Any tips to put up with missing someone too much?

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
February 2, 2011 9:09am CST
Hi everyone. For my personal circumstances I spend most of my time away and from and with no contact with the person that I love. I know that reality is not the way we would like it to be, so I have to assume it and deal with it, but sometimes it's just to much to cope with, and I get all anxious just thinking about that person. Has something like this ever happened to any of you? Do you know any way to ease the anxiety of missing someone all the time? Any help would be appreciated, and thank you in advance.
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6 responses
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
Hi,LightninStrike.I want to ask you:Do this person love you too or you have already broke up?It is importnat to know,because if you have broke up with this person..I can say that it is easy to forget this person.Just delete his/her number,throw his/her photos away and find a new girlfriend/boyfriend.But when this person loves you too,so here it is not so easy.If you are in different country and if you are students,so it will be hard to see each other because of the lack of free time.But you can make e date one per month.Why not?I think for a "remote-relationships" it is important to be in touch with your person..so what happen with him/her and SHARING.If you have thrust,you won't have any problems in your relationship. Finally,I want to advise you...If you love this person,do not give up....Do not listen to other people who describes like your friends and in the same time they advise you to break up with the person you love,because he/she is cheating on you or he/she do not love you but she/he do not want to say you that because he/she want to be sure that she/he won't be alone when he/she turns back to you...So good luck and remember..The distance between you and this person is like e test for your love..Hope you both will pass the exam :)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
3 Feb 11
Love is reciprocal, and no, no breakup has happened...the problem is that life often keeps us separated despite our will to be together...that is what makes this so frustrating...if at least love wasn't mutual it'd be easier for me to move on and get over it. And I will follow your advice, I have no intention in giving up :)
• Canada
4 Jul 12
Sadly the test was not passed. Oh well, such is life, right?
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hi. I feel the same way when I was just in college. We go to the same school together but he was from other place that is 8 hours travel from my place and he was older than me. When he graduated, he has to go back to their place because work was already waiting for him. I would go to their place only after sem break and that was very much not enough. It was very difficult to keep up with a long distance relationship, being away from him was like killing me everyday. The worst things is I'm such a crybaby so I would often cry when he won't try calling or texting me in a day. That'schow much I hate missing him. What I would usually do was try to make myself busy, but it isn't enough sometimes because there are just days when you are not doing anything and you can't help yourself but think of him. But really helped me, so missing him wouldn't kill me was spend time with my friends a lot and doing the things I love the most, which is palying RPG. That kept me from thinking of him most of the time.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
3 Feb 11
I know the feeling very well, trust me. And I try to do things and get busy as well. A good way i've found is sports, specially running. I can go and run 20 kms...it helps to leave your mind blank for a while...and it's so relieving. Thanks a lot for your sharing.
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
Love, love, love where are you??? LoL. Seriously, it's really not easy when missing someone you love, it drives one crazy always thinking towards that person. But then again, it's just a matter of time to heal those wounds whatever the situations may be. Just be happy & continue to smile widely, just like that monkey picture on your profile image, LoL :-)
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
Love, love, love where are you??? LoL. Seriously, it's really not easy when missing someone you love, it drives one crazy always thinking towards that person. But then again, it's just a matter of time to heal those wounds whatever the situations may be. Just be happy & continue to smile widely, just like that monkey picture on your profile image, LoL :-)
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Busy busy busy. Stay busy. I don't mean over doing it but the more things that you have to keep your mind busy, the less time you have to be sad. I think it would also be nice if you found a hobby that you love. That sometimes helps. It won't replace your love but it can help you wait if that is what you must do.
@my4tunes (64)
• New Zealand
2 Feb 11
you need to move on and try to complete the work etc that you need to do - try to concentrate on the present and not on the past where you are thinking about the times you spent with the person you are missing...it is much like losing someone when they pass away - there is nothing you can do to bring them back but you can think of happy moments and you can chat away to yourself, pretending you are speaking to your loved one but becoming anxious about the person is not a good thing to do - all it does is makes you feel worse about being separated and you need to maintain a positive attitude as much as possible or you'll end up being depressed, stressed or very despondent...
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
2 Feb 11
very helpful, made me think..thanks a lot