Why are you still single until now?

@kimian55 (121)
Philippines
January 30, 2011 6:30am CST
Why are you still single? Do you blame anyone for it.. I know people who blame others because they are single you know. They say there too good, some say no one is good enough, some just have a delusion that their so good to be true they are waiting for a prince in a white horse and give them a good time. Well I'm single and I say that their is something wrong with me. I never really had a prolonged relationship even though I never had a problem getting woman to date me or even enter into a relationship with me the problem is the relationship just doesn't last..just a month or 2 then the girl breaks up with me. To answer this question I'm still single cause I want my next girlfriend to be long term not some girl I'm gonna bang..or have some smooching time with so..that's why I'm single =)
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22 responses
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
I'm not single, I'm married late, (twenty six)and I know how people frown on singles. I think it's one's choice to stay and single hood is not a deterrent to one's happiness and success. I had enjoyed my singe hood and if fate allowed to stay that way, I will have no regrets. Of course I don't have regrets too being married!
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@keval32 (1099)
• India
30 Jan 11
Well, I am single because I am so shy, I never approach anyone for friendship not even boys. And another reason for being a single is that I am not so good looking..
@alokijon (665)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 11
Hello Keval32, I am sure you might feel awkward with my response because even though I a male, I still can say that you are not that bad looking. If the picture is really yours, you are quite good looking. :-) So don't worry about your look. I have seen that there are many not so good looking men outside there married good looking ladies. Be brave to be friend with anybody. What do you mean by "not even boys"?
@keval32 (1099)
• India
30 Jan 11
Thanks for your words, by 'not even boys' I mean that this discussion is abt being single, so to be "Double" I must have an girl, if I am not approaching boys for friendship then how could I approach to girls? That was meaning of 'not even boys', I hope you got me?
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
With me, it's the opposite. I am still single because I am a good looking man. This made me too picky or choosy in finding a mate. Since I am a good looking man, I am always looking for a good looking girl with good character, and with that, she's really hard to find.
@mythociate (15387)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Oct 11
I'm single because ... my injury makes me not-as-social as the average guy, and most girls are ... lazy-bums (along with most guys, but I don't want to marry them)---they're not going to go beyond their 'comfort-zone' (where they go during the day, and their hangouts) to meet some guy who they met on the Internet (which is where I AM social ) That, and my income ... it's NOT a family income. It's BARELY enough to support ME in an ultra-low-income apartment (as I relatively had to 'make a deal' with the property-management). I know these days a woman can't expect a man to 'go out and kill animal' to support the whole family, that she's got to 'kill a little animal' herself to keep the home-fires fueled; but she needs a man who can pull out boatloads of cash when the need arises, and I can't---not even on credit!
@margeryann (1853)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I'm not single but by experience a lot of people that have relationship problems and are in and out of relationships is that as soon as they are out of one relationship right away they are looking for another one and they get serious with the next one real fast. It is best to not get in a hurry. there is the right one for you. It is best to take your time and to not try to make a relationship happen let it happen naturally. Be friends with people and not do anything romantically with them. Let things happen on there own and don't ignore things that you don't like about people sometimes people don't like something about someone before they got together and just ignored it then it becomes a problem in the relationship. Good luck and have a good day.
@kimian55 (121)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
Thanks, I really like your answer. Let it happen naturally. =) Yeah... I think your right, you can never force nature to do it's thing. Cause I think love and relationship are still part of nature,..
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
30 Jan 11
Well, I'm in a long time relationship, so I can't say I'm single, but I was for quite a long time, and it was because, unlike many people I know, wouldn't just go after the first slightly-attractive human being that would happen to pass in front of me, and wait to find someone I would actually like instead. I see nothing wrong in just trying to be with a person you're actually attracted to, so people shouldn't really hurry that much to get a relationship and just try to be happy
@kimian55 (121)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Nice answer ma men. Your right, physical attractiveness is not everything but it is a factor though, sometimes that's what people are just after LOOKS . I can say that I was like that for a while...now I am beginning to understand =)
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
16 Apr 12
Mostly it's me, or my personality. I'm quite reserved and shy and I really lose my self-conscience and stuff really slowly when I meet new people. Also, I have a low self-esteem and a low confidence.
@RamRes (1725)
• Argentina
12 Feb 11
I'm single too, and I guess it's because I'm too shy to ever get girlfriend and sustain a long relationship. I want to be with some company sometimes, but my mood is not the best for that, so I realized I must support this. I can't blame anyone for that. It's my character and I have to live with that, for good or bad. Why can I blame anyone for my personality (lack of). I should blame myself in any case.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
hi, i am still single until now because i hate those foolish men,and of course i am afraid that after all efforts and sacrifices i give for that man will just turn to waste and trash....i have been in love twice, and gave all i can but still i am suffering at the end because they just left me alone.so i decided now to not fall in love again and be a single forever.
2 Feb 11
Each relationship that you started, the expection would never be just for fun or some short-term. You broke up,means you two do not get along. And after you been hurt, you will be afraid to get into the next relationship,cause you don't want to be hurt again
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
Appreciate for being a single as you say. It's not bad to be single since your not yet at the age of 50's. The problem being a single is that when your reaching the age of 50's and 60's...
• India
31 Jan 11
i am sorry to hear that,i am to still single now and like you i didn't have relations before,but i can say something about you,that is you are looking for a relation of small time but not for long time,yes i am sure,because you said that girls are breaking up with you with in very short time,it is because you not suitable for long relationships. you are not understanding the feeling of your partner then how can she be with you,i have lots of girl friends,who shares me their sarows of personal relationship and some times they even cry in front of me saying that "he is not suitable for me". so,sir if you want to maintain real lost longing relationship then first try to understand the person whom you want to be with you for long life.than you
• Australia
31 Jan 11
Yes! hahahahha muhahaha
@Messyrax (147)
31 Jan 11
i dont blame anyone for being single because its my choice to be single. i like being single ,, am not ready to handle a relationship and i think that is enough reason to be single. no need to start something that will just stress me. again i enjoy my freedom
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
So far, I enjoy being single. There are still many things I want to do in my life alone. Well, I'm just 29 and currently no GF but with flings LOL. Seeking, yes but want to be financially stable first before settling down.
@aris76 (13)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 11
I'm not a single but I could understand Ur problem. I think U shouldn't blame anyone or finding some reason. In relationship, U must be open each other so U can share ups & downs. No one perfect, so U must be able to accept the negative sides of Ur girlfriend.
• United States
31 Jan 11
I fell in love with someone who did not feel the same way, it took me a few years to get over them. I just havne't met anyone else I have feelings for and also I'm scared of that ever happening again or going through any heartbreak again because it was the worst experience of my life so far. I also believe I can be happy alone and don't need someone to date to be happy.
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
hi there my friend. i am sorry to tell, but i am not single anymore. i just want to participate in this discussion though i am not supposed to. LOL. i'll just share some ideas with my single friends and why they preferred to stay single rather than find somebody to love and commit to it. well they just had the same reason as yours too. they're fed up of flinging around. they long for a serious relationship. and most of them said it would be worth the wait. i quite agree with them though. i always kept in mind that "good things come to those who wait". they envy me when it comes to love life, they think of my partner and i as the cutest couple ever. my girlfriend is my reward for waiting so long after i got hurt from an ex. i love my girlfriend so much, and i think nothing could ever change that. i forgot to mention that these friends of mine are still enjoying there single life since they tend to spend more time for their friends and spend money for themselves. LOL. anyway, it's also cool to be single but for me it's sort of a boring idea. see you around!
@Ritmon (119)
30 Jan 11
i dont trust in love, i cant believe anyone...because i already broke in love,now my condition is now not well
@sweetgarg (392)
• India
30 Jan 11
i am not single ,i have very beautiful ,caring and understanding girlfren. so i just can say that its not any one mistake ,its just you didnt encounter someone who is perfect match for you . and i am when you will find the one ,you will not be able to hold youself and will definetely fall in love
@alokijon (665)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 11
I am getting old but the funny thing is that I am also still single. I am still single because I don't feel like I want to end my single hood live at the moment. You see I am just about to enjoy my life. All this while I have been a loser. Only lately I can slowly getting my life back. Before this, I do not have enough money to be enjoy. Only now, even though I am not rich but at least far better than the old time. I feel that I am just not ready to get married yet. Every now and then, people ask me when I am going to get married but I myself also do not know when it will be. Seriously there are a few girls that are trying to get close to me but I just ignored them. Deep inside my heart I feel that how nice it is if I have a wife with through thick and thin of life.