A newbie's request to Seniors in myLot

Hi wje4site, I was a newbie too dear and I never felt this kind of treatment for me... And I wondered WHY NOT? I was a 100% newbie and was DUNCE... but no one told me that ever I was in need of clarification and NO ONE gave me the FAQ Links and in my 13 months stay NO ONE EVER SAID that my discusions was I'm so tired of answering this kind of discussions. Don't you read them? Ok... You will say things have changed and I am 13 months behind as you are a newbie... But MyLot and Seniors havent changed and they are still the same. If you find anything like what you mention, then dear, you are reading too many discussions around... and taking them too very personally and thinking that all of them are pointing to you. Buddy get over this, and realize one thing - IF YOU DO NOT LIKE A DISCUSSION... HOP ON TO THE NEXT ONE... THERE ARE THOUSANDS PER DAY AND... YOU MAY BE SMART BUT THERE WILL BE NEWBIES LIKE ME WHO WOULD LOVE TO NEED ADVICES.... I WAS UNHAPPY THAT I DID NOT GET THEM AT THE RIGHT TIME....

Hi, I am new mylot too. As you can see, I just passed the 100 posts a little. But I don't have the same feeling with you. As your first question, 1) Why you people always treating newbies as dunce? I think most of mylotters are very kind and helpful, I have asked some questions about mylot and I see some other discussions about mylot, there seldom appears negative response and most of the responds are meaningful and useful. 2) If you are not interested, then why you answer? This one, I have seen before. Although I feel bad about their responds, but may those seniors just have already seen so many of the same questions and just want to complain. I think we should forgive them. 3) Stating FAQ. I think there are many people start faqs everyday, you can see there are a lot of people interested in FAQ section and there are interests just named by FAQ.

Please don't lump all over the older Lotters in the same heap I spend a heck of a lot of my time responding to posts by new users and most of the time it is not the first, second, third.... time that I answer the same question. I continue to answer and help when I can because I am convinced that we NEED new Lotters. They bring a breath of fresh air to myLot with new ideas to discuss. I will not make the mistake of saying 'all' but I will say that 'some' new users prefer to start posting before they have read TermsofUse, FAQs or Guidelines here and have no clue what to do. Sadly they waste their own time and that of those who respond to them because the topics that are already answered there are usually repeated topics and for these reasons are deleted - causing loss of any earnings for all concerned. What many users, new and old, seem to misunderstand is that the only OFFICIAL information concerning mylot and how to use it is in the FAQs (and contained in the activity of myLot admin - GoAskAlice). Anything else posted by other Lotters, myself included, is only our own personal interpretation of how to go about things based on what we have read there and our own personal experience. For this reason when we say 'please read the FAQs' we are only giving you the best advice available - read it straight from the horse's mouth so that you are not misled by others. Adding Lotters and asking information in a PM is also advisable rather than starting topics but again, can you be certain that you are getting correct information in your responses? Many get things wrong regardless of how long they have been here. Welcome to myLot and realise that the majority are happy to help p.s. I neg rate plagiarism and abuse but not legitimate topics.

I have said it in another discussion (though not the same type), there are different kinds of people in all walks of life; that you just can't generalise a group. What I mean is that NOT ALL Seniors are rude and treating newbies as DUNCE. There may be some, but definitely not all. For that matter, NOT ALL newbies are dunce. Now, I have never seen those kind of discussions myself. And as most of the responders have already mentioned, newbies are treated more kindly here in myLot than any other sites. I still consider myself a newbie, and no one has ever been rude to me or call me a dunce. When I ask a question that is already answered in the FAQs, some members will point me to it, saying the question has already been answered. I don't take that as an insult. '"I'm so tired of answering this kind of discussions. Don't you read them?"If you are not interested, who asked you to answer them?' - Good Point. I agree totally. But then again, I have never seen any response like that. Stating FAQ - It is necessary. Like mysD mentioned, that is where the official word lies. I believe that most people who give the link to the FAQs add their own personal interpretation of the sort anyway. Enjoy myLot like we have.

Hello wje4ste, I will take the first part where you list you people to exclude myself. As I am one to always welcome new members to myLot as a beginning line. I have always graciously directed them to the guidelines with the hopes that they take a few moments to review, not for my benefit but theirs. See I have been here for 7 months, and it was not until my 3rd month that I became active. I although a rarity, wanted to learn the site in total until I became comfortable. Although my numbers say different I am still learning daily. Cannot begin to tell you the inspiration I get when a member points out something new to me daily. I have seen the responses by members where they harshly comment to go read the rules, and although it might make for entertainment, I see that even though I have politely told members about certain aspects of the site that they still seem to amaze me daily with breaking rules. Breaking of the rules, leads to lost efforts for both the originator of the discussion as well as the responders, as some responders are yet still unaware that it is a violation and put forth effort in responding. Then you have members like me that although I know it is a violation, I will respond and try and help you to understand that it may be taken seriously and perhaps you will loose your account, once again I put forth the effort knowing well that I am not going to earn. So if you look at it this way, if I spend 4 hours per sa trying to pleasantly help members knowing the efforts are going to be lost do you still think that I am treating the person as a dunce, on the contrary.. I am the dunce as you stated I could be on here four hours not care about newbies and go on and earn instead of helping, would you not agree. I am going to vouch for some of the responders who blatantly respond harshly as they have been in my shoes and were perhaps pleasant and for what I tell you members still posting referral links, plagiarizing, flaming others and well it gets old you might know. So will I always be this pleasant for years to come, maybe, maybe not or I could actually let the member continue to hang themselves and eventually the site will no longer exist.. at least this is my opinion. By the way I have only negative rated once in my history here and that was for a member who was making fun of a members English language, so not only did I rate negative, I sought out his work and found he had gone out for hours making fun of others.. so I so appreciated the (!) report button and you betcha the member was suspended. I am one who positive rates as we are all here enjoying a site and voicing opinions.

Hello friend... I am also a newbie but I don't think you are right at your 1 st point i.e. why all seniors are always treating newbies as dunce..I don't have any complain against them. But at the second point I really agree with you..there are a lot of user they say like that and only response for earning...But I also think before posting a topic you should check for the similar discussion. And at the last point also..you are completely right..I really agree with you at this point.

Dear friend wje4site, I think there is some confusion prevailing with you! I am one of the senior members of this forum. I have joined this forum almost since its inception! I have always noted that every junior member joining this forum is welcomed warmly with open heart and all the possible guidance is given. May be asking similar questions now and then might have irritated one of the senior members and must have asked to refer the old discussions. I think there is nothing wrong if some one said so, as we have search engine on the forum and we can definitely search if we have any doubts about the forum! many a times new members they don't take trouble to read the FAQ where almost every thing is covered pertaining to this forum. Without referring this section posting a discussion may not be a good idea, and I will not also approve it! So in conclusion I think most of the members here are very generous, open hearted, helping natured and are ever ready in case any genuine help regarding the forum is needed! So be cool and instead of developing any feeling towards seniors or juniors, I would sincerely request you to pay your attention to participate in this forum with an unbiased mind to enjoy this forum to the maximum! Wish you all the best and Mylotting!

Usually, I always welcome the newbie into our mylot. Yes you are supposed to read the FAQ. But the honest truth is, I am in mylot for 4 years and never have I read the FAQ..I have just learned the laws and by laws by just reading the responses and comments. I agree with you, that people can be more polite when they answer back, but some think they are the King, Queen and the lords of mylot and they usually respond arrogantly. It just shows their pettiness. You might get some negative ratings from those arrogant lords,but your discussion is not going to be deleted.As a matter of fact, I am giving you a positive rating.

I've never understood the thing with people answering discussions which don't interest them myself. There are so many interesting discussions around that I don't see why people do it! I tend to feel that if you haven't got something positive to contribute then don't do it.

Hi dear, There is no need to get downsized here. Without being a newbie, no one can become an older here. Even I was a newbie when I joined and if someone talking the term 'newbie' it is not to take them behind. Also, I don't think any one who have experiences over here would motivated any one and from my experience, they are taken care of all the newbies here. Anyone who starts with saying 'I am a newbie', I have seen that majority of the people started the response with a word 'Welcome to the family of myLot'. If the experienced members say in such a way, it is not because they are categorising them or separating by calling newbies. But of course, not all are like you. Many people who comes here for the first time and atleat for a week time, they may not be fully aware of the moving around with myLot. All are agreeing to also. Because, whichever site we go for the first time, it is not necessary that they will go through the entire FAQs, as most of them, are common in nature. But on the way up, slowly they will realise many things and mean time they will understand what can be done and what should not. Even the people who uses for more than 6 months also are not very well aware how exactly it works. The reasons may be any - they many not checked, informed, not aware, not interested etc. So, while on discussion, if anyone make a mention of some simple short cuts or common things, but we often ignore and such things are always should accepted with gratitude. Though it is not a stage to proclaim all, the UNITY & ONENESS among the people are quite different from other social sites, my experience tells all. If you prepared to stick on here, I am sure that you will convince all in the coming few weeks or months. Have a nice day and best regards, Thank-s

Hello, interesting questions. I don't think that someone take the new members here as dunces... I think that people are tired to explain and explain simple things which are written in the rules. The information in the FAQs and guidelines is pretty clear and says to all of us what to do or don't do. Of course there is always some difference which comes from our different understanding, all that can be cleared in the discussions. Why people answer to questions with I'm so tired of answering this kind of discussions. Don't you read them?" i don't know and i can't answer to you. Discussions which are posted with double meaning and can be deleted is something very bad for those who answer. I had around 20 posts deleted one month, only because of the structure of the discussion - not because of the meaning. In my opinion the discussions had no wrong character, just wrong way of writing from the poster. So people, who post discussions and those who respond, has to know the rules. Because that way our number of posts go low also we waste time with something, which won't bring earnings to us. My opinion is that every society needs rules. The rules are like the basis of one home. If the home doesn't have basis - there won't have home. That's what all need to know before starting discussion, responding discussion and so on and so on. We need a basis and floor where we can step on ... if we don't have that we will be lost, for me. Also i can compare it with school, if you like the example more - we have to learn our lessons here before participating. We are responsible for our participating and we have to know it. Good luck!

1) Why you people always treating newbies as dunce? COMMENT: First of all, it is common sense when people join in such site/account/online site.First thing he/she must consider is READING THE GUIDELINES. Because all the possible question is already been tackled or answered. I was in you shoes when I was new. So what I did is read and memorize the guidelines and rules of mylot before making or creating a discussions. 2. 2) If you are not interested, then why you answer? COMMENT: I agree on this, I have encountered this kind of response in my discussions.I really hated if the response is I don't have idea, I am lazy, Make a search blah blah blah. I myself, will give them NEGATIVE REMARKS if I will ready responses like this on my discussion. Responses like this is consider trash, nonsense or irrelevant answer by mylot admin. 3. Stating FAQ. COMMENT: I guess try to asked more specifically or try to wrote down on your discussions. You want more further explanation about on particular part. Many senior mylot user are friendly to guide you. PS: I don't know if I am one of them.

I agree with you, I'd like that those old users of mylot were nicest with the new users. I think that old users sometimes just respond that discussions asking for help, because they want to earn from writing, but they don't really want to help. Also, most of those discussions are eliminated, so writing more than 1/2 lines is not worth.