Baby drowns as Mom plays on facebook

@sweet_pea (3322)
Philippines
January 26, 2011 9:27pm CST
A 13-month old baby drowned while his Mom played Cafe World in Facebook. http://www.nbcbayarea.com/blogs/press-here/Baby-Drowns-While-Mom-Plays-on-Facebook-113612334.html I was really shocked when I read about the article. How can a mother be so irresponsible as to leave her child unattended because of her addiction to facebook? I know many get addicted to facebook,online forums, online games, social networking sites. But do you allow your online life to compromise your real life?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jan 11
hi sweet pea if I were a young mom again with a 13 month old son oh myGod I would not be on facebook if he was anywhere near water. oh how could she be so stupid. a child can drown in seconds.Sometimes I really hate facebook as people go so ga ga over it they forget they have a family and then disaster can really strike.I was a nervous Nellie when my son was a baby and I always looked in to see he was okay. in his playpen or crawling on hands and knees, no matter if he was napping I checked on' him a lot.No computer program can be more important than your babies.'how terrible.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
It was really tragic Hatley! Some people often lose their perception of time and priorities when they are in their virtual world. But to a point, that they would hurt their loved ones even kill them. That is way too much! I wonder if there is any rehab for virtual addiction?
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Found it dear! There is one in US called reSTART and another in London. Unfortunately, I can't find one in my country.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
27 Jan 11
Yuck, this is so disgusting and IRRESPONSIBLE!! Neither one of my kids were in the bathtub by themselves until they were five years old, and even then I checked on them often. Maybe FB should ban their games if it's going to keep popping up in the news like that! Seriously, the Internet is becoming more and more of a distraction to parents - well, to anyone,really. In this life we have a "me" mentality, what's in it for "me", taking less emphasis on responsibility to our families and societies. Mind you, I'm not saying that we all are like this, but it's happening too many times. My mother's heart aches each time I read this kind of story.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
27 Jan 11
I'm visually and hearing impaired, so if I don't see or hear anything, I doubly freak out. My daughter's 7 years old and when I think it's too quiet in the bathtub,I investigate, she's always fine, but well, freak accidents do happen. Same as blankets in bed, my sonis 9 years old and like to have the blanket over his head, I usually pull it down so he'd get some fresh air.
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@khalida (1126)
• India
27 Jan 11
that is so sweet of you. but well, i don't think banning the games in facebook is a stop to all this. an irresponsible parent would be irresponsible all the time. may be he/she will let the kid play in the ground and they can fall off a cliff!
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
It is really heart-breaking! When you have a child, you become self-less not selfish like in this case. It is not about the "me". It is doing what is best for the child.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
27 Jan 11
This woman should shot for let her baby drown! How irresponsible can you be? She was placing Cafe world on Facebook and that was more inportmant then watching her child? When the heck are people going to learn not to do things like that? Wake up people! Children are more importmant then playing games on Facebook! If you can't keep you life in order you should not be having kids!
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
There are so many woman out there who are praying for kids (including me) and they end up with irresponsible parents. If only I can keep the baby as my own, it would be an answered prayer.
@magenn (78)
27 Jan 11
NO...its shocking !!!its a sign of being irresponsible kind of mother. She care to play but she don't care her child. What kind of personality she has? She is not good mom and hopefully what had happened to her child will make her awake, think and suffer the consequences.
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• United States
27 Jan 11
You sound like a really responsible and good mother. If all mother in the world would be like you then children would grow in the better future! I bet your kids are very happy to have you as their mom! good job! hiha!
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
It is really what every mother should be. Mothers are ought to be self-less, not selfish. Once you have a child, yourself takes a backseat. It is not about "me,me,me and more me". It is thinking about what is best for your kid more than yourself.
@magenn (78)
27 Jan 11
If she is really got addicted of playing in whatever online games she must have to be mature and clever enough and think when is the right time to play by not putting the child/ren in danger. Playing( online games ) is not bad cause there are times we need break a little bit to make our mind free, free in the sense of feeling tired, bored BUT you have to be sure that theres no bad effect like:( your playing : child drown ), (your playing: child leave unattended) or maybe child feels hungry. Being a good mother think more for your child not for your own.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Aw. This is sad. How can a mother leave her baby just for a game? We should always know how to control ourselves in playing such games. This is a sad story. :(
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• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Losing someone you love is really sad. Though I don't have a baby yet but still being so careless, it is truly such a pain. Thanks for sharing this! I just read another story from the link you shared.
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• United States
28 Jan 11
the story is heartbreaking bt sadly not hard to believe. People become so consumed with their cyberlife that they forget about their responsibilities in real life. In the cyberworld, we can put on any facade and pretend to be perfect. In real life, no one is perfect and this sort of mocks people. The fact that the mother let her baby drown while on she's on facebook makes me mad. The mother should go to jail.
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@rowantree (1186)
• United States
27 Jan 11
NO I do not let my online activities compromise my life. If your 13 month old baby is in the bathtub, then you should be right there with that child and be 100% present. There are so many women in the world who would give anything to have a baby and it upsets me terribly when I hear that someone was blessed with a child and doesn't love or care for that child. Going online is something I do when the kids are at school or are doing homework, watching tv. When my 10 yr old son is in the shower I turn the tv down to make sure I can hear him if he should call out. Not being hands on with that 13 month old baby while in the bathtub is just inexcusable.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
"There are so many women in the world who would give anything to have a baby.." I have a hard time getting pregnant now. My first born is almost 5 years old and we really wanted to have another one. So when you hear about this kind of stories, you could have wish that God would have given the baby to you instead to an irresponsible parent. At least the baby could be in the presence of people who would love them dearly.
27 Jan 11
How devastating i could never get so sidetracked that my kids were left at risk to harm or anything but some people just dont have there priorities right in life and that is why this sort of thing can happen.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
She just lose sight of her priorities because of her addiction. Any mother in her right mind would choose her child over an internet game.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
27 Jan 11
We can bring everything under control if we are little bit careful of things. Most of the times such things are happening due to carelessness and we never apply required attention for things, which is needed in time. Even if I set for computer work, I will make sure that all associated works are done and other things are intact. If everything has its own plan and order, many such events can be avoided. Also, I am wondering what is there in the facebook so addictive. Ok, we can understand if it was around 5-6 years ago. Now we have everything around and people should get some kind of cense to realise the things. Some children are also the same way. It is something like a haven, while there are in the facebook. Unwanted publicity and misuse all are the reasons behind people are running mad upto facebook. I never spend more than 3-5 mts. with facebook. Feel pitym, what else to say?? Thank-s
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I am happy to say that I am not a Facebook addict. I can't even play those games. Why do you have to raise a virtual baby when you have your own child to raise? Why do you play on farmville, when you can plant one on your yard? I really don't understand? Or am I just being..old? As I said, facebook is not bad as long as you do it in moderation. One should know when to stop and take control of themselves.
@durgabala (1360)
• India
27 Jan 11
OMG, its really terrible and height of stupidity......one's child is more than anything in this world. i never logged into my system till my children were old enough to school. I doubly make sure i am around where ever there r when at home. this is ridiculous, why should that lady log in in the first place when she has placed her child in the bath tub?
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Sometimes it really is a great distraction if you have net access at home. You tend to get too excited with the activities, you forget about what are your basic duties are at home. Quite sad she lost her baby because of this.
• United States
27 Jan 11
How sad! There is no way that my son would be alone in the tub at that age. In fact, I still stay with him when he takes his bath for safety reasons. He is eight years old but only mentally four years old and has epilepsy. We are cautious with him. He is not left unattended in the bath and we still have a baby monitor in his room so we can hear him at night and make sure he is safe. I do go online but not while he is in the tub and I go to facebook but I would not neglect my son for it.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I had my mother bathe my son until he was 2 months old. Being a new mom then, I'm scared I might hurt him because he seems so fragile. But has this mother lose her mind? At 13 months, would you expect a child to bathe by himself?
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Whoa! Facebook is now a killer! I admit that Facebook is an addictive site. The most addictive in Facebook are the games. The games in Facebook are not just any flash games. We need to watch what we are doing from time to time. Like in FarmVille, when we play Farmville, we should watch for the plants that we plant to avoid withering. We also need to water it from time to time. If we are addicted to something and we started doing it, we might ignore our surroundings and just continue doing it. I was a fan of Facebook last year. But now, I am now bored of it. My facebook page doesn't load now as how it works last time. My chatbox lists doesn't load, the search engine is quite messy, and I couldn't like something anymore.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I think Facebook is not that bad. It is just that you have to do things in moderation. You should know what are your priorities and your duties in real life. Like if you are a student, it is your responsibility to go to school and learn. You can go online on your free time and not cut classes just to play your online game. Now if you are a mother, it is your duty to take care of your kid and you can do your online activities when the baby is asleep.
@lizmik143 (137)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
How can the mother be so irresponsible. Sometimes when one is so engrossed playing or doing something online, the tendency is everything in the real world is forgotten. But not this degree when a child's life or somebody's life is lost due to negligence.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Well sadly, it happens. You should take hold of your virtual life so as not to compromise the real life that you have.
• United States
27 Jan 11
wow, that is horrible. I think any addiction is bad, honestly most people are on facebook quite a bit but usually never as bad as that. that woman probably has an addictive personality and has had problems with other things before.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Mar 11
Hi. sweet_pea. This is so sad!! So sad! I have to admit that I am on myLot half of the day, but I never neglect my kids. Even when they are bugging the crap out of me, I still make sure that I watch them. I am not perfect and so is any other parent out there. This should not have happened. I would never leave any of my kids in the tub by themselves just so I can catch up on a game on Facebook. This site is already addictive as it is enough. Why play games to make oneself more addicted? This mother is a bad example for a parent. Surely Facebook is not this serious, it can't be!
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
It is really sad. We can really relate as we are mothers ourselves. Some people just don't know what are their priorities in life.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
1 Feb 11
That is ridiculous!... it is very sad... no matter I want to check my email, or looking at friend's facebook, I always put my baby the first priority. There is no way I would do what that mom did... I think I would be so... gee... I don't even know how to explain my feeling... right now, my baby is sleeping so I can check on mylot but when he is awake, I will spend time with him again :-)
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I think everything should be done at its own time. You can do facebook in your down-time when the baby is sleeping, not when you are to bathe him. It is really being irresponsible.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
27 Jan 11
My daughter is 3 and she still is not in the bath with out someone right there with her. I will not leave the room if there is water in the tub. I would never put her in the bath and then go play a game. I do play a game of facebook but it does not rule my life and for the most part I play when she is asleep. I do not understand how a mother can put her child's safety after a game. There have been plenty of time I have had to stop what I am doing to help my daughter with something. She should be charged as to put a 13 month old in the bath and walk out of the room is so stupid. I don't understand people it is all about them now a days and kids are like shinny toys that they wanted to have but get bored with. It just makes no sence at all. I am just now as my daughter is 3 now and can play by herself for a bit even playing any facebook games. Even then my office is right next to her room and I can hear her the entire time, if I play when she is up. I haven't played for a few days anyway.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
She is too caught up with her virtual life that she forgot that she has a baby. Why did they have the baby in the first place, when they can't be good responsible parents?