What Is It About Men And Not Stopping To Ask For Directions?

@Cherryd41 (1121)
United States
February 5, 2011 2:10pm CST
I think maybe its a pride thing not letting someone else know your lost and can't figure it out for yourself ... whatever it is my husband has it.. love him to death but......... We can drive around for 1/2 hour before he will finally ask someone(after I've asked him to stop about 3 or 4 time) for directions He has a very good sense of direction and it only happens when he has never been to a certain place but the funny things is ... is that he'll say oh I know where that is and he really doesn't which is obvious once we get lost and I'll say I thought you said you knew where your going?
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@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
5 Feb 11
It may be pride; or stubbornness. But speaking for myself, men like to sort things out for themselves rather than quit their independent comfort zone and bother someone else: men can be socially uncomfortable with strangers. I can look for somewhere for ages; finally, when I realise there is no way I am ever going to find it without asking someone, I'll quit my comfort zone and ask. The I'll keep on asking until I find it. I'm out of my zone then.
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Hi Carl Yeah that also sounds like my husband and your right about that independent comfort zone its like their saying I can do this I just need time to figure it out and we as women don't really want to wait
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 11
Yes, that's all true...:o)
@06MLam (622)
6 Feb 11
Yes, most men will seldom ask the others for directions because they find this embarassing to do so and to tell people that they are lost! However, they really have a good sense of direction usually and can usually find the way themselves without asking the others and simply by looking at the map. Therefore, what I suggest you to do next time when you are out with your husband is to bring a map with you so that at certain situation you can ask him to refer to the map so that he will not get embarrassed of asking people for directions and this can save your time as well. Or you can buy a satellite in your husband's car which is the most efficient thing to do so.
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Hi O6Mlam We have a GPS but we may need to just get a more updated version the one we have is portable and sometimes its hard to read it
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
Funny that i can relate to tbis topic... Well we my bf and i has been to many pla es and to some some where we are totally at lost... And my bf is too proud not wanting to asl directions... Somehow we would get out of. The situation and we will be back on track... I remember even at. Shopping malls he would not even want to ask guards whete a certain shop is and he would alwaus tell me to go and ask as if the guard would identify him post his name and picture in social networking sites and. That asking directions is a capital crime... Hehe i always tell him that there is no harm in asking.... He said he is just not good at asking... Silly haha
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Hi Chiyosan Your right there is no harm in asking some people are just not comfortable asking directions or asking for help they would rather spend the time trying to figure it out for themselves no matter how long it takes
@ElicBxn (60052)
• United States
6 Feb 11
wadda ya mean men? I got that!!!
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Hi Elic I know that women do it to I have done it myself a few times
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@JohnMach (556)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
Whenever I'm sure I'm lost I do ask for directions. For me, it's just a matter of how lost I am. If I think I can go back to where I came from and start from there again then I would. If I'm sure I don't know where I am that's when I ask for directions.
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Hi John Well your one of the few excetptions but you also think a bit like my husband if he thinks he can go back to where he came from and start all over again he'll prefer to do that and I have to admit he usually figures it out but its the driving around and around until he decides to start over that can be aggravating
@rachael5760 (2530)
• Israel
5 Feb 11
Maybe he needs a GPS so then he won't have to ask for directions. It will show a map to where he wants to without bothering anyone. It might be expensive to buy the service though. It's worth a thought.
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Hi Rachel Sometimes those GPS's don't work all that great your better off trying to find it for yourself one time when we used it ......it took us the long way around and we still got lost Also I was speaking more of before they made GPS available I should have stated that in my topic
@Hate2Iron (7325)
• Canada
1 Sep 15
That definitely has to be a guy thing! My hubby will do the same thing, but for even longer than your hubby. Drives me crazy!!
@pibi713 (187)
• China
8 Sep 11
Men will never get lost, they are just looking for a new way. Asking a man to admit that he is lost is the same like asking him to admit that he is not a good family supportor.He would rather put himself on the fire than admit to his woman that he is lost. So if you are on the assistant driver seat and see him pass through the same gas station three times, please don't critisize him or try to give him any suggestions. Otherwise you will be driven off his car and walk home.
@2wicelot (2949)
7 Sep 11
I think there is always that feeling of you know what I can find this place. I just need a little more time. I know I can do it.