Why does it happen all at once

By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48803)
United Kingdom
January 31, 2011 3:32am CST
I am normally very careful what I do online Well a few Months back I paid to have a Software which worked brilliant on the trial I paid for it and when I downloaded the Software it was not what had been on trial I wrote to them and demanded my Money back 9which I am still demanding now) the same Company managed to draw Money out of my account without me saying last week and it was a large amount as it was part of my Rent money My Bank tried everything to trace it, I have written Emails which are bouncing back to me I have now lost half of my Rent money and need to get it together somehow, my card has been canceled and I have a new Card I will not reveal the Company just yet as my Bank is still investigating the Matter but at the moment it looks like it was from that Company Ok so I am dealing with this matter, then Friday Night I get a call from my Daughter who is in a very bad way, my Daughter is normally a very strong Person but it has hit her now because she is living in fear in case the Woman beats her up again, who beat her up last Year, some of you might remember the Incident Now this Woman has thrown my Daughter out for no reason, her Sisters have told my Daughter in the past to be careful her, as she will do it again, she is crazy Also there are Problems at work with a new Manager, who is there on trial, new to the Job and has no clue Mel, my Daughter and another Colleague of hers have been there since the Place opened, my Daughter was promoted to Manager last year and knows the rules and regulations, this General Manager doesn't So while Mel and the other Manger are trying to keep the Place together this General Manager is standing in their way all the time Normally my Girl can deal with it as her Job there is accounts as well as being the Manager but because the stress she has at home, the fear she is going through with that Woman just turning again and beating her up again is to much for my Girl, also she has just given up smoking I am glad that she is out of there but now I have to help her Money wise to get her own Place as she is not able to afford such an amount, the Deposit, the first Month rent and Estate Agents admin charge on her own She will be with me tomorrow for a week then she will be staying at my Sons but can only stay there for about 3 weeks as my Son only has a 1 bedroom Flat so it will be a squeeze but I will know the Girl will not be living in fear any more She was at the stage where she was going to quit the Job and move down here with me, which I know she does not want because of her Friends there (for those that do not know I live 3 hours away from my Son and Daughter) and she was angry at me for moving away from there 4 years ago even though she knows the Air here is better for my lungs and I am happier here, I never liked living where I did but well I rather she rants at me then someone else She did apologize the next Day, I told her not to worry about it I have forgotten about it, it hurt very much what she threw at me on the 2 hours we where on the phone but she got it of her chest and I calmed down later My Son and Daughter are my world and I would starve for them and I have in the past but why does everything come at once ? They say it comes in 3s so I am waiting for the 3rd thing, hoping it will not happen lol But while my Girl is here with me for a week we will be talking about what we are going to do and take action As they say A dog is not just for Christmas, it is for Life The same goes with Children they are for Life, being a Mum is for Life and sacrifice for your Children is Life, my 2 will always be first, their Dad lives in Tenerif so he is well out of these Problems, but even when we where married he never took on Problems so it makes no difference to me lol
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17 responses
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Hi gabs~ I'm so sorry to hear about all the stuff you're going through. And I don't really know the story with your Daughter, but it sounds terrible! I do hope that things will work out ok for her and she will be able to find a new place to live. And I hope that you will get that card thing straightened out too! It sounds like a "fraud" company. I am so afraid to buy any of that stuff without knowing someone who really knows about it and has tried it first. I know how much your Children mean to you and what a wonderul Mum you are and how much they love you too. I really do hope that all these things get straightened out as quickly as possible. Sending you blessings and lot of love and hugs, Les
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
7 Feb 11
Opal...with buying things online I've always tried to use a giftcard -visa/mastercard from somewhere like 711 to buy them because then if it is a fraud they cant take more from any of my accounts!
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Hi Sweetie Well I will never get my money back but at least things for my Daughter are slowly resolving so I am hoping that they will keep resolving Big Hugs to you always Sweetie and remember I love you @Saundyl That sounds good I have never heard of this but I am in the UK
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
31 Jan 11
You are so right..your kids are forever and we will do anything to help them. I am lucky that mine are all on the straightway financially etc..they could help me out if I needed it but don't. I am so glad all of them are doing fine...many years I did without so they would have what they needed but I wouldn't change anything...not one minute of it. Things will straighten out for Mel..it just takes time!
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Well she has found her own Place and will be moving in on the 28th Febr so I am hoping that it will go up for her now Jill I really do
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
31 Jan 11
WEll I sure hope the bank get this sorted and you get your money back. Aslo I know you will get it fixed up for MEl she is wel out of that place. I didnt know she was still living there . yikes And she will figure out how to handle this woman at work! hugsssssss and blessings
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
I will not see my Money again but the main thing Mel is slowly getting sorted now so I am keeping Fingers crossed that it will carry on going smoothly hugsssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
12 Feb 11
sigh about the money. but Glad Mel working thru this hugsssssssssssssssss
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@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Wow gabs, you do have a lot on your plate right now. I hope the bank can straighten out this money problem you are having. As for your daughter, I must have missed that because I didn't have a computer at the time. Your daughter, how old is she and why is she still with a woman who beat her up last year? You are right about children is not just for the first 18 years, but a lifetime. My son moved in a couple months back because he moved from his apartment when his room mate got married and he didn't like the area, he only moved there because his room mate did. Now he is back up here and looking for a job. He recently put in an application at the post office, that would be good if he got a job there, The other place he put in for was Walmart, but when he called a few weeks later to inquire about the job, I guess they were rude and said "Don't call back, we go through applications in order and when we get to yours, we'll call you." Now I always thought that by calling a business every few weeks, it shows how serious one is to get a job with them, but obviously not.. I hope your daughter can get a job soon, it's really hard right now..
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Hi Carmel She stayed there with her so called Friend as at the time she had nowhere else to go, I live 3 hours away But she has got out now and she applying for a House she viewed yesterday so she will know next week if she got it This Woman was also a Work Colleague of my Daughters They where good Friends and that is why my Daughter agreed to share with her, but this Woman needs help she switches from nice to horror
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• United States
11 Feb 11
Thanks for bringing up to date on why,. That is terrible her friend did this, but I am glad to see she is away from her now..
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I hate to hear the problems you are having and wish I could help. It will be nice for you to have Mel around for awhile. Too bad she can't just get a job there for a short time maybe for the summer and save some money to get her place up there where she wants to be. That way it would help herself and you. You would not be putting her brother out as he has a small flat and you would not ave to come up with money you don't have either. You must have your own rent money too. I had ran into a problem like you have with someone taking my money like that and I had to close one card and get another, but Gaby I never got my money back. This is why I am very cautious about giving my card number to anyone to pay for anything anymore. They simply refuse to stop taking payments. I found out from my bank the only way to make them stop is to put a stop payment and that cost money depending on what your bank charges, mine charges $15. for each stop pay. Good luck Gaby, I do hope you have better luck than I did and you get your money back.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Hi Moon You have done more then enough for me and even just being there is a lot But things are slowly getting there for her as I told you this morning so I am just hoping it all works out for my Girl and she can settle
• United States
11 Feb 11
Gaby, you know you are family...and if I can help I will. I wish I could do more. If only I could that would be so nice. I do hope things work out for Mel. She deserves to have some good things going for her.
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@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Jan 11
Oh Dear, this is more severe than I had thought... I am more worried about your daughter returning back to her habit of smoking... so much tensions around are not a happy thing for a person who has just quit smoking. I am also thinking about the software companies and until I read this, I believed that scams and frauds happen more here in our part of the world but it seems that the world is the same everywhere. The good news here is that your daughter will be with you and family for some days and that should keep things easy for her and you too... As they say, the good and bad have their take and the bad stays for a lesser period... I hope that your issues are resolved sooner and you guys have a good time soon.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Hi Sid I to hope that your Issues will be resolved Here so far things are starting to slowly resolve
@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Feb 11
Hi gabs This br comes to me as a sweet surprise and I remember the day when you had started this discussion. We both were in problems and the Issues seemed to be bigger... but we did try our best to resolve them and that means we are still having that "Fighting" instinct within us... Neither age nor illness nor anything else will let us down and we would always give our bad times a tough fight
• United States
31 Jan 11
Oh my gosh gabs, I hope somehow your bank can get your money back for you. How are you going to pay your rent if they don't? Maybe your daughter can stay with you for a longer amount of time, and get a job where you're at so she can save some money and get on her feet? I'm happy she'll be there for you at least for a week. Why is this woman beating her up? And can't she file charges against her? That's assault here in the states. I hope all goes well for her, sounds pretty scarry to me just like when that woman started with you about the dog bite. So many crazy people out there. Yes, your kids are for life. My daughter left her fiancee a couple of months ago and is staying with me. She will be moving this weekend though, and it's in an apartment right upstairs from me. We'll be neighbors, lol! I only have a tiny one bedroom apartment too and she's been sleeping on the floor on a mattress in the living room (I don't own a bed, I sleep on the couch). We did the best we could for these months and it all worked out well. My kids know they can always come home, no matter what, and there will be room made for them one way or the other.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Hi Kash I never got my Money back but never mind My Daughter has found her own Place now and will move in on the 28th she is stopping with her Friend at the moment You must remember the Discussion I did about it This Woman is not right in the Head She does not want to move down here with me as all her Friends are up there but yes my 2 also know they can always come here Hugs
@BarBaraPrz (18492)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
31 Jan 11
Poor gabs. Hope things improve soon.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Hi Bar Slowly things are getting there but I will never see the money again, but slowly getting my Girl sorted out Hugs
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@bunnybon7 (34480)
• Holiday, Florida
31 Jan 11
so sorry girl. as they say, when it rains it pours sometimes. cant she prosecute this woman thats beating her? we have laws here that you can use against such people and have them locked up. i didnt see your other discussion about this but, we also have a law where you can get a "restraining order" where they are not allowed to get within certain feet of you. sometimes people will still push the law on it but most will stay away. i think theres only 1 in a thousand men that care more for thier kids then themselves. so i know how that is since my 5 kids daddy's have always left such things to me also. these darn companies online are really scamming people. thats just terrible. more laws will have to be made now to since so much has changed to online. lets hope the superstition of 3 doesnt work this time.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Well Bunny she could have but didn't at the time because they where Friends and at the time worked together and when she attacked Mel at Work it was taken in the Hand by Work As she had no where to go at the time she had to stay there but she is out of there now and hopefully next week has her own Place that she has viewed this week
@AmbiePam (46919)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I'll be praying for you gabs.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 11
Thank you Sweetie I will never get the money back but things are slowly resolving for my Daughter and I hope it stays that way for my Girl now
• United States
6 Feb 11
Quite stress my sister and I am sadden for you as you are very caring and all of it at once is way too much. Take of you, so that you are able to take of all the others. I do hope all of it calms down soon and all will be well. But I do know what you are feeling as I have had so many 1, 2, 3's and they are so devastating as we tend to feel all the effects more then anyone else. Promise me you will be taking care of you as Gissi needs you too. I will pray all of this gets resolved and hear your laughter again.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Oh goodness gabs..what a time you are having. I have always heard that 3s saying and whenever my badtimes start rolling I am waiting on that third too. You are a wonderful mother and I am glad that your daughter has someone to lean on. I am hoping you have someone close as well...sounds like you are going to need a friend or two around through this time. Take care and keep us updated.
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@margeryann (1853)
• United States
1 Feb 11
It does seem like that at times that everything comes crashing down at once. Hopefully everything turns out all right for you. That's awful it sounds like you got scammed pretty bad. I don't know how scammers like that can live with themselves on how much they hurt people. hopefully things can be figured out so no more of your money gets took and hopefully you can figure out how to pay your rent. One bad thing financially can turn into a dominoes affect when it comes to your other bills.It is scary too trust anyone. I know the feeling on our kids becoming first. We don't want to see our kids struggle and wish we had more money to help them more then we do. Hopefully that lady stops being mean to your daughter , hopefully kicking her out will be the end to it.
@ElicBxn (60434)
• United States
1 Feb 11
ain't one thing its another, ain't it? I agree, once you have kids, they are for life - unlike the roomie's ex-sister-in-law who seems to think that if she's tired of them, she can just throw them out...
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• United States
31 Jan 11
Oh dear girl! When it rains, it pours! But when the sun shines, it does so brightly, so I'm sure hoping the sun shines bright for you soon!
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@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Jan 11
That's a lot to deal with. Is there any way she can keep the job, but get out of the living situation?
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@Hatley (163983)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jan 11
hi gab wow two big unpleasant things dumping on you at the same time. But you are like me. My son is 51 but hes still my child and I worry about him just maybe more than I did when he was little. at least right now he has two partime jobs that one week take up five days,next week three but he is just happy for now that hes working. your poor daughter,I hate that kind of thing, where someone has the ability to ruin your life. What an awful woman that must have been to beat up on your daughter. I sure know about all the costs tring to get into an apartment here its first and last months rent and a deposit for any destruction ot the apartment. as for that software thing is there a television station that takes on those kind of problems where someone owes you money for a returned item and will not give you back your money in your area.? we have one here in Southern California where one of their staff will go to bat for you and keep at the company til the company,fearing for bad publixity, will be forced to return your money to you.I know well that old saying but am hoping it does not happen to you.Maybe between you and your daughter you can come up with ways to solve your problems Wish I had a few extra dollars I could send your way but thats all just wishes. I can send some prayers that things will look up for you and your daughter. You know thats illegal of that software company to take funds out of your bank account. Maybe you could sue and get back more than the money they failed to return. I will pray that your problems all get solved without anymore hassles for you and your daughter. hugs from hatley.