Internet dating, does it really work?

India
January 26, 2011 8:54pm CST
Internet love has its own advantages and disadvantages? Do you think it can work? Your views please....
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@vathsala30 (3723)
• India
27 Jan 11
Love is a sensitive feeling emitted from our heart whether it is online or offline. Only thing is we must select the partner correctly and carefully. We should not involve totally with them blindly which may lead to so many problems and heartaches. Definitely it will work, if the person selected is legit and really loves us
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@Jotomy (6352)
• India
27 Jan 11
hi vathsala, why people will have this through the net, if personally will be nice and real i feel, is it. I feel most of the net friendship etc., are fake, what do you say?
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• India
27 Jan 11
Hi Jo It happens and can not be made. It will work out for some people and not for some other. Personally is definitely nice and real but chances of physical intimacy will also be there which may sometimes leads to unwanted embarassments. I agree that most of the net friendship is only for timepass and not real.
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• Germany
27 Jan 11
I disagree with you vathsala dear. Physical attraction is also playing an important role in love affair from the time of Adam and Eva. In internet love that is missing. I was a 17 years girl seeing through my window. My hubby was 20 years old. Very young and very smart with well structured physique. He was walking along the street with an arm cut T-shirt. just two minutes screen shot. It deeply got into my deep mind. till now I remember that seen colorfully. Now he is reaching his fifty. No young and not having a strong young physique. But still still I remember the two minutes seen every day. After that so many ups and downs happened in between us. But the seen which impressed my young age, is still fresh. In internet love there can be no happiness like this. and where to go for a sweet remembrance in the old age. I totally disagree with net love. some thing wrong there. out of nature.
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
27 Jan 11
Hi anna, i have no idea about this, so i just reading all the discussions and knowing about it, and also thinking why people will opt for such unreality also unbelievable things.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
hello Jo, There are lots of unbelievable things,and internet affair is one of it. But for people who believes in it and has proven and made it real,it's not impossible at all. Have a nice day dear
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
28 Jan 11
Hi dear, yeah may be.
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• India
29 Jan 11
Hi jo and jai,It is possible for jaiho and sadly impossible for vijayanths. Of course it is a big fun for many. I think many are chatting just for fun, not serious,this is my experience.
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@reneezoso (393)
• India
27 Jan 11
well internet love is virtual...and it success rate is less than 10%.. u end up talking to the computer and nothing comes out of it ..yeah sure there are exception..it sure a good place to make new friends..but c'mon...gettin a love is a complete different thing... people try to impersonate characteristics which they dont have..and try to make them as cool as possible..and meeting face 2 face only removes this illusion..so i strongly disapproves of Internet Love
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• India
27 Jan 11
very well said, reneezoso, I agree with all your points. I think the success rate you said seems to be right.Of course, there are a few successes of internet love but exceptions can't be taken as samples. Thanks.
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• India
27 Jan 11
most f those exceptions.. i know of..met after one week of internet chatting..and are going on pretty well... so its not that bad as it sounds...:) :) ... are you falling for someone on the internet (just kidding ) :P :P :
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• United States
27 Jan 11
Well like any form of dating it has it's ups and downs, as internet dating is no different then a person was to meet in a grocery store. As you really do not know the person at all, as it takes time to really get to know the real person. The only thing I can suggest with any type of internet dating is not divulge too much personal information until they meet and get comfortable with one another and to be sure the day they meet they do so during the day and in public, for safety reasons. If you compare my second paragraph with perhaps meeting someone in a grocery store, you still would do the same as no one should ever divulge information and or meet without knowing the person first.
• India
30 Jan 11
you are right hardworkinggurl, it is better not to reveal personal details until we know very well about the person. Of course some people are successful in online dating. But I think the success rate will be pretty low, this is my opinion.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Yes, i think theres more disadvantages than advantages. First you don't really see the person, he can post a picture but how would you know if it is really him. Second, the chance of knowing him better is very limited. You cannot know his family and personal background. Though there are successful online relationship but very few.
• India
27 Jan 11
Yes, triplejazzm51 , there are too many disadvantages in Internet dating. We can rely on the details they give online. They may be true or fake. It takes a lot of time to know about the real facts of the other online.
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• United States
28 Jan 11
Honestly, I have never tried it, since I didn't have the necessary means for it. But I have heard of people that have attempted it, which are normally with negative results. I personally think of it as a disadvantage, I am not into that whole internet dating. I would personally be afraid to go out on a date with someone I knew nothing at all about. If I ever had to do the dating thing, which I hope I never do, I don't think that internet dating would be the way for me.
• India
31 Jan 11
Hi, fabsprecious , yes, you sound so meaningful to me. It is not safe to reveal our personal details to new friend online. They may be good or bad.Until we are sure they are good, we should not reveal our details to them. The chances of success is very less, I think.
• United States
1 Feb 11
I completely agree, maybe it's just me, but I am very spectacle about the internet dating thing, you just don't know who you are going to meet now a days, my fear is I might meet someone psycho, SCARY!!! Makes me thank god I am married and over that dating thing...
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
hello dear anna, Yes,it works to people who are seriously looking for love on the net. I can prove that,because one of my close friend met her internet love last January 14,2011,and i am there to witness the two different world that meet at last. I witness every second how two people by fate and destiny found each other on the net and in real life. It depends on how we look at it,how we believe in the power of love. It takes an honest person (couple) to prove that internet is not far from reality. Even in real life ,there are cheaters,so,what more on the net. So,we can say that,internet love or people who are seriously looking for true love are much real than those real people who we met in real life and yet cheated us. have a great day always
@Jotomy (6352)
• India
27 Jan 11
Ho great then.
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• India
29 Jan 11
I agree with you dear jai. But the success rate is very very low.May be it works well for a few people like you and does not work for many people like me,lol.Jo does not know much about this. Hi, jo? How are you dear sister?
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@lala501 (1533)
• United States
30 Jan 11
I believe in meeting people the old fashion way, as in just talking to people in person, and not having to worry about people pretending to be people that their not. But I have heard of people finding love from internet dating so it could work either way.
• India
31 Jan 11
Hi, lala501, that's good, I would say. You won't end up with disappointment. Internet love is mostly virtual. Most Internet users chat for fun. They chat for time pass. They are seldom serious about the relationship. The distance is the main reason for the failure of Internet love.
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Well finding someone on the internet and falling for him or her is the same as in real life. As long as, there is honesty! Then you agree to meet up and get to know more?
• India
31 Jan 11
hi, Jacobus1919, I respect your views. May be as you said if there is honesty, Internet love could be successful like offline love. Yes, if there is honesty when they meet in person, there won't be any disappointments. They can have a successful relationship too.
@dodo19 (33037)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
28 Jan 11
I don't really have any personal experience with this type of dating. So, I'm not really familiar with the advantages and disadvantages. But I do think that internet dating can work.
• India
31 Jan 11
hi, dodo19 I think you can't comment much on this topic. I think I am also not so eligible to talk about this topic as I also don't have much online chatting experience so far. May be I don't have the interest in online chatting. But I have a few online friends, we don't chat much. Once in a year or so , we chat,lol.
@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jan 11
vijayanths I would not risk it as you do not know if this unknown person is a good person or an awful person . One user here really got into big trouble as the man finally came to see here and they did not have anything in common . He turned out to be a stalker and drove her nuts till her father had to report him to the police and take out a restraining order against him. they finally had to move so the awful man would not know where she lived. I would not trust a love relationship over the net at all.better to meet in the flesh and get to kmow the other person.
• India
31 Jan 11
Hatley, I also have the same view on this topic. I can't believe what people say on Internet chatting. May be they speak truth, may be they don't. Usually they hide many things-they hide their weak points and highlight their plus points. Mostly their aim is to have fun and not to get into a serious relationship. this is my experience.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
27 Jan 11
Hi sweetie. Is there any difference between real meetings and online? I don't think so. I have met someone online and as long as there are mutual trust, respect and love it can work like any other relationship. You get to know one another like in the real world. Only difference is the distance in most cases. A lot have worked thru that and are happy together. I honestly don't see any difference in it. TATA.
• India
31 Jan 11
Oh sweetie, I understand your views but still I can't accept this. May be I had bitter experience or did n't try enough to understand about Internet dating/love. I frankly admit that I don't have much experience in this. May be I am not for this stuff.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
For some it works and to others it does not. Where do I belong? It's on the latter. Well, not yet so far. But we never know. I am single now and open to everything. Before, internet love doesn't really work out for me. I still prefer knowing the person and meeting him.
• India
30 Jan 11
Hi, maean_19 , I agree with you that Internet love works for some people. It does not work for most people. I never thought Internet love could be possible until I got close to a female a few years ago(that time I used to spend some time in chatting), then somehow we both found it not worth and stopped. Now I don't chat with any one online.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Internet dating like we are just surfing some kinds we need to know and gather data that are needed. When we connect to the internet and begin to search to the people that we wanted to talk well that is the beginning of the never ending chatting every night until morning. That we call now as dating. Even they are not going together but spending time with somebody online must be a date. This is according to my own opinion only. It was really hard to have a true love over the internet. Falling to somebody makes us hurt in the sense that we need to believe to one impossible thing to happen unless both of you are really fall in love and had the plan. By planning I can say that we can expect much more aside from chatting and dating over the net. This is the exciting events of their life when and how they will meet. In short eyeballs.
• India
30 Jan 11
Hi, mods, as you rightly poined out it is very hard to find real love on Internet. Mostly Internet users chat for fun and time pass. They sometimes assume they are in love but after some time they realize that it is just virtual and not real.
@derek_a (10902)
27 Jan 11
I think it is possible for a relationship to work once the people have met and communicated with each other. The problem is that I feel that so many people fall in love with the idea of the person, and then when they meet they may get disappointed. _Derek
• India
29 Jan 11
yes, derek, that is what exactly I am trying to tell. Many people don't reveal the real facts of them, so when they meet they are disappointed.There are a few who are successful in Internet love too.
@Absinto (2398)
• Portugal
2 Feb 11
I don't think internet dating can work. I mean i can't see how it does. First of all you never really know what they look like (i am not saying that looks matter but we should always put a face on a person we know), second you can't really see how they react when you tell them something. i mean you could be sad and tell them your happy or many other things. Plus everything is easier behind a computer because you don't really need fisical contact with them. everyone feels more comfortable at home then going out on a date with a stranger. This could work with some people but i don't think that it is a very good ideia. Personally i would never internet date, i would rather see who i am talking to and see how they interact in person rather than behind a screen.