What do you think about people who has crab mentality?

@staria (2782)
Philippines
February 9, 2011 3:22am CST
Well, I have a Filipino boss but we have a boss who is a foreigner. Before, I can go straight to my foreigner boss and tell him whatever I want to say. Now my supervisor would not want me to go straight to him and would have me eradicated from their emails, etc. She would also not teach me how things go. Do you think she has a crab mentality? And that she does not want me to learn so that she will not be removed from her place?
6 responses
@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
A pleasant day to you Staria, With reference to your discussion, I can say, indeed she does have that mentality - crab mentality. A crab mentality as they say, is one of the traits being possess by some Filipino people especially if they want to succeed quickly without exerting any much effort at all. However, maybe, try to think the other side of the fence. Just try to think, that, your immediate supervisor wants to know the situation first before it goes up to the higher bosses. Nevertheless, your boss should still teach you on how to do things. Since you are under her supervision whatever you do is a reflection of her. With reference to the above, just keep on praying for the situation and to her as well, hence, prayer is all we need since some situation are beyond our control.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Thank you Aira, I still would like to have a good working relationship with her. And yes I will continue and try to understand why she's doing that to me. I'll look more into the positive side of things, after all good deeds are never left unnoticed :)
@hlgmdt (301)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Well, it could be of two things: your supervisor may just be following standard operating procedure, since she is your immediate (is she) supervisor, you may have to deal matters first with her rather than going direct to your higher boss. There are people who are so bound to their position and authority. As a result, they don't want to be bypassed. It could be also possible that your supervisor exhibits crab mentality. I am a Filipino and history subjects and personal experiences have taught me that this unpleasant characteristic does exist. I've heard stories of Filipinos abroad trying to outdo each other rather than supporting each other, which is very saddening.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
I got your point there hlgmdt, thanks a lot for the insights. Yes it can be due to the following things that you said, either way only she knows. Thanks :)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
You're supervisor is one incompetent, insecure and unreasonable speck of humanity, staria. That is the common strategy of people who pretend to know all things under the sun but couldn't deliver efficiently. Their kind are aplenty and are occupying sensitive and influential positions in private as well as in public offices.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Agree, was the one doing all the hardwork and it doesnt really reach the higher management, and she gets all the glory! Well, I'll just go on w/ my life, it is her problem. Thanks!
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
9 Feb 11
Hello staria, I must admit I had no idea what does "crab mentality" means. But now that I found out I can tell you that your new boss mentality is a crab mentality. This is usually the attitude of a person who is not sure about her knowledge, who feels insecure about her position. If she was sure about her abilities, she shouldn't do this to you. Yet, I don't think this has something to do with the nationality of the person. I think there could be coward and envious people among every nations.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Hi there, yes maybe she is just concerned about her position. Given the fact that I totally respect her, there is nothing to be insecure about. But then again, we cannot control what people thinks about us. Will just continue to do my job the best way I can.
• United States
9 Feb 11
Although it is customary that you do to your supervisor and not her bosses per sa, there is something suspicious here as you say she excluded you from the general emails. Sounds to me like she is insecure about herself and afraid that you may overstep her. Hmm, I believe she finds you a threat dear. Some supervisors are this way and it happens to be a weakness of theirs as your supervisor could have stated to you that you need to direct all directly to her, but the fact that you were removed from the general emails makes it suspicious. Please be cautious as Supervisors as these will stop at nothing and be rid of you before they loose any gloating moments.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Hi there! Thanks for getting my point. Protocols are clear to me and I respect my boss and always follow her directions. But though I want to think positively about the situation, sometimes I just think that she does not want me to learn and that she's keeping things from me, things that I think I should know. But still, she is my superior and Im afraid I cant change things for now. Sigh.
@urbandekay (18312)
10 Feb 11
Does she walk sideways? all the best urban