is it natural to people being user?

@fabjonah (140)
Philippines
January 26, 2011 6:05am CST
im just wondering why most people just go to you for something... if they have nothing to get from you, they're nowhere to be found. is it a natural behavior of people?
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@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
I don't think it's a natural way for a person to be a user. Some can be one because of circumstances they're in. There's a story i want to share for this really happened. A friend pay a visit to his long time friend and was welcomed by the entire family. He was given a good dinner and a good bed for that night. When the family woke up the next morning,the visitor friend was nowhere to be found. He left taking a precious ornament the family own. Of course the family was broken-hearted and they learn that the friend had used them for his own evil thing. Years passed and they have forgotten the incident when a man came to their house bringing them a good fortune. They learn that the man is a lawyer working under the forgotten user friend who left a will paying back what he has taken from them years ago and asking for their forgiveness. In his letter he told them that he was forced to take the ornament in order to finance a his business. This story reminds us to always give the benefit of the doubts to our friend.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Yes, i think it is natural for men to be selfish. It is innate to men to become a user and selfish. I have a friend and classmate then and she only knows you when she needs something from you. Whenever you need them, they are nowhere to be found. Or say, I cannot help you.
@jordq7 (576)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Hi there fabjonah!!! I don't think being a user is a common characteristic of any person.There maybe some factors in life that forces them to act this way.Life may not have been easy for them that they have learned that in order to survive they must use others.There can be many reasons why a person shows this kind of attitude.It is really hard to tell what are those reasons coz each of us have different way of facing life's trials. Maybe if ever I should come across a person who possess this kind of attitude what I will do is to try to just understand that person.I don't want to be judgmental and as much as possible I don't want to hurt anybody in any way.Just try to be more forgiving but not in the point that you'll let them abuse you.There should always be limits.