my husband says i write about him too much on mylot

@birdie816 (1276)
United States
February 6, 2011 8:36pm CST
it's funny because this is yet another discussion that i have started about him...anywho, he says i should find other things to write about. maybe he is kinda right, but that is just a tad difficult to do when i don't have much else to think about. he is the main person i am around because, well, i live with him lol. plus he is my best friend, love interest and considered family now...he pretty much falls under every category of my life. i mean, as i am typing this i can literally reach out my hand and touch him...it's kinda hard not to think about somebody who is always there..
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Your husband should feel honored that you are writing about him. We usually write about what is closest to us. When you are writing about your husband, you are expressing your feelings for him. Perhaps he could do the same for you.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
14 Feb 11
yeah me and my husband are really close so that makes sense. and sometimes i wish he would make his feelings or thoughts of me a little clearer by doing something similar to what i do on here (only when talking to people face to face)
• India
7 Feb 11
Well, all I can say is that you really love your husband a lot and I must say your husband is a very lucky one cause it is very difficult to find a partner who loves you like a maddo. It must be that you may be writing a lot about him and everyone likes to talk about their favorite things. Well I guess he is your best Thing.
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@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
13 Feb 11
yeah alot of people have been saying that my hibby is lucky to have somebody like me who is always thinking about him. and i agree that he is one of my very favorite "things"...it is kinda funny to be calling my husband a thing lol...but whatever
@dearlene (78)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 11
I think it is very nice of you that you have a good relationship with your husband. By become husband as well as best friend I think that would be a good example for me. I would like to find someone to be my husband that can be my best friend to.
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@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
13 Feb 11
yeah it is great to have a guaranteed best friend. also it is great to have a permanent mate. it's even greater to have them both in one person. it's weird because as i am writing this, my hubby is telling me about his problems (like somebody who confides in another person would do). i know it might seem like i'm not listening but i am good at multitasking.
@babyanna (1216)
• China
7 Feb 11
Hi,birdie816! Maybe your husband just wants some privacy.At first glance,I thought that maybe it's not a good idea to talk about your husband too much.But after reading what you wrote,I give it a second thought. Yeah,you're living with this man.He is basically the center of your life.How is this possible if you don't talk about him very often?Besides,people here basically don't know who you are.We are friends because we can share things together and solve each other's problems.But in reality,most of us don't know who our friends really are.So considering that,there isn't really a problem of privacy. I guess when I have someone important showing up in my life,I would also like to write about him and share my happiness with my Mylot friends. Just tell him the reason why you write about him a lot is that you regard him as one of the most important persons in your life.I'm sure he'll understand.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
13 Feb 11
yeah i agree. it's hard not to talk about (or to for that matter) someone who means so much to you...even when they get on your nerves they are pretty much the only thing on your mind, at least that is how it is for me. also, i agree that privacy isn't really an issue since nobody knows who i am since this is the internet and i can be completely anonymous (which i am). and ok, i will talk to him about this.
• United States
7 Feb 11
I find that if you are providing us with positivity within your marriage then it is helpful as many perhaps are dealing with issues who can value your discussions and learn from them. It is natural for us to want to share our wonderful lives with others. However if he is getting upset about it maybe discuss other areas. But I suspect they are not bad so perhaps it is just him asking.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
7 Feb 11
yeah maybe that is another reason i like writing on here about marriage because hopefully i am helping people with their marriages by addressing issues that they may also be dealing with
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
7 Feb 11
your husband is so lucky I hope my wife also do something not same but in different way of showing love and affection. But I love my wife what she is now. Back to your discussion really you cannot make any writing not about your husband, common tell us about your high shool day or college day without your husband. LOL see you around
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
13 Feb 11
yes. it is nice to have someone be so interested in you that they show how much you mean to them in some meaningful way (i'm assuming). haha...actually it's funny because i met him in college (freshman year)...
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Feb 11
hi birdie I would hink he should be flattered that you love him enough to share with others as not every marriage is so happy according to a lot of mylotters here.I love to hear he is also your best friend.my husband always bragged to others that not only was I his wife, but also his best friend. I was so touched by that as yes I felt we were best friends. I was always so comfortable with him, loved being his wife and miss him a lot although I have been widowed for a long time. I think I write a lot about my husband too.
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@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
7 Feb 11
yeah i think he should be flattered too that i am usually proud of the things he does and i want to tell people about how great he is. and he truly has been my best friend pretty much since the day we met and we have only gotten closer since then. he also is proud to call me his best friend as well as show me off (sometimes to random people such as in a grocery store, and he will say something like "hey that's my wife over there. isn't she beautiful?"...it's kind of embarrassing, but cute :) ). anyway, that is terrible that you are widowed...i feel for you. i don't know what i would do if i lost my hubby. he is truly irreplacable :) and it's cool that i am not alone in this
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Hi. birdie816. I can understand how you may feel. I write about many people that I love and that I can't stand on facebook. My husband will never have an account on facebook while I am on here. My husband would not dare come to a site like this. I know this for a fact. Your husband should be very honored to know that you love him so much. At least, you are not writing anything mean about him. He should be very appreciative of that. You can't help the way you feel, you love him.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
19 Feb 11
yeah i do love him alot (although sometimes i am not completely sure why i love him so much because he is not exactly the average guy lol).
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 11
explain to him, that you really admire him... thats why you always and always write about him maybe he doesnt wanna be a centre of attention.. he is too shy.. so why you never communicate with him
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
14 Feb 11
maybe you are right. i don;t think he feels like he always deserves to written about so much. i think i just need to make it clearer to him (verbally) that i think he is great and that he really is worth writing about in a positive light.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 11
i know your meaning is good but everyone had a different peception about it..
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
7 Feb 11
Yes that is what my lot is for to write about what's on our mind, what we love, and all of that. And also when we need to vent lol. As long as you are talking good about him he should be happy.
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@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
7 Feb 11
that is true. when i first became a member of this site, i didn't think it would be this much fun or a part of my daily routine. i thought it would be really difficult to meet the minimum payout requirement, but lately i am starting to really get into it so i don't even pay much attention to my earnings anymore...but anyway most things on here about him are good lol
• Indonesia
15 Feb 11
wow, he's a lucky man. lucky, have a wife who love him so much. he must be proud of you, yap, I'm with you, it's so hard not to think about everything which is always around us (husband, parent, home, child). :)
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
15 Feb 11
thank you for agreeing with me :)
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
8 Feb 11
Tell him to read something else(HA,HA) I don't know how you can getaway from writing about him. You spend you live together. That's what we do on mylots. Have discussion about out lives, interests, thoughts and beliefs. It's a journal of thought for everyone to read.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
15 Feb 11
lol..good one :) i don't know how i would possibly get away fro writing about him. and that is exactly why i want to be a partof thiss website. this has helped me to vent alot and keep myself from lashing out on other people. also i have always love writing in a journal and i guess this one is just computerized...and public lol
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
yeah, you are correct. hahaha. you can write better if you really know well the subject. may i copy youre idea... maybe i can write too about my husband, hehehe.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
15 Feb 11
thank you for agreeing :) anyway, you can copy my idea if you want to lol. if you find your husband interesting enough to write about (which i would hope you would lol) then sure.
• United States
8 Feb 11
I think it's pretty awesome that you write about your husband. :D
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
15 Feb 11
thank you :)
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 11
Your husband is a lucky man because you discuss him a lot on wonderful My Lot. He is in so many parts of your life that in most things you do he is there for you. That sounds really sweet and I believe that it is fine. It is interesting that you husband reads what you write on My Lot. They are your discussions so it is totally your choice what you write.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
14 Feb 11
well he doesn't really read them on his own. he is not the type to stress over what i write online or who i am talking to because i have proved myself to be faithful since we have been together. i usually show him the discussions and how many responses the ones about him get (like this one...so far there are twenty eight responses to this discussion). and i agree that i should be able to write about whatever i want on mylot.
@GreenMoo (11834)
7 Feb 11
It's natural to write about subjects we know well. Your husband should be honoured that he's always on your mind!
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
14 Feb 11
haha he is on my mind right now lol....anywho he really should be honored because that means a person loves you if they can't stop thinking of you
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
it is sweet birdie..:) and i guess there is nothing wrong with writing about your hub by unless u are writing something negative about him lol... so writem ore about him hahaha... its probably because both your worlds revolve around each other
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
15 Feb 11
yeah i think it is sweet too. and i try to make sure i write nice things about my husband (at least mostly lol)...and i am not sure if it's possible to write more about him lol. and i agree with the last part too. our lives do revolve around each other.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
7 Feb 11
haha funny I used to talk about him a lot on mylot too, because he is the person I see the most in my daily life so basically everything is about my husband just like your case . He said I wrote too much about him, isn't there other things to talk about? He didn't like himself to be a topic all the time so I stopped and tired to talk about my other hobbies like cooking, gardening, shopping etc.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
14 Feb 11
well maybe i could try that too. i have many hobbies that could make great discussions. it's funny because i actually started a list of brainstormed ideas for mylot discussions to make sure that i steer my discussions away from him as the topic. it is alot harder than i thought it would be though lol...but i am trying
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
7 Feb 11
I think it is awesome that you love your husband so much!! He should be happy that you like to write about him :)
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
14 Feb 11
well thanks :) i really do love him alot and i am glad that it shows even across the world to complete strangers as well as close friends and family :)
@elena1969 (153)
7 Feb 11
When i read the description i laughed so hard i fell of the chair :D . Your husband is trying to say to you something else,he doesn't that you really write too much about him in mylot.If your husband truly desires that you stop writing about him so much in mylot,than you should to other subject which are interesting for you.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
14 Feb 11
well iam glad you got a good laugh from it lol. this discussion wasn't necessarily supposed to be funny, but it wasn't supposed to be that serious either. i am always happy to see that people think my discussions on mylot are interesting. i just try to write about my true experiences and peole just seem to like them :) anyway i will dig deep to try and find some other topics that arent about him