I Want to Forget This Date...

Philippines
February 1, 2011 4:51am CST
Yes, I want to forget this particular date. Though to some this is the most memorable date that they should keep remembering for as long as they live or at least one of the most celebrated moment, but, for me, I want to totally erase it in my memory bank. Feb. 02,2007, was the date I decided to devote my love and my life to my husband and our would-be kids.But, things were not the way I expected them to be. And this date seems has no significance at all to my dear husband. He never remember this date as something important to us. (Well, maybe, it is not really that important.) No, there is no bitterness in me now. I've move on but heck, I just don't want to remember this.I think I am really a sentimental fool or I'm just too keen in remembering dates that have significance in my life.And it is a sickening thought that this date has something to do with my married life. Sigh... maybe, if I have married another man for real, I'd be celebrating it yearly with such happiness. You can not blame me, I'm just a girl who is dreaming of a little fantasy about love. Do you ignore significant dates in your life or have you forgotten them already?
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11 responses
• India
1 Feb 11
Ah happy to see someone who feels exactly like me. I wish to forget so many dates from my mind eurekafemme, not just one. Every time those dates appear in the calender, those old memories hit me up so badly that i feel like giving up. Wish we had an erase button in our mind to forget such painful memories. But unfortunately we do not have. :(
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
And it seems the only way to forget about those days is either we suffer from amnesia, dementia or worse of all, Alzheimer's disease of which I don't want to acquire sooner or even later. Well, I'm sorry to hear that you are also on the same situation that i am. But let's just hope that one day, we can replace the bad memories associated with those dates with a good ones which are worth remembering. God bless you, dear.
• India
3 Feb 11
I wouldnt mind even if i acquire those disease now, i shall be able to forget all the bad memories and make a new start to my life right from the scratch. :(
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
Oh, dear, is it really that bad? But even with those painful memories still clear at the back of our minds, it is still possible and doable to start anew. We may not turn back the hands of time but we can change our destiny. We can make a new beginning after we cut the life we had in the past. Those painful memories should be considered as valuable lessons for us not to repeat the dreadful mistakes we had. It is never too late to start afresh ,dear.
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Hello dear friend! Sad to know that you wanted to erase a date in your married life,am I right..your wedding day? I believe men are really not into special dates as my hubby sometimes forget important dates in our lives but I do understand him and he always makes up with me if he happens to forget it,hehe! I guess we both have the same habit of it. I'm not sure of the status of your married life so I don't really know what to say about it. As for your question,I really don't ignore or forget significant dates of my life for they are so memorable and important to me,it's already part of my history and those memories made me as what and who I am now. Take care friend!
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hi, dear. Eh, who wouldn't think of erasing such date to your memory if ever since you are the only one celebrating it? My dear husband is always so busy to remember this date. On the first year, I reminded him. On the second year, I reminded him again and his alibi for forgetting about it was he thought it was on Feb .07! OH, my! I think he was thinking of another date with another woman... Yesterday, he remembered, only because he happened to see this post. I left it open and he read it. So, early in the morning he greeted me, promised to come home early and planned for us to eat dinner out. His promises were all broken. He did not come home early, we did not eat dinner out and worse of all, he never texted even to inform me that everything he said were impossible and will never happen! Well, he was working like a dog but at least, he could have texted me... So, there. Is there a reason why I should keep on dreaming I'll ever celebrate this day with him and our kids as family? I don't feel motivated anymore to keep on hoping and dreaming.
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• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Well I guess if that's my case,I just have to focus on my kids,just don't mind your hubby at all,lol! Just kidding dear! Don't worry,I'm sure you both will resolved this.
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
Sorry for the late reply, friend. Precisely! I should concentrate on my kids instead. Never mind the anniv date. Besides my husband is what you call in our native tongue 'sala sa init sala sa lamig' when it comes to showing his 'affections' to me. Anyways, there'll be another year to make something memorable out of this particular date.I learned my lessons, though. NEVER COUNT ON HIM WHEN IT COMES TO THIS DATE. Sigh... maybe next year, I wouldn't be here anymore to celebrate it....
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hello Eurekafemme, Well most of the man in this world doesn't remember dates especially the special date it seems they always have temporary lost of memory you can find a rare man who remember special date on the exact time, everyone wants to celebrate special occasions in their life that's why i understand you maybe your husband doesn't have calendar besides it's only February 01, maybe he will surprise you tomorrow. I don't have any particular date or memory that i would like to forget because for me every moment is special even it turn out to be hell sometimes . cheer up! happy posting
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hi, Bhaby.:) Within the 3 years of marriage, he never remember this date, not even once. Maybe, because he doesn't really think it is important. Now, I'm thinking, is it really important? What's with anniversaries anyways? But, today, he surprised me when we woke up. He just muttered it's Feb. 02 today and I said, so?... He greeted me a happy anniversary. I was really surprise because I know him like the back of my hands. He will not even notice what date it is, unless, he has a meeting. Well, I guess he read this post last night that's why. Happy Mylotting to you, too. Have a great day.:)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
ahahahaha!really? is he a mylot user also?well life is full of surprises maybe he. changed after all just enjoy this moment. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY .
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Yes, he is but is no longer active here anymore. He happened to see my post because I think I left it open and he read it when he saw the heading. It was unintentional, i want him to remember the date on his own but there was nothing I can do. Thus, the happy- anniversary-hon thing. I was planning to spend it with daughters instead but he promised to go home early but he did not . He went home late. I can not blame him, though, because his boss is here in the country and the latter is a slave driver. I ended up doing the household chores instead.
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
14 Feb 11
Sorry to hear that your Marriage is like this. I am sure this is normal for you to wish there was more to it than this, and that he would want to remember and Celebrate it with you. Especially since you got married in February which is supposed to be the month for Love considering it is the month of Valentines day, etc. Just try to take time to enjoy things you two enjoy together and maybe in time he will want to remember and be more thoughtful as well.
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Unfortunately, my husband doesn't believe in Valentine's day. He thinks that the celebration of it is the doing of the capitalists. I'm not sure what he is thinking exactly, but maybe, if he someone else is his wife, he'd celebrate it. Same with the wedding anniversary. Yes, for the last three years we never really had the chance to celebrate it, like it is something really special. I kept on wishing and hoping but it did not happen. So I am giving up. No more hoping for something that's not worth it (for my husband's mind).
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
5 Feb 11
Anniversaries are a funny thing. A date in the past that we constantly mark against every year as if there was a great prize at the end if we get a big number. When in reality it is just a number, and the more important thing is the relationship at the moment. If you really want to forget the date, then do so. Don't let tradition and society dictate what you should or shouldn't remember(or forget for that matter).
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
hello, Bounce. I think the idea of why we keep on celebrating this annually has nothing to do with the number but the way it made us feel when we exchange the vows. It was a truly great feeling worth celebrating annually. Yes, I admit that what is important is the present but the past is a great thing booster of what is in the present. Especially in my case (long story). All right, I'm not letting the society dictates me of what is normal and what is not normal. Anyways, this is my day, not theirs.
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
2 Feb 11
i may not be responding to your every posts but i have read them, most of them. you know, i've been too busy with my little zayzay. one date that i thought i want to forget is my birthday. but i think otherwise. it was in high school when i met my first true love, i guess. i courted that girl for almost a year. she promised me she will accept my love when my birthday comes. and so she did. and so we were lovers for almost a year. but all our dreams end with nothing when she broke-up with me, a day before my next birthday. our first year anniversary. i felt so sad. i was too down. and even at school, in college, all my grades went down. today, i have no knowledge of her whereabouts.
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
Hi, Neil. Sorry for the late reply. Like you I was busy with kids and everything, too plus, I was feeling a little sad and lazy thinking of my own issues that I left them a little 'unattended' first. Thank you, friend, for dropping a line here ,though. I'm glad to know that ZAy has been doing well. You have one painful memory, Neil. That must be haunting you for years. I wonder if you are able to get over it....It must be very difficult for you...
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
This date you dont like to remember is the date that is very important to us coz this is our anniversary day church marriage. But the truth now is I really forgot this day and only i remember when i read this post. Now I know the purpose of my husband why he wanted me to go home is just because of this. We are now on 20th year wedding anniversary and 21 years on civil marriage. How nice to count in and the truth is he never left me to turn in to other woman. Maybe I am turning to another man but he is not he is still faithful to his promise as husband. How lucky I am coz he still love me in spite of my sins and being unfaithful to him. But i never turn left from vows. A common sense....:)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Oh, i'm glad that something good eventually happened because of this post. Here I am complaining about this date and yet another soul has been reminded of the same occasion. Happy anniversary to you, dear. And you are lucky that your husband remembered.:) As for me, because of this post, my husband was reminded of this date. But, everything he promised after he greeted me a happy anniversary , he was not able to keep. What was insulting about it was he did not even bother to text me that he can not keep his promise anymore.
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
1 Feb 11
Hi eurekafemme, indeed dates are important because they mark milestones in our life. For example, your own birthday, the day you give birth, etc. I feel sorry for you that your man did not remember or treasure the date, but not all men are like yours. I do remember dates quite well, and depending on the importance. For you, rather than fantasize about love, give yourself a chance. Get to know other people. Find something worthwhile to replace the date you wish to forget. Something happy so that when the day comes again next year, you have something to remember it by. It need not be as spectacular as your original date, but something nice enough for you to smile, even just for a little while. OK?
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Oh, don't be sorry for me, please. It only adds insult to the injury... Well, husband remembered and he greeted my early in the morning (He remembered because he saw this post on the night before our wedding anniversary). He promised to come home early and he planned for us to eat out. It did not happen because he did not only go home late but also, he never texted to inform me that he won't be home early. So, out of resentment (perhaps) or to entertain my self,I spent it texting an old friend who keeps me company the whole day, through text. He made me forget that we (me and kids) were waiting for my dear husband to come home....At least, I wasn't so upset when he got home finally. Thanks to that friend. He made me smile, indeed.
@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
1 Feb 11
Hi dear, Here there is an issue. As long as you try to forget, the more you remembered. That you may be aware of also. So, if you really don’t want to remember such dates, never have a mention of it. As you said, even I have my own fantasy about love, but bad luck, I have to alone go for it. I think in this case we both are in the same scale. I know that many of us have such memorable or remarkable dates which is supposed to be so great and sweet but turned to ugly or worst. It is our ‘thoughts’ that motivates. Even I have such few dates which I don’t like to be mentioned but all are not a personal one or not so touching. In your case I know what exactly you mean. For all girls, such date would be a land mark in their life and as and when time passes, the importance get dim due to our daily life specialities. Such moments will become precious only whenever our partner also have the same feeling to us and if not, we will try to forget about them. Sometime even I think of forgetting such moments. But I have something else as a remarkable one, and for me that is the gem and not the real one (hard to understand what I mean?) However, try to be positive and visualize the date as a better one – because in your life that can be the first of that sort. Assuming that make it precious instead of keeping as a dam thing. Thank-s
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hi there, Thanks. Yes, I think you are right.The more I try to forget it the more I will remember it. And, I think it will be difficult for me to do so now. I did plan to make something worthy out of this date.If I can not erase it, I want to remember it with good moments. And, spending that day with my kids would be great. However, husband remembered and he promised to go home early, so, we waited, but he went home late.. Another moment of my life has been wasted...
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
24 May 11
Hi. eurekafemme. I don't forget dates that are very important to me at all. I usually remember dates that are sacred to me. I am sorry that you don't want to remember your anniversary date. Your husband must have did something to hurt you, for you not to want to remember your date anymore. I am sorry.
@daiweian06 (1408)
17 Mar 11
Not a good thing to hear that someone taken for granted, ignores, did nothing on your wedding anniversary. It looks like you really love your husband and he feels nothing on you. I'm so sorry to tell you but its enough ground to forget him. Letting him go and accepting that everything is over is the best thing I can suggest to you. Wedding day is the best day ever since that is the day when you both take your vow and promised to God that you both do your best until the end. My parents are not good also with each other. As a child I know how it feels and much painful if you still stick on one thing that the other part really don't care about. "Don't hold on when there's nothing to hold on to". Think about what is best for your family. Be matured enough to decide. Always ask some help if you can't handle those things. Good luck! Good day! God bless!