Too much confidence become a problem sometimes

@Suggar (3612)
Bulgaria
February 2, 2011 10:08am CST
Today i'm thinking about people with too much confidence. I don't plan to discuss why they have such confidence, because it's not my business, but i always was kind of with that kind of people. I don't know why, may be i was cheated in some ways by people who think themselves for much more than the others, may be i don't like their arrogant and at the same time naive attitude, for me these people got changed and bit strange believes for everything in life, of course believes based on their own confidence. How the reality changes for people with too much confidence? I'm answering to myself - the naive part is they start to believe that they can reach every kind of goal, the arrogant part is that they don't accept failure so easy and they start to look for the reasons for their failure in the others around. It looks like "I am able to do that, i start now.... " and at the end when their goal is not reached by them they say "it's because you (or someone else) didn't do his part of the things he had to do" I don't have fresh example from my real life, because i strongly avoid such people, i just can't trust them and always when they talk, i'm thinking for their words as double sides coin - it can be done, but not for sure. Also i want to say that confidence for me is a kind of mental drug - when you got more, you become more confident ... But when it's too much that starts to annoy and be bothering for the others?
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@louievill (19353)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Over confidence is a dangerous thing, and like what you said can lead to arrogance, non acceptance of failure and finger pointing or fault finding. Anything too much is bad because in over confidence you don't get to see all the sides of the situation anymore, it's blind thinking that success will always ensue every undertaking so you tend to overlook alternatives and fall back positions whenever something does not go your way or as planned, so definitely there is a problem.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
True Louievill, as always. I hope those people got someone around, to tell them that they are just humans
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• United States
3 Feb 11
HI Suggar, There are two ways I differentiate confidence. Healthy conscious where as we are proud of ourselves and believe within ourselves. Then there is overconfidence; which I believe what you are referring to, which is arrogance, know it alls and busy bodies. Unfortunate there are far many with the overconfidence that it does become quite annoying to the point of obnoxious at times.
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@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
Thanks for both of you, that you understood what i'm talking about. In my country there are two ranges of people - rich and poor. When rich people become rich for some reasons, they treat the others like others are their slaves. Which is not only annoying, but it's too fake, because those, who become rich drive expensive cars, spend lots of money wherever they go and everyone else is something less than them. But actually nobody knows how they became rich - may be with illegal methods or who knows, only they know that, but doesn't matter - once they got more money they are the most important - everyone has to treat them with respect, to admire them, as they've done something very very useful for this world. All they do is to care for their own comfort and life, which doesn't make them so special.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 11
Empty vessels make the most noise, haha!~We don't need to do self-promotion in that measure as people will know whether we're truly full of content or just plain empty. Many times these kind of people, by the words the speak they just give themselves away. Well, mostly this "confidence" is a false confidence which they try to use to cover up their low self esteem.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
Empty vessels make the most noise I just can't write it better than you, lol
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
4 Feb 11
Yeah, that's how the saying goes, haha!~
@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 12
Hey, thanks for the best response!~ Appreciate it very much!~
@lutphie (143)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 11
I think too much confidence is sick. He or she got a traumatic experience before might be in the time they were a kid. Sometimes someone express so much confidence to close their weakness.
• Malaysia
2 Feb 11
I could not agree more...Most people who feel overconfident sometimes express that to cover their weaknesses, so that people will be distracted and think he or she is confident about him or herself and not otherwise...But, I believe that overconfident is not good, even to cover your weaknesses, as it suggest that you are arrogant...
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
2 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing guys, i don't like it also when people become arrogant and rude, because they believe that they are more than the others.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
7 Feb 11
I am the same! When I was a kid, I already realized that I don't like people that are too full of themselves. Although I like confidence, too much confidence is a trait that I also avoid in people. Sometimes I find that for people who are like these, they don't have a basis for their confidence. And are just that way to try and intimidate other people. I don't like it.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
6 Aug 12
I feel the same about people with confidence - having enough to push them ahead is a good thing, so respect to all of them who believe in their power to do whatever, but too much is annoying and gets out of control.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I don't know that having too much confidence is the problem. It is how we handle having that confidence that can give us issues.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
It can give an issue with our relations with the others. Actually i like confident people, but not those, who pretend to be confident and when it's their turn to do something, we can see that their confidence doesn't have reason
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• Poland
3 Feb 11
Too much confidence never leads to something good.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing Ichinster. I strongly believe in that too.
@Mitraa (3188)
• India
2 Feb 11
Anything, not only too much of confidence, is always subjected to become a problem! too much of confidence is a case of 'Over Confidence' and it often reduces the safety factors for a work program and invites more danger! We all must be very careful for this and minimize thus the related problems!!
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing Mitra, i think the same and actually everything which is too much, is a bit dangerous. Thanks for reminding.
@echomonster (2227)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
2 Feb 11
Confidence only bothers me when it makes people feel superior to others. I want everyone to feel capable of doing whatever they need to do -- really, it's hard to be successful at anything in life if you don't first have that inner belief that you can be successful. However, if you feel so confident in yourself that you view others as inferior and treat them as such, that's unacceptable...and it seems like the people who belittle others the most often have little to truly feel confident about. That's because their confidence comes from feeling better than others and not from actual accomplishment!
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
3 Feb 11
I can't agree more - when someone start to feel good, it doesn't mean that he/she has to annoy the others or to think that he/she is something more than them.
@edb225112 (125)
• United States
2 Feb 11
Don't confuse confidence with personality disorders. Confidence means you believe in who and what you are. Confident people know their limitations. That is not a negative thing. What is negative is when confidence morphs into arrogance, fear of failure, egocentristism, and other psycological disorders. Avoid those people, not the people with confidence. People who are confident are willing to share their skills, acknowledge the positive in others, celebrate the differences in a group because they don't need to prove anything to others. They believe they can accomplish things and if they fail, they understand it was their failure not someone elses. Confident people are generally quiet people who are not looking for external affirmation. They praise others and accomplish goals.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
2 Feb 11
True, confidence really means that you believe in who you are and what you do, but i'm not sure that overconfidence is kind of disorder, for me the little border between success and selfishness is crossed.