how do you stop your tears?

@gfeef01 (537)
January 28, 2011 6:13am CST
what is your coping mechanism to stop you crying? Do you focus on something else? Forbid yourself to cry in certain situations? do you let yourself cry when it's safe, or do you bury the hurt? it there a ritual or thing that you go through to stop your tears? Or do you just cry, do you think that's a more healthy option? When i used to work with young people i could bounce up and down three times, say i was working and that held them back, and then when alone they could come out. now i don't work with young people anymore and i'm trying to learn a new coping mechanism. Many thanks for the input in advance.
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15 responses
• United States
28 Jan 11
I bite my tongue or cheek, or pinch something. The physical pain takes my mind off ot it. I really only utilize this during movies and situations like that, though. If I am truly deeply emotionally distraught I let it out, usually.
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@gfeef01 (537)
28 Jan 11
thanks so much for sharing. i know many people who try and distract out of situations. i used to bite a finger when i wanted to scream as a teenager and i'd totally forgotten about that.
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29 Jan 11
I some times feel like crying when my boss scolds me. After some time i console my self and try to be strong. In some instances we feel like crying. When my sisters husband expired at a small age, How can i stop crying. It's a gods gift i believe. When the tears flow down we feel so free, so light as if a big boulder has been removed from our head. Instead of keeping the bad feeling within we should remove the burden just by crying.
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• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I think that crying in itself is already a coping mechanism. After a good cry, no matter how bad the situation is, there always comes a feeling of numbness that's welcomed, at least for me. If something feels bad and it reduces you to tears, don't stop yourself from crying or try to bury it or hide the hurt. Allow yourself to grieve and to be hurt. Your emotions are valid after all. But do not wallow in the negativity.
28 Jan 11
Hi, gfeef01, if you wanna cry, find a safe place, and just let the tears come out. You'll feel better this way, then you'll feel relieved and refreshed. After that, maybe you can eat something sweet to cheer up.
@gfeef01 (537)
28 Jan 11
Oh great move...where's the sweets??!
@murtaza45 (173)
• India
28 Jan 11
some time for crying to here and there shouted for noise any time for me.so not stop crying and voilence for noise for the world.he is the shouted for very time for do you type matter very days.so sure tears for any time for there me.
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• Indonesia
28 Jan 11
I can't stop my tears, when they come out I'll let them all run just like that. After a while I'll try to inhale and exhale several times and that'll lessen the tears and finally will stop for itself.
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• India
29 Jan 11
For me sometime it is very difficult to stop tears and sometime it is impossible. it is real i am not joking when i am not at home and something makes me cry then to some extend i can stop my tears becuase i don't want to create any scene. But when i am home and someone hurts my feelings then i don't even try to stop my tears. I just cry and let others to stop my tears. it feels good when your family memebers understand your feelings and care for you.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
29 Jan 11
I cry when the situation demands but i make sure that i am alone.Sometimes i just control my emotions and do not cry.It happens especially when my husband is around because instead of supporting me and pampering me he scolds me and shouts at me.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
28 Jan 11
I just have to let the tears stop on their own. if i try to do something to make them stop, I end up just crying even more. I have to let the pain take its course.
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I don't know but it's not easy for me to cry. I just couldn't. When I was 2nd grade, I fell from the second floor of our school building rupturing my pelvis but at the time I didn't cry. I was just screaming in pain.
@vanease (23)
• United States
29 Jan 11
When I am somewhere where its safe to just let go and cry I will just try to cry and get it out.However if i am somewhere and its not appropiate to cry I just try to focus on something that makes me happy and redirect my thoughts.I feel it a more emotionally healthy option to let the tears flow rather than keeping all that emotion bottled up inside.
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
As hard as I try, I usually let my tears go whenever the situation. Sure, I avoid crying in the presence of other person or in social situation because I feel that it would really be an awkward experience to remember but I try to let it all out when I'm by myself. I don't adopt a coping mechanism or a ritual - it would feel just like being constipated in the chest if you try to hold back. Besides, I feel much much better after a good cry (besides being hungry). Though puffy eyes and computer don't mix, I try to find something that will make me laugh on the internet after a cry and try to look forward in the next step of my life/day.
@hlgmdt (300)
• Philippines
29 Jan 11
Hi! Crying has always been therapeutic for me. When I feel stressed out or burdened with problems and issues, I just let myself cry but most of the time in private. I just let the tears flow. I've read somewhere that when we cry we get rid of certain chemicals related to stress and emotions, so that will probably explain why we feel relieved after crying.
• United States
28 Jan 11
It can be very hard for me sometimes not to cry, especially if the reason I want to cry is something that suddenly hit me, and I wasn't expecting. I can feel tears well up, and try to take my mind off it by not talking, or changing the subject, or just breathing. Airing them out helps too, sometimes. Sometimes, if I'm really desperate not to cry, I switch my emotions. Get angry instead of sad, because anger can be more easily hidden when the sadness is at a point of tears. Also, crying shows a weakness and vulnerability that some people really don't want to admit to. Anger, though not necessarily true, can be effective if you want to convince someone that you're the alpha dog of a situation. I may be getting too psychological because I'm actually thinking myself through this response.. haha but basically I just try to think of other things to keep me from crying, or I'll leave the room. If someone pressures me to talk about it, I usually break though. If I know I'm about to cry and someone says "what's wrong?" or asks me if i want to talk about it, then I'll break down and just start bawling...
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Tears is a gift from heaven that you alone can control it as long as you use it in the right way. Tears is the extension of your feelings, it grows and grows every minute within you. It motivates you to do things into a new horizon, wherein it touches your soul to release the pain inside you. So, don't hold your tears, it's healthful and beneficial for your own good. Release them if you want, hold them if you don't, but always remember that tears comes from heaven.