"Sorry seems to be the hardest word." Why though?

Philippines
January 24, 2011 3:03pm CST
Is it really hard to say sorry to somebody that you have wronged even if you know that by a simple apology could mend a broken relationship? Perhaps it is because we may tend to fear rejection like if we apologize to someone we wronged and he or she refuses to accept it. But if truth be told, if the person you have wronged hears a sincere apology on your part, it actually helps. The apology may not sink in right away, as what we often believe, in time they will learn to forgive, knowing that the person who hurt them regrets what he or she did. But even if that person doesn't accept your apology for the wrong thing that you did to him or her, at least you tried, right? At least you let that person know that you regret having done what you did. At least you let him or her know that you wanted to repair what has been damaged. You can move on... Coz, see, without apology, whether you admit it or not, there will always be a heavy feeling that you're going to be carrying for the rest of your life. :)
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@mythociate (15407)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Jan 11
Because apology-talk means NOTHING without remission-action! ("'Lord! Lord!' they will say. 'We prophesied in your Name and offered prayer in your Name and rebuked demons in your Name!' And I will reply, 'I don't know you. Get away from me.'" Gospel) And the more NOTHING you say, the more everything-you-say becomes worth NOTHING. So that means--if you say 'sorry' (which means 'I feel the pain I put you through as if it were my own')--you're dooming yourself to the pain they suffer as long as they suffer it.
@ravi110 (21)
• India
25 Jan 11
ah well i also finds 'sorry' very hard to say. somewhere it hurts the ego of the one who`s asking for it.
@edb225112 (125)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Sorry is hard to say because most people are not sorry for what they did. The behavior which was done that hurt you gave the other person something they needed. Why would you be sorry you got your needs met? If you believe what you did was justified - no one ever does anything they don't believe was right for them at the time - why would you feel sorry for that behavior? Start by acknowledging that the behavior which offended you met the other persons needs. Find the empathy to understand what that need is. Did they really 'wrong' you or just offend your sensablities? Did they devalue you? Hurt your pride? What kind of person does something like that unless they are in some kind of emotional pain? How does it help their pain by demanding an apology? I believe that the phrase "I'm sorry I hurt you" is really "I'm sorry I hurt you but . . ." If you can't forgive someone for something, who's problem is it really? The implied demand for an apology for that hurt is a power play. I will only like you if you put my needs above your own. Mature relationships are built on empathy and caring. Not on who has the most power.
@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 11
Saying word sorry is a habit for me. I will say sorry spontaneously when i realize something i do is wrong.but forgiven and unforgiven is comes second things for me..ain't doesn't care if those people is will forgive me or not. in fact, i'll say apologize first.Cheers!
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
25 Jan 11
Hi, friend, i think your post is wonderful. You know, there are so many couples have missed each other because of some misunderstanding. Love is very complicated, sometimes the two people are guessing each other's mind. They don't know what is on the other person's mind, and they are afraid of being rejected again. It is often the case: because they are too shy to admit their love or apologize,their ralationship ends. How good if this kind of "tragic relationship" decreases with more people can apologize to their partners sincerely.
@r4v3n_ (178)
• United States
25 Jan 11
No its not hard to say sorry to any one. It's just there are some people who are not used to tell that word when they hurt someone. On my everyday life i always encounter that word even there are just simple things that they thought that they hurt someone. This word is a very nice thing to say when you do not want to hurt any one or if you want your friendship with some one retain.
@marcmm (1806)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 11
I all depends on the person. For me if we are taught from our childhood to apologies when we doing wrong, we will get used of it and before we know it is a habit to apologies everytime we done wrong to others or make a mistakes. A people who don't want to apologies is a person that is full of pride. That type of person is so ego and full of himself. That person always think that they are right and other is wrong and for them if they apologies it will make them low in self esteem. Usually a boss is like that. Even if they make a mistake, they will never apologies to their sub-ordinates but will choose to blame other peolple for their mistakes. As far as I concern, to make people feel freely to apologies whenever they make mistakes or hurt others is to teach them from their childhood because when they are already grown up it will be too late to teach them.
@SIMPLYD (79835)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
I must admit that it's hard for me to say "I'm sorry" face to face to a person i have wronged. When i have done wrong to a person, i would text him "im sorry for . . . " That way, i wouldn't be blushing out of shame by muttering to him those words. Though sometimes it really depends on the person you have wronged. If you know that person to be so unforgiving and would humiliate you when you say that, then maybe you will just find other means of expressing your apology rather than saying the words yourself. have a nice day!
• United States
25 Jan 11
I believe sometimes it is as an admission of guilt or shame they must feel if they do not apply the word sorry. I find it is far easier to say I am sorry as oppose to living with the guilt.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Apologizing to someone for something is not always the easiest task to perform. For some it can come easy. then you have to wonder if there was real meaning behind the apology. When sorry is difficult, that's when the truth is revealed. These might be hard words to say but they are worth it in the end.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Saying sorry is a sign of humility. Stepping down in order to ask forgiveness for something wrong that you have done. It is also an acceptance of one's fault and admitting that he erred.... However, for some bad reasons, it is very difficult to say you are sorry. It is maybe of our pride or the thought that you will never forgiven anyway so why ask sorry still. But, of course, it is better to say you're sorry than to carry the burden of guilt for the rest of your life.
@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
24 Jan 11
Sorry is very hard for me. I think it's a combination of not liking to be wrong and the difficulty in humbling myself to admit it. Because I think it takes both being able to admit being wrong and not being too proud to tell the other person that you wronged them. That's why I admire people who can readily give sincere apologies. I do apologize even though it's not my favorite thing. But, I really like someone who can apologize and doesn't seem to have any problems doing so.