, but there are reasons they let to prevail some reasons such as pride for example and made wrong decisions. Because hey expect to find someone based on their set standards. Thus usually sacrifices their emotions.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I am a devoted believer to destiny. I don't believe that it just happens. i believe the choices we make lead us on the path to our destiny. we help our destiny come to be.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
I think that people should not leave things on fate. I believe that in everything that we want and what we have, we must always have to exert an effort to make it happen. May it be in work, studies, or love, a person should not just wait and see where life will lead him. Instead, he should make a move in attaining it. In love, two people should have a mutual effort in order to make their relationship work. In some point,those who are not able to get married, made a move in their lives that made them end up the way they are...it was not just the destiny...it was a part of their choice or the consequence of their choice
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Hello mimoy, We are all destine to die whether we like it or not. It is now a matter of choice to live longer and make this life meaningful.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
24 Jan 11
I've always believed in destiny, I am convinced that the fate of every man is written in a ledger in which we will not ever have access, at least not in this life .... and in terms of love, and there is little Above us and our approach to life,him / her see and put your hand wave is .... destiny!
• China
24 Jan 11
There is the words "predestined relationship" to describe the love between young man and young woman.I believe it very much.I think all is predestined.This is fate.If you losed your lover,it's mean that he's not your right man.Don't worry about it!When the predestined relationship is coming,even if you want to escape from it,you will be also found by it!I believe in destiny!Good luck!