I'm having my exes number blocked so he cant call me!

@shaggin (35614)
United States
January 30, 2011 8:57am CST
Has anyone ever been in the situation where someone calls you constantly when you have asked them not to? What did you do about it? I'm at my wits end with my ex. He calls me all day long about stupid stuff and its obvious hes just trying to think of anything to say to call me and bother me. Tomorrow I am calling the phone company and going to ask them to block his cell phone number from calling me. Which means that if he wants to get ahold of me he will have to text my email from his phone or use his fathers phone to call me. I have a pfa on him until February 2nd and I am always afraid to call the cops and have him sent to jail so I've put it off. When I call the phone company I am also going to ask for a list of all the calls I've received in the past two weeks so if I take him to court to get another pfa for harrassment I can show them how many times he has called and that he is harrassing me. Then if after that he still bothers me I will be calling the cops.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
4 Feb 11
I think you're going about the right way, in getting a log of calls. You're just documenting it so that it could be brought to court if necessary. Goodluck! I hope things get better. I don't really have anything like that. Or close to that. The only experience I have that resembles harrassment in my case is an insurance guy I met a couple of years ago. He was persistent in calling me at home, at work, while I'm driving, on weekends, when I'm on vacation, etc. I had caller ID, so I just re-named his phone number to 'do not pick up' so I'd know every time he calls.
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@shaggin (35614)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I have not had much luck with this at all. To block the number costs a monthly fee as well as caller id. I think the number blocking should be a one time fee not a montly fee. I also asked if I could get a print out of the calls that came to my phone. They said they do not keep records like that. I know they used to so that sucks that I wont be able to get that proof.
@shibham (17025)
• India
1 Feb 11
Oh,,, its too sad that you are encountering an embarrassed situation. I don't know how to settle this situation yet i think you should be patient here as you were involved with each other years( may be months or days ago) but this time is only for to settle down. I hope and have all the wishes that you are about to come out from this event as soon as possible. have a nice day and all the best wishes for you. Have a nice day.
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@shaggin (35614)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Yes we were together for almost 9 years and married for almost 7. For him its hard to break ties completely like I have tried to. Hes obsessed. I called the phone company yesterday to find out how much it would cost to block his number. It will be either $4.99 a month to block the number or $9.99 a month for caller id. To me that is just dumb. Blocking a number once should only cost a flat fee one time not a monthly fee. Looks like I'm just going to be dealing with the ex calling ugh.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Hi Shaggin, I'm guessing that a PFA is the same thing as a restraining order? I had one on my ex when we first split up and like you, I was pretty lame in calling the cops every time that he called. I just didn't want to make things worse. In the end, I had my number changed and moved. I think you are doing the right thing to have him blocked and to keep a record of all the calls. I really don't know how creepy this guy is but I'm thinking you should let the cops know what is going on anyway...just in case and plus it will send a clear message to him that you are serious.
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@shaggin (35614)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Lately when hes called it hasent been him yelling at me or anything just calling me all the time to like tell me funny things he sees at work and stuff. With his obsession with me we cannot be friends like that. I cant have him calling me all the time. I've asked him so many times to stop and he always says he will and then he doesnt. Yes a PFA is a restraining order. It stands for Protection from abuse.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
That can be so annoying. You can also change your phone number after you have reported him to the police for harrassment. I almost had a similar experience, not from an ex, but from someone who said he was a former classmate in grade school. I could not even remember having a classmate such as he and he kept bothering me about a class reunion which was scheduled 4 months after. Everyday, morning and afternoon he'd sent text messages even if I was not replying, but he did it everyday---so annoying. Finally, I told him the truth, that I do not know him and that he should stop bothering me for he is wasting my time and that was it. He never texted again.
@shaggin (35614)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Did you check your yearbook to see if the guy even graduated with you? He could have had you mixed up with someone else. I dont see why he kept bothering you all the time. Sounds like he was a little obsessed with you. Sometimes we have to be rude to get the point across from people who bother us and just dont get it. Sometimes even then they dont stop like in my case. I didnt hear from him at all yesterday but the thought of him calling literally makes me feel ill. Since its monday I can call the phone company now :)
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
30 Jan 11
Hi dear, I think you can block the number from your handset itself. You may be aware that the any number which you don't want to come to your mobile, you need to enable the option and provide the number. Any time a call come from the notified number and if you block the same number, the caller will get either engaged tune or some other message (depend on the service provider). However, you can check this option before making calls to the service provider. I am not aware of all models and mobile companies. The phone I uses has the facility, but I never used this option, because I don't have any requirement to block any number, till now. Than-s
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@shaggin (35614)
• United States
30 Jan 11
Well I was actually talking about my landline phone. I cant block the number on that myself I have to call the phone company and have them block it. It costs money to do that. I dont know if its per month but I know its at least a one time fee to have a phone number blocked from calling my landline phone. I hope it doesnt cost to much.
@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
30 Jan 11
Well, if he is that persistent you must've done something right. But i wonder, what use is a protection order if you don't follow through when he violates it. You should call police and let your ex know your serious. Also, many times phone call harassment has ended tragically. I wouldn't want that to happen to you. Think about it and call the police if he continues.
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@shaggin (35614)
• United States
30 Jan 11
Your right what is the point of having the PFA if I didnt enforce it. The point was pretty much to keep him out of my house. With the pfa he was no longer allowed to reside in my house and that was my main concern. I should have reported his harrassing behavior to the police along time ago.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
Hi there! I'm sorry that a thing like this has to happen to you. I have experienced something like this but the calls were not intentional, although they did come from a single caller and the calls were not meant to harass me. I had several calls from this number and they were looking for a stranger (I forgot the name), they kept on calling and I would answer and say that they are still calling the wrong number. I'm using "they" because there are different callers involve, but using the same number. It seemed to me that they had my number mixed up with someone else. Anyway, I haven't had any calls from them recently so I guess they must have figured it out already. The calls were really annoying, specially the ones that were on passed midnight. Anyway, I do hope you get your peace too.
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