Not to tell or to lie...

@choybel (5059)
Philippines
February 5, 2011 10:18am CST
I have just responded to a discussion regarding white lies and then a question just popped in my mind, "is not telling something a white lie? More importantly, if you hid the truth by keeping quiet, is it considered a lie?" So I asked myself and then I don't know how to answer it. A lie can be defined as something that is not true, right? So if you hid the truth is it actually lying? Can somebody shed light to this matter? As for me, to avoid having to lie, I just have to not say anything about it, but then again, if it turns out that this action is a form of lie then I have been lying that whole time. Whew! So, Liars, I need your help here. Just kidding guys!
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8 responses
• United States
6 Feb 11
You ever wonder why they call it whit lies? Lies are not of a color are they? Well I don't like to lie but in some cases it is necessary like getting out of work? L.O.L. Lies catch up with you so I try not to as much as possible!!! The truth will always come out in the end my friend so try not to lie because the truth is right around the corner from a lie so be careful out there and have a good day!!
@Marmot (595)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Yes, telling the truth is always the best choice if it will not hurt others. I like to tell truth. Lies make me sick.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
There is no doubt the truth is always the right option. There are times that a lie could save you or the situation at the moment, but as you said, it will catch up to you in the end.
@naija4real (1293)
6 Feb 11
I think all lies are lies whether you say it or withhold it. If you refuse to say it what about your inner mind or conscience. It will certainly trouble you and even betray you. The best attitude to life is to say the truth and when you do something wrong make a confession and plead for forgiveness. A popular saying goes this way " it is human to err but divine to forgive "
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
Yes, all lies are lies but if you have said nothing then you didn't lie at all, but then again if we define a lie only through words then remaining quiet makes you innocent of lying but if actions count then the action of withholding the truth becomes a lie. Ah, there! I am getting into something. Is this right?
@Marmot (595)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Keep silence should not be counted as lie I think. Or I am always a liar too... There always something we don't want to tell the truth for something good. So, keep silence is a good way to avoid the awkward situation.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
That's what I think, too but after starting this discussion I am now beginning to doubt that.
• United Arab Emirates
6 Feb 11
its good to be quite rahar than making silly stories or lying thats what i believe into but when it coems to judge lies are always soemthing dishonesty to someone who u are goign to lie with...
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
Yes, remaining silent could be the lesser between two evils.
@megamatt (14332)
• United States
5 Feb 11
Well at the very least, it is withholding the truth. Not telling someone vital information can do a lot of damage when you really think about it. There have been many situations where lives were on the line, where if there have been just a bit more information, if something is not withheld, because someone was not told, lead to lives being lost. Granted that is an extreme worst case scenario. However it is very possible that a situation like that will occur. Thus it does make you think twice about withholding the truth. The truth can hurt, granted, but it is better to deal with it now, to get it out of the way. So be up front and honest and to avoid dealing with the consequences of lying, whether they be small or rather large.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
I see where you're at but does withholding the truth mean lying? It seem different yet similar in a way right?
@06MLam (622)
6 Feb 11
I would choose not to tell first because it does not mean anything if you do not say anything but at certain situation you cannot do this because the person knows what you mean by not saying anything. Then at this situation, you have to tell white lies. For example, after you have tried the cake made by your grandma, and she asked you whether it is tasty, though it is absolutely bad, you will still answer yes because you do not want to upset her. And next time if she asks you whether you would like to have that cake again, you can simply say that you like another type more than the one she has made even though the one she has made was 'good' and you can make her a cake this time and then you can avoid having the bad cake. It all depends on the situation and how you respond. I think what I will do is not to upset the others as best as I can. Though in some situations, I have to tell them the truth right away because they have done something wrong or have made a serious mistake which I have to tell them straight away so as to help them to correct their mistake or avoid their mistakes in the future.
@msvice (34)
• Canada
6 Feb 11
I havent read all the posts so Im not sure if Im giving you a repeat. It all depends. If you have agreed upon something for instance if you are in a relationship and you have vowed and promised to be monogamous and you cheat on them. Well regardless if you confess or not you lied about loving them the way you promised. Where as I think that if you dont tell someone information that is really non of their business ot begin with then no its not lying. If they flat out ask you and you choose to not tell them the truth then yes it is lying. But if they dont ask how are you lying? Its like if you go to the gym religiously after work every single day and one day you dont but instead go for coffee with an old friend. Well you arent lying to the person who knows you to go to the gym every day that you didnt go to the gym unless they ask how was your work out. And if you say oh it was good without stating in all actuality you didnt end up going then you are lying!!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I believe that not telling something is the same as telling a lie. Being honest and truthful is the best way to maintain stability in any relationship.