first and last boyfriend

@attente (987)
Philippines
February 3, 2011 2:53am CST
hey. it's been a while since my last post.. i got busy with my studies and of course i got busy producing money on my own.. HAHHAH. kidding. well, that was kinda true though, got busy with my job. now, i feel like posting again here in mylot because there are so much things to tell the world.. and it's about happiness, failure, and hopes. to start with what we call lovelife. hihi.. the thing is, my friend whom we expect to grow oldmaid got a boyfriend! isn't that great!!?? well, we are really happy for her.. but i just notice that she's kinda paranoid.. maybe because she is surrounded with people whose relationships are on rough road and she really wants his bf to be his first and last.. too early to conclude though but i really find them cute and i can see them growing old together.. do you know someone who married her first bf?? i just hope that ill learn from this discussion that i can share to her whenever paranoia strikes her.. be blessed everyone! stay inlove for those who already found their other one and have faith for those who haven't yet! cheers!
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@toniganzon (50006)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
I married my first boyfriend! He was my best friend and my ally. During our three year relationship, we had several ups and downs. He was so jealous of all the men that came near me, i felt suffocated at that time. So i decided to give our relationship a break and had a brief one with another man, but then i end up going back to my first boyfriend and ended up marrying him.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
woooow!! very nice story! correct me if im wrong but i think you realized how much you were happy with your first bf when you had your second bf.. first love, as they say, is hard to forget.. :D congratssss!!
@Marmot (595)
• United States
3 Feb 11
So lucky you. Your bf must learned something while you gave break to your relationship and Happy to know your lucky love story~
@attente (987)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
yes, i agree.. sometimes, you really need space to see his/her value.. cheers peeps! :)
• China
3 Feb 11
I am very happy for your friend.You expected her end up to be a oldmaid?what a bad person you are.lol I have a friend who's first love going to be his wife.They start seeing each other on theirs junior middle school and we never expected they could made this far.Now they were graduating form collage and intend to get married a short time.The first love to be the last one is very precious.So let's wishing them a happy life forever.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
yes, i really thought she'll end up an oldmaid because she used to say that she won't ever entertain that thing, love.. instead, she'll work hard and earn money.. hoooodiiiba?? :)))) well, that's good to hear, having a friend with sweet love story.. but isn't it too early to get married? after graduating? :)
• China
8 Feb 11
maybe it's a little earlier than regular,but they love each other and wanna end the be more than six years love long-distance race.So why not get married^_^
@attente (987)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
yeah right. and if they really love each other so much, there's nothing wrong with settling early.. :)
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
7 Feb 11
I did marry my first boyfriend. We were married four and a half years when we separated. In our case we were too just too young when we got involved together. I was fifteen and he was sixteen although we married seven years to the day later. It didn’t work out for us and we both have remarried since and are very happy. I do know one couple who got together in high school and are still happily wedded almost twenty years later.. Generally it is not a good idea to become too involved at a too young age but it does depend on the people of course...
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
oooh. i see.. if you don't mind asking, do you have children with your first husband? well, maybe in most cases, if you have been together since young, you got tired with each other. but still, i believe in first and last since ive heard lots of stories about that here in mylot. :) be blessed!
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
10 Feb 11
I don't have any children with my first husband although I do have a daughter with my current husband who, God willing I will grow old with!
• United States
5 Feb 11
I married my first love and although I gave it my 110% he was not fully committed. I do not look back at what once was as it was not such a great time in my life. Perhaps I should be grateful that if had not been the way it was then I would not be involved with the love of my life for which I have been with for five years. Glad to hear you are back, so a very re-welcome back to you.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
so you are now with your second husband? well, it won't really matter to whom you'll be married as long as there is love and respect, there would be happiness which is the most important. be blessed! thanks for welcoming me back! :)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I am not married.. LOL, I live with my boyfriend for five years. You are very welcome and always glad to see great members return.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
You right, friend. She is too early to conclude because she did not control the mind of her boyfriend...
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
yes yes.. too early.. i think she just have to give his boyfriend a chance to let them discover the world of love.. if they are meant, they would be together.. :)
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
I agree with your, friend. She should be slow for not being endanger
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I love hearing stories like this. I still love my first bf. I think of him often. Once i sent him a brithday card and called him. He said he was surprized to hear from me. The second time i sent something it came back. One day while checking out the satilite maps i looked at his house and discovered the returned mail had the wrong address on it. Well, i believe im gonna keep trying to contact him.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
wooooww.. i suppose you haven't in another relationship after your first bf.. it's apparent that you're still inlove with him.. sweeeet.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
10 Feb 11
Oh yes i have had other relationships and have been married and had children and grandchildren but my first always come back to my mind.
@margeryann (1853)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I think it can work but people need to take there time in relationships because sometimes you don't know how compatible you are until you live together for a while to know if you can get a long with there habits they have.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
yes yes yes! i heard some stories where they are really happy when they aren't married yet but when they got married, problems on their habits arise.. like the girl discovers that the guy is like this and vice versa.. so they really have to adjust.. :)
• United States
10 Feb 11
and what is really bad is when people can't get a long before they get married and they still get married and they wonder what went wrong. That's sad but that happens.
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
My mom did and she expected me to follow her footsteps, but I have had 3 bf's already and she still thinks that I have had NBSB - No Boyfriend Since Birth
@Marmot (595)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I think a lot of us have relationship outside with out notice our parents, because parents may will intervene us. As far as I know, most of my friends have their bf or gf, and their parents know nothing about that~
@attente (987)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
DDAGUNO: well eventually your parents would know about that. hehe. and i know, it would be okay with your mother.. it doesn't matter how many ex-bf you had, as long as you'll be happy with your present and you choose the right one. :) MARMOT: i couldn't agree more.. i know lots of people on that shoes. :)
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
7 Feb 11
First and last bf? It's not going to be easy in this day and time, unless her bf is not young anymore. Marriage tend to be on the mind of people who are more matured and has been together for quite some time. SOme says it's better not to marry their first bf/gf because it allows one more time to choose who suits them most. haha =D BUt it's not a bad idea to marry their first because when one does not have the luxury of choice, ther won't be any comparison.. haha
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
HAHAHHA.. lol to the last line. and yes, you have a point. at this time, it would really hard to find couples who married their first love.. specially that temptations are everywhere.. hahaha.. though, i still believe in first and last... :)
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Honestly, I can't think of anyone that I know that has had the opportunity to spend the rest of their lives with their first love. However, I do have a friend that is now with her first love after a long time apart from him. They both have children from previous relationships. However, as of right now it does seem that their relationship is going well and I really hope that it will all work out for them in the long run. She really deserves that.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
oooh.. sorry to hear that. well, every relationship would really have rough roads. let's just hope that they would go through that road. :) be blessed!
5 Feb 11
I know one.This girl graduated high school with her boyfriend. In college, they separated. For more than 20 years, they never saw each other. The girl had boyfriends but never married. She worked as a nurse. Her boyfriend married, but they separated. The boyfriend worked in the military. One day, that boyfriend was wounded and moved out from the battlefield. He was transferred to the hospital where his former girlfriend worked. On her shift, she was assigned to check on the patient. She nearly fainted when she saw the name of her former boyfriend on the hospital record. Trembling with fear, anxiety- and all emotional - she went to check on her former boyfriend. Her former boyfriend was amputated of his right foot caused by an improvised explosive device. When they saw each other again, all memories flooded back. When the boyfriend got well, they married, a happy couple today. I should know, because that boyfriend is my first cousin.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
WOOOOOOOOOWWWW!! what a story! just like in movies! woow! well then,it means they are really meant for each other! sweeeeet!!
@minnie15 (146)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I actually married my first bf. We have been together for 14 years and married for 8. If it is ment to be then it will last. Tell your friend to live in the moment. If she is paranoid she is always going to be looking for the worst and may inadvertantly make the relationship go bad. If she is optimistic and makes the relationship worthwhile, then it may last. It is not good to dwell on the bad stuff. It only makes things worse.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Hi minnie! i couldn't agree more. i think the best thing to do is to go with the flow and enjoy. if they are meant for each other, then love would make ways for them to be together. just believe and love, everything will be fine. :)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Almost all members of my family married their first boyfriend / girlfriend. Yes its true - first and last that's what they call it. My sisters, my brothers, my cousins and nieces.It runs in the family. ha ha ha! It doesn't apply for me though as i have had 3 past relationships.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
oooohhh. that's great. it implies that your family are loyal or not into fling relationships.. :) though i don't imply that you're into it.. hehe. :)
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
4 Feb 11
I had no boy friend as such but for your information mine is the arranged married. And for me my husband was my first boy friend and the man who came in my life. It is he who started loving me and taught me how to make love.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
woooow.. if you don't mind asking, how did you got there, i mean arranged marriage? is that really a tradition in your family? and isn't it hard.. wooooow.. this is amazing. :)
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I haven't had a boyfriend in years. HOWEVER, the guy that we used to live next door to when I was a kid, married his high school sweetheart, and when I ran into her a few years ago, they are STILL happily married! First, last, only!
@attente (987)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Wooow! that's good to hear! atleast, i got some stories from you guys which i can share to my friend. this one would uplift her... :)
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@wilmscz (104)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
i've heard of stories like that too. ended up with their first bf/gf. i am single and never been into a relationship, at my age, some people are thinking that i might end up as an oldmaid. but hey thanks to your story, it somehow uplifts my spirit and hope, that someday i may able to find that one true love too. your friend is lucky though, there might be too many adjustment in her part since it's her first relationship ever, but that's all part of it. she just have to enjoy it.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
hi wil! yes, don't lose hope.. maybe God is still making your story.. waiting for the perfect time. And i couldn't agree more. my friend is really adjusting now since it's her first.. she doesn't know how to react on some things. though i told her, she just have to go with the flow. :)
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Because of such paranoia ,she deprived herself of falling in love, I guess. But look at her, once love hits you, you can not say no. Love is greater than those paranoia.:) Well, she doesn't have to be paranoid, love is an emotion and though it could be fleeting like anger, fear, etc., you can still make it last until the end. Love needs constant nurturing in order to keep it growing. You tell her that. I've known a couple of people who married their first boyfriend/girlfriend. Matter of fact, we have a lotter here who married his first girlfriend and they are still stronger until now considering their old age. Also, some of my friends who married their first sweethearts ,do not have problem at all. They are still in love with each other as if they just met yesterday.LOL Love has no guarantee but if it is meant for you, it is meant for you. Tell your friend to stop feeling paranoid because it might affect her relationship. Too much fear can ignite doubt, jealousy , suspicions and all negative thoughts about her partner and the relationship. She just enjoy this moment and let things be. Best of all, pray.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
Hi eurekafemme! I couldn't agree more! very well said. I'll let my friend read this so as to help her get over paranoia! thank you very much! be blessed!
• Canada
3 Feb 11
I am the first boyfriend of my wife. She's my girlfriend for 2 years, now we have a son and we're happily married 8 years and counting. Well, we have good times and bad times but its normal in a relationship. I think a woman who is paranoid doesn't trust her partner or maybe she caught him cheating once so her trust with her boyfriend was lessened. That's the only reason I can think of why a girl is paranoid, and maybe when some girls try to flirt with him..
@attente (987)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
my friend hasn't caught her boyfriend cheating yet. the reason she's paranoid is that almost all of my friends have love life issues like they caught their boyfriend having another girls.. my friend is afraid that that might also happened to her.. :)
@Messyrax (147)
3 Feb 11
its possible to have the first and last but it gonna be a long way for the two. i know some people who have been in just one relationship in life and they end up marrying their lovers but there are always breakups and they come back together again. i mean if he is her first then she doesnt have experience in relationships so you need to guide her not to expect the guy to be "perfect".. otherwise i hope she makes it in life with him and wish them a happy life together
@attente (987)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
Hi messy! first relationship is indeed the most unforgettable. Hence, when the two break up, there's a big possibility that it's hard for them to move on and just forget everything.. and even, come back together again. and i couldn't agree more.. my friend should not expect her guy to be perfect.. don't worry, these words will reach her. thanks! :)
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I think it's a rare thing. I wish your friend the best. I had 2 relationships between my 1st love and the man I am married to. I am glad that I had those relationships. It made me appreciate my hubby even more.
@attente (987)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
hi there! indeed, it's a rare thing specially that you have lots of adjustments to do with your first relationship.. and with that, there's a big chance that it won't work with your first boyfriend. good to hear that you ;earned a lot from you ex-boyfriend so as not to do the same mistakes with your hubby. be blessed!