Misery???

@LadyMarissa (12162)
United States
February 5, 2011 11:05am CST
I was watching a video & one of the main characters who was going through a really bad time made the comment "Misery loves company...but ONLY if the company is miserable too!!!" I know that when I'm miserable, I don't always feel like being around happy people & I also know that I really don't want to be around somebody who is as miserable as I am!!! It has made me think & I'm wondering...What are you thoughts on being miserable & being around other people???
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@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
When I was miserable a few months ago, I wanted to be alone. I didn't want anybody to see me in that state. I avoided friends and it took a lot of convincing before they could lure me out of the house. I also avoided going out on a date even when a lot of people told me that it might help cure my blues. So, I don't think that this saying is true. Well, not for me anyway.
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Being alone is usually the best way for me to deal with my problems. I most definitely don't want to be around others when I'm down & blue!!! Some times I just really don't want to be around anybody else; whereas, other times, I need human contact to bring me out of my funk!!!
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Hi Marissa, Well, when I'm in a bad mood or miserable, I actually prefer to be alone if possible. I have no desire to spread my misery to others or get more down by hanging with someone who is also miserable. Unfortunately, being alone is not always an option. If I have to be around people then I prefer to be around either happy people. At least they might (usually do) make me forget my troubles for a while and even laugh.
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Hi sid... Sometimes being alone is the best way to go as you can look deep within your own soul. Other times, being around others is the ONLY way to go as you need that distraction to stop you from dwelling on your own sorrow!!! I sometimes find that watching a movie will help as something in the movie gives me a clear thought I often find that music will stop some of the self pity I'm feeling!!!
@12mpetru (45)
• United States
6 Feb 11
if im miserable would just go in my room an sit and listen to some nice calming music of the birds of something to cheer me up for the day
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Music is a GREAT way to chase away the blues!!!! Sometimes I drive up to the mountains & just walk around in the woods listening to the quiet & watching the critters do their own thing!!!
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
Hi LadyMarissa. I always hear the phrase "misery loves company" but this is the first I heard of the one which followed and I think there is a grain of truth in it. One would not want to be with laughing and smiling people when one is miserable. The more the person would pity one's self as they would just, well...laugh your misery away. But miserable people would reaffirm the misery of another and find comfort in each other. Perhaps, unwittingly becoming more miserable and gloomy. Personally, I keep my miseries to myself and I keep to myself until such time I am well able to face others with a smile. So...smile away, LadyMarissa. Have a nice day ahead.
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
6 Feb 11
I've never heard it worded that way either, but it does make sense!!! I know I don't get down that often; but when I do, I don't usually want to be around a really happy person as I feel guilty that I might bring them down. I also don't like being around a really down person as it can just make my mood worse. I seem to do best when I stay home & deal with my emotions myself!!!!
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
6 Feb 11
I've always thought that the phrase "Misery loves company" meant that the truly miserable people often will try to bring others down to their level in a subconscious attempt to make themselves feel better. Whatever it means, when I feel miserable for whatever reason, I tend to want to be totally alone. I'll find a quite little hole and hibernate until I'm feeling better. THEN I'll want to be around people. I'm definitely a "people-person", at least when I'm feeling good. But, I can turn into a total hermit if I'm not feeling good or feeling miserable.
@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
6 Feb 11
I think you are TOTALLY correct!!! It appears that 6 out of 6 prefer to be alone until they can get themselves back together!!!!
@aurorastorm (1136)
• United States
7 Feb 11
I have never really thought about this in detail, but for me when I am feeling low I like to surround myself with people that can bring me up. So not necessarily happy people, but positive people, that help me to see that there is a light at the end of a dark tunnel and put things in perspective.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
7 Feb 11
I have heard of this saying many times. I never understood it. I know that when I am in misery, I sure do not want any kind of company, most usually, unless it is my husband and he is there to help me through it. I sure do not want to spend it with someone else who is miserable too. That would not help either one of us.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
7 Feb 11
Birds of a feather flock together is the more accurate saying of the same meaning as yours. In every society there are those who just love to b*tch and they tend to group together. When I feel miserable I would rather be alone until I get over it. But when I want to b*tch.............well there's always the lot isn't there? lol