Don’t you sometimes feel unappreciated at work?

no satisfaction at work - unappreciated, no satisfaction
@bounce58 (17524)
Canada
January 25, 2011 5:18pm CST
I thought I’d try my hand at a rant… Don’t you feel unappreciated at work sometimes? That you work your butt off, and still you don’t get any ‘pat-on-the-back’ that you deserve? I work in a 3-man department. Careerwise, I am the youngest of the 3. The other two have more than 20 years experience ahead of me, each. So, when it comes to ‘glory-work’, they get first dibs. Meanwhile, I get the nitty-gritty, detailed work that they don’t want to bother with. I don’t complain because we used to be a 5-man department, with another senior and another junior colleague. With the luck of the draw, I was the one kept. But still, there are just days that I need some appreciation. Don’t you get days like these too? Aside from the salary-compensation, or the good merits during appraisal periods, aren’t there just days that you’d need to be commended for the daily grind? Or days where you just so down because you feel so unappreciated?
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
27 Jan 11
It is amazing how far a kind word can go when you are feeling down at work. I have felt so down before and someone say something nice about my job that it almost made me cry. Silly I know but I was that down about it. Working with people that have that much senority really can make it tough. Sometmes people like that take things for granted. Sounds like you are very good at whatever it is your doing since they chose to keep you on between the other people they let go.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
You've hit the nail on the head Jen! I know that every body is compensated for the work that they do, wherever they are. But when you do get days where everything just seem to not go your way, a few kind words does go a long way. To boost morale, and even improve the quality of work. Thanks.
• United States
26 Jan 11
I understand the way you are feeling. I work at a job that i will never get a raise never be promoted. What is sad is the ppl i work with only has a 6th grade ed. while i have some college kinda a slap in my face. The reason i stay is that it pays the bills. We have no benefits or anything. Atleast that is mytocents
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Why don't you try applying for another job while you are at your current job? There is no promotion, no benefits, no salary increase. You don't have any future in that company dear. I know it would be hard looking for one, but still you can at least try. There is no harm in trying.
• United States
27 Jan 11
They have us working 6 days a week really no time to look. Wdhen i get to take a day off i will but with the way the economy the way it is it gets me worried to really push myself to leave.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Hello mytocents. I am with sweet_pea here. You should try and look for something else. I know that we should appreciate whatever(job) we have, but I don't think it's right that we don't get any benefits from work. I hope you find something else, soon!
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Just recently I feel what you are feeling. It was the day when my boss told me my rating for last year which is the basis of my annual increase this July. So I was expecting I would do better than a 2 which is what he described as doing what is required of you. Well I only got a 2. And most of us did in the group. I wasn't happy initially because, I submit all reconciliations far way before the deadline and my counterpart who waits till the deadline has same grade as I am. My spirit was down at that time but oh well, at least I still got a raise. I still look at the brighter side of things.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Hello sweet_pea. I think a raise is still a raise. And you're still lucky that you got one. We're in a tough industry that we don't even know if we'd be surviving this year, let alone have raises. At these difficult times, is when la ittle bit of appreciation, even if not monetary, could be a good boost to the morale. Thanks.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I really wonder why some People Manager are such a miser in giving credits, such as giving praises or giving a pat at the back or a simple thank you for a job well done. It doesn't even cost a company a cent yet they just don't. Yes you are correct that a bit of appreciation can really boost the morale of employees. I don't have problems with that with my boss. Although, it really put your spirit down just the same when you are expecting a good grade because of their praises and they didn't reflect on your evaluation sheet.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Ooops..that ought to be a sad face! My mistake!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
Most of the times lately, I feel that my boss is getting senile. She is so suspicious of everyone in the office, changes her decision all the time, forget what she said just a few minutes ago, calling me in the middle of night just to ask trivial thing that can be delayed till next morning, getting angry when employee does not acknowledging her emails, and so on.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Although what you put in here has nothing to do with being unappreciated at work, I do agree with you that your boss must be getting senile. All these actions you just described does not seem to be for someone of responsibility. Goodluck to you, and I would advice you to start looking for something else.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 11
Ah yeah, have been thinking about looking for another job for sometimes, but this company pays rather well. So I cannot decide at the moment. Just waiting till she snapped, I guess. Believe me, it feels like she does not appreciate me every time she said: Really? Check again! Just do it! She would never accept others idea nor suggestion as if we are not capable of doing our job. But when I am not in the office, she would crank and call me almost every half hour asking this or that. I've been taking a day off on a working days since last month.
@jodylee (968)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I started a new job a few months ago and find that they are very appreciative. I have received two raises since starting and have been given some really nice awards. They cannot always compensate monetarily when the employees do a great job, but the management at my word does a fabulous job at recognizing and boosting our egos a bit. They get creative and really give us the complements we need to be productive. What would you rather your work situation look like? Do you have any plans to make changes so you can achieve a better working life?
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Hello jodylee. I have been trying to look for something else. Unfortunately, with the economy situation at it is, it's a bit difficult to find something else. Yes, I would like to be in a place where little acts of appreciation is shown. It's not always salary and benefits that counts. Thanks!
@jodylee (968)
• United States
28 Jan 11
I hear you there. I never would have made it to the company I work for now if I had not lost my last job. I went unemployed for about five months and changed a lot about my work life. I was under appreciated and overworked. I ended up in a job that is pretty cool but had an unfortunate experience with unemployment to get here. In the meantime get the old resume started and keep your ears open to new possibilities.
@KrauseHome (34678)
• United States
29 Jan 11
Well, lately in Society I think the hard worker is the one least appreciated as too many times it seems like everyone wants something for nothing, and if they are not getting it they want to take it out on others. Where I work, besides the Supervisors I have the most time in the Company I am with, and usually am shown the least respect etc. It just amazes me, because in my case the worst ones are quite younger than me right now, but in the past it has come from older as well.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 Jan 11
You've brought up a good point. That maybe it is a product of society. I would definitely agree that a lot of people nowadays are obsessed with getting something for nothing. So, often the hardworkers are definitely the ones not appreciated. And it is sad. Thanks.
@LadyDD (519)
• Romania
29 Jan 11
You are quite right! I always feel depressed when after a good job no one say good words and express appreciation. The fact is I noticed this is no longer the habit. In modern days, a valuable employee is no longer taken into consideration because of a the bad management. They don't have time to say nice words and express appreciation because they don't have time, they don't know how important it is, they don't know how this works on the motivation of the employees.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 Jan 11
I think that should be part of the trait of a good manager. To know when to dish out good words of appreciation once in a while. Specially if someone does a good job. I think it goes a long way to the morale of the employee. Thanks for the response.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
28 Jan 11
When I worked at the hospital, that was something that I experienced on a regular basis. I was a nursing assistant which is definitely the job that is all of the hard work and none of the glory. There were times that I was expected to take a team of 38 patients which meant that I would have to work through a 12 hour shift and never even have an opportunity to use the bathroom. A simple pat on the back from our charge nurse or even an occasional thankyou would have been very nice during that time.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
This is another example of people not appreciating the others around them. Specially for a charge nurse who I'm sure knows how heavy the workload was. I know that you were paid for it, but the appreciation would have been nice to improve quality of work, specially that you were dealing with actual patients/people. Thanks.
• United States
27 Jan 11
I've only had one job ever, and that was a temporary job that I worked for two months, but I have felt that way before. It was at a jewelry factory in the shipping department and the vault. Since it was my first job I was enthusiastic and wanted to put 100% into everything that I did. I wanted everything to get done quickly and efficiently. I tried to minimize bathroom breaks and breaks during work. I didn't talk to anyone. I tried to get everything done as quickly as possible. I tried not to go over my lunch break and to finish early. I even stayed late every single day. The woman who was in charge of the vault was always rushing me to work faster despite the fact that I worked quicker than the majority of the other people that worked there. She had a habit of doing that but I was the only one that took her seriously and actually tried to work faster than I already was. My aunt (who worked there with me) and another co-worker always scolded me and told me to take it easy because if they can they'll work you like a horse but I didn't listen. Over time I started to get worn down though and started to take longer lunch breaks and more small breaks while working.I realized that trying to give 110% wasn't getting me any more pay or even appreciation than the other workers. In the end we all still got the same pay. I think it's important for workers to feel appreciated because if they don't it'll effect their work performance negatively. For me personally, appreciation gives an incentive to work hard.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Hello Chastized_Dreamz. I think you just gave a perfect example. I know that you gave up in the end, but if that woman who was in charge of the vault, gave you a little appreciation for the 'extra' work that you did instead of wearing you down, I'm sure you could have been more motivated to do it. And maybe even an example to others, even to your aunt. Thanks.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I understand your feeling about this situation. You know the that workplace is like a jungle? Let me explain to you. Each of you there in your workplace has its own life outside. You have to feed yourself and your family, right. Then, the senior employees must have a "say" or a leader on your workplace. If your a newbie, then you must follow their whims and caprices on the workplace. That's the truth in every corner of the world. You have to be with them, know their weaknesses and strengths, in that way you can "push" them with their weaknesses, and little by little they will broaden their friendship to you. Giant companies have their own system and procedures, to promote their employees or giving credit where credit is due. Another way is to report your good deeds in the workplace to your superior. But, show them that you're brave. Don't allow them to overcome you. You have the right to be there because you can do whatever job there. And, you know how to evaluate jobs for satisfaction. Dissatisfied workers are not efficient with their job. So, lift up your self-esteem and be brave to confront them, that you are for what you are. there's a saying that, if the kitchen is too hot, go out and find a place to comfort your needs. Thank you for allowing me to answer this valuable question of yours.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Hello FX777222999. I think what you're referring to is office politics. I agree with you that every workplace has it's own version of it. And it is up to the employees to weave their way into this and promote their existence. But politics or not, there should still be a level of appreciation promoted within the ranks. To improve morale and the quality of work. Thanks.
@thesids (22367)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Jan 11
Hi bounce, Sometimes? I can say that many a times... I worked most of my career as a computer trainer and trust me teaching is one of the most unappreciated jobs many a times here. The places(organizations) are after money and they know as a teacher you cannot be someone who would earn for them because they have strict guidelines to implement while taking classes... This at times does become a problem as the students have different levels of understanding and need a different kind of attention. I won the hearts of the students all throughout but always failed to keep the management and the organization happy... But I never cared as I believe as a Trainer my duty is more towards my profession and students rather than the non-responding and non-appreciating management. This is one of the reasons I kept changing jobs every 3-4 years. Now I stay and teach at home and also work from home.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
I think that is very difficult to reconcile. The objectives of teaching and imparting knowledge, and the goals of corporate/management to cut costs. I've been in a few of those discussions where it is clearly defined which activities are non-value-addition to whatever products they are churning out. So teaching falls really low on the importance scale. Thanks.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I think a lot of us have felt unappreciated in our jobs at one time or another. sometimes a little encourage for a job well done is something we feel we deserve. Never feeling the support we should get at work can bring us down quickly. then it takes so much more to lift us back up.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
I completely agree! Little words of encouragement, specially if given at the right time, can really do wonders to boost our ego. Or bring our morale up at work. The same way it is hard to adjust if negativity(unappreciation) is expressed for the quality of your work. Thanks.
• India
26 Jan 11
Initial stages I would feel very disappointed when my work was not appreciated. Thats during the initial stages when you join a company newly and in front of you others are appreciated. But now I dont bother more, because I know what I do and I am perfectly satisfied with the work I do.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
I could understand that for new employees! The first few months are a 'feeling-out-period'. I think one works hard to prove that they deserve being hired by the company. Appreciation wouldn't be necessary as it is the new hire's responsibility to find his/her place in the company. Thanks.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
26 Jan 11
HI dear, I am with a group of nearly 150 people with a department and a whole group with more than 2000 member around. I am having more than 15 years in the same field where I am working and I never get unappreciated comments from anybody. In our company, quality as the best tag and we all make sure of it. Also, as per our work, it is a process of 4-5 level reviews and when any papers reach for signature would be totally error free and that is the nature of work with us. Everyone make sure that their part is completed error free and by which the next level goes independently. Knowledge sharing and support is another methodology so that the working environment is highly pleasing and that is the reason why I don't prefer to have a change in my job for so long. However, periodic appraisals and evaluations are there for confirmation. I have never faced such a situation because I know what I need to do and I will make sure that I have done my job perfect and I won't give a chance to someone else to comment bad remark on my job and also I used to get supportive 'thanks a million, good job, well done, nice work etc. Though it is mere a complement, it makes us more confident and complete the work with ease and an appealing finishing. Thank-s
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Hello thanks1961. I think timely compliments like these, specially if given at the right time, could go a long way in boosting our egos. Or bring us up when we get frustrated. And could even push us to work even harder. Thanks.
@patgco22 (35)
• South Africa
26 Jan 11
I am working as a government employee, who started working in 1992 but even today no one appreciates or appreciated anything I ever do. I used to work after hours, during week-ends, and see that everything is perfect. If there is any percents that needs to be given to employees, I was and always the last to get, by demanding or asking questions, but to get like others its hard its been years now. When you are doing something even if you are doing it at home, somebody should appreciate, because you made efforts and sacrifies. Being not appreciated is making you down, feel unwanted, demotivated and wish you can quit your job and get a better one, where you can be apreciated.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
I know somebody who used to work for the government. It was a thankless job. Like you said, it didn't matter if he worked hard extra, because their increases were mandated. He'd get the same as another one who only work half-heartedly. And not only do they get no appreciation for their work, they also get disrespected most of the time. Thanks and welcome to myLot.
@TrvlArrngr (4058)
• United States
26 Jan 11
It's a part of life. You will always have jobs where you do not feel appreciated or where you have co-workers you don't like. Try to work for companies where you like the perks. I like to travel so I went into the travel industry. I started out doing data entry which you can do for any type of company but I wanted to at least like the perks. It is something my mom told me before I was old enough to work and it always stuck with me. Good luck.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Oh how I wish I could also get into the travel industry! I also get to travel because of work, but it's only to industrial places. Not really tourist destinations. I've been trying to get out, and go to someplace with better perks, but to no avail.
@trader22 (233)
• Jamaica
26 Jan 11
Well I don't work as yet but i know people who like you. All I can say is that you have to keep faith. If you able to move do so. But if you feel like you belong there ride it out. Don't you will be rewarded for your work.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
Hello trader22. Thanks for the advice. I'd been riding it out on this job for almost 5 years now. It's not all bad everyday, it's just some days you really feel it. That there might be other alternatives out there. But knowing how difficult it is out there, I shouldn't really complain.
@wilmscz (104)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
i hope, someday that i won't need to work for anyone anymore, just like most of the others here, were we really worked hard and get nothing is return to make us feel appreciated, and most of all not well compensated.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
It is a bit sad sometimes that there aren't really enough jobs out there where all of us that really work hard, and are really deserving find the right job to get compensated well. And a little bit appreciated too. It's just the reality of life. Thanks and welcome to myLot.
@r4v3n_ (178)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I feel the same. But not in work because im still a student. I mean i feel unappreciated sometimes that i did all i can do for a certain project but still they don't appreciate what i've done. So sometimes i feel so worthless i just go home and spend the rest of my day in front of the laptop.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
That's tough! I know being a student is really hard. Specially in college where you have to be in groups to work on projects and get the same grade for the group. It seems like no matter how hard you work, the grade you get is not worth it. Thanks r4v3n_!
• United States
26 Jan 11
At my last job I worked my tootsies off and although paid well and salary upgrades were good, I did however got the overload of more and more work on a daily basis. There many times that I was volunteered for certain events and no one bothered to ask, it gave me the sense that I was unappreciated as although I could do a great job at it, it was as if they did not appreciate me as a person but more like a slave.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 11
I could definitely relate to being volunteered without being asked! At first I was a bit flattered that they thought of me. Maybe they had so much confidence in me that I was the only thought of for that job. And then it happens more than a few times, and you realize that maybe you're a 'slave'.