Family argument

Philippines
January 28, 2011 2:27am CST
How do you handle family argument? I just had an argument with my mom the other day and it was because of my bf. My bf just said something to my elder brother that he will give him a CPU in exchange to his motherboard and video card (but my bf have to check those stuffs if its working fine) but my brother said to return the video card. My bf changed his mind the next day but he doesn't want to tell it to my brother, and he just saying to leave it that way. I insisted to inform my brother because I don't want my bf helping my brother which he doesn't feel good about it and that he thinks that he will not benefit from it. I informed my brother about it and said sorry about what just had happened. Its my bf's fault because he was the one who offered the help and the idea of swapping, my brother just agreed to it. I'm trying to control myself not to hurt anyone's feelings. I said to my bf to return everything and I will just tell my brother that they will no longer continue the swapping idea but my bf will still check the motherboard if its working fine (apparently not). So my brother and I had a little talk and I kept on apologizing. I told my mom about it and she said that my bf is no longer welcome in our house anymore. I said to my mom that it is really my bf's fault but she doesn't need to do it that way. I still feel that I also have the right to decide who should not come into our house since I'm the only one who is working in my family. I said that my bf may have made a mistake today but surely he was not the one who cancelled everything but I am. I also said that my bf helped us in different ways and I don't think it is right to block him from coming in our house because of just one mistake. I do respect my mom but I feel that sometimes they think they're always right. My mom and I are okay now. I don't think I've handled the conflict properly and it became worst. What do you think?
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@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
29 Jan 11
Family argumnets is natural and it can't be helped at times. YOur mom is just concerned that the problem might get bigger if your bf goes to your place.Let it cool down and see what happens. Your mother is just thinking of your own good. I am also working for the family together with my mom.We really do argue at times. Don't worry everything will be alright. YOu are Just "torn between your bf and your loved ones" Always try to be in the middle to avoid conflicts.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 11
As of now, we are okay my bf visited our house and my mom seems fine with him. Thank you so much for the response. I also believe that mom is just thinking of our own good but sometimes I can't understand why you have to be so harsh with your words. Anyway, you are right that I'm really torn between my bf and family. Sometimes its so hard to keep the family together with my bf since they have differences in terms of way of living then conflicts arise from there. Hoping everything to be alright. Thanks much! Happy mylotting!
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@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
I know what you mean. Families go through. Instinct just tells them that they are trying to protect you and not get you hurt. Most of the time to much thinking of those things make you hurt someone without even noticing it. It can't be helped that we could be pretty harsh at times. It's give and take. The one who understands should give in. :)
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