A Lie Between You and Your Dream...... Can You Dare to Be Honest?

@thesids (22358)
Bhubaneswar, India
February 9, 2011 4:59am CST
Hi MyLotters, You are Applying for a Job you always dreamt of... But you know you are medically ill. Mentioning the illness can jeopardize your chances of getting the job. Many a times we face such situations and the decisions have to be taken. Do you go by your dream and hide/lie to reach of fulfill them? Or do You Have the Guts to Reveal, Accept and Be Honest... Cheers, theSids.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
9 Feb 11
If my lie never hurts anyone and can fulfill my dream, then sure i lie... I am not the person to kick on my butt to show my honesty.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Feb 11
Hi brother, That is so very correct... after all it is a dream that you cherished all throughout and so you should not care a damn about anything but yes, you are watchful too when you say - If my lie never hurts anyone... That was an honest response
@shibham (17025)
• India
9 Feb 11
thanks for your comments. nice day.
• Indonesia
10 Feb 11
It is true that lie well over the goal well. There is a term that is not foreign to us, lie was allowed home for good. Sometimes the lie will be bery painful if the strongest person we lied.
@suguwillu (113)
9 Feb 11
Hi, Its really very difficult to be always truthful. i am amazed if some one got the situation like that. my God i did not face such time in my life. i think i will not be strong in making the right decision. i would probably lie. then repent, cry and leave the Job. that is what i am. i always make mistake very hurry then when come to know the reality just sit and cry. i am sorry for my self. i must change.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Feb 11
Hi suguwillu, I had faced this situation and I did feel bad about the opportunity coming to me a few weeks late... But today I am happy about it. I stuck to the honesty thing and did not get the job... and today that not getting the job did help me as I took it as a challenge... I work from home and in the field that I had to overlook some years back.
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• Chennai, India
9 Feb 11
To be true, I'll just play safe. I need the job and nothing can come in between. (Who knows, may be later, the boss may excuse the lie considering my other skills. Or, may be, the job can be manageable despite our condition. Why should I be so true, without knowing what will happen in future?) However, if the thing that I lie is the basic requirement of the job, I won't lie. I'll just skip the offer and look for the next one.
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@Sreekala (23350)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hello Sid, I will have the guts to reveal the truth. It is better to be honest than getting troubles later. If I lied to my employer and get a job, then it will haunt me and I don’t think I can work sincerely there. I may feel, they will catch my lies or they will know about my unhealthy conditions etc. So for me, better sit at home than doing a job by telling lies. If that particular job assigned for you then nothing can prevent you to get the job. This is my belief.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Feb 11
Hi Sree, That is so very true as it would definitely happen with me if I lied to get the job. But yes, I would apply to it mentioning the illness too and hope that I still get the job just because it is my dream
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@Sreekala (23350)
• India
10 Feb 11
Sid, You are asking a solution for your problem?
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Feb 11
No dear, I already took the decision some years back when I was ill and was rejected for some jobs when I mentioned the illness on the Resume. But I did get a few of the offers
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
What kind of illment have may it will not affect hugely in the propecting job so go on. So it will depends on your kind of medical illment - if easy to cure go on but if it is very severe and danger to other - no reason to lie
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Feb 11
Hi Visavis, Hey that is a better approach... Of course! If it is something that can be cured easily, and within a lesser time, maybe why not lie and get in... and you would be cured no doubt...
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
9 Feb 11
Hi Visavis, if you think it is a small illness which can be easily treated , will you really think by mentioning it your job can be jeopardised? Can't the Management understand this?
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
11 Feb 11
If it were me..I would have to be straight up from the get go. The thing is if I wasn't..that dream job might mean more than my health and that might not be good. Once there is a lie or covering..there always has to be things that continue it. That might ultimately jepordize my life. If they knew right away..they would understand my time off when I needed it..no lies needed. If they didn't hire me..it wasn't meant to be at the time. I would struggle with it though honestly.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Hi JenInTN, Fantastic and this is what I believe
• United States
9 Feb 11
I really would not be able to as, what would happen when I have to take time off to get treatments and such would jeopardize my chances of proving my skills. I find that if I am honest from day one it would show my loyalty to the company, and if they hire me despite an "illness" then it would show me their honesty and sincerity as well. If they turn me away because of an "illness" then this would tell me that they are vain as they are not giving me an opportunity to stretch and prove my horizons with their company.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Feb 11
Hi GF, Not many would appreciate though but this is the best what should be done... If you are honest maybe soon you would have a recognition and as you say, it will be reflective of your honesty and sincerity.
@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
9 Feb 11
Dear thesids! Another good piece of work! I think my first thought would be to have the job as it is my dream job and opportunities never strike twice. It would be instinctive also to respond so! But then knowing the fact that I am suffering from some illness which can hamper my job, I will try to b honest and disclose it to my employer as by hiding this I may face problems in the future while carrying out by duties in my dream job! I think many a times our honesty also pays us. If your employer feels that with the qualifications and the experience you have he can cope up with your illness, finding your qualifications and experience most suitable or the job than others and there are the chances that he may get impressed with your honest approach of disclosing your medical condition which you could always have hidden from him! It would be really difficult to build a building on a false or weak foundation. I personally feel that the things achieved by the means of cheating or by dishonesty won't last longer! There are every chances that you may get caught after joining your job as you may need to have avail many medical facilities after joining your new job! When I have changed my first job, I had to join a farm run by an Owner who was a Punjabi Sikh. I knew that Sikh people don't approve smoking and I am a bad smoker. If joined the farm in senior position I was to meet my boss on day to day basis and he would come to know about he fact that I am a smoker, though I may not tell this thing to him. But when I met him before starting the formal interview I told him that I am a bad smoker and I can't cope up the tensions of Stud Vets Job without smoking ! Believe me , he said that he never had any problem with it and then I used to smoke in front of him. But then as a matter of courtesy and manners I stopped smoking in front of him just considering the fact that if a man of that big calibre can compromise with his principles then why not me! There after I never smoked in front of him! This I have quoted just to imply that many a times honesty pays us! Thanks friend !
@johnpillai (2083)
• Germany
9 Feb 11
I am a child care giver. My job is to deal with small children. Weather I like it or not I should submit a medical certificate every four year. Yes I will not hide my sickness as because I am dealing with small children. If I am sick the children will be affected by my sickness. But for some other kind of jobs if we believe that we can cope with our sickness, I think we can hide it.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
9 Feb 11
I think I wouldn't lie about my condition. Sooner or later, the truth will come to surface and it won't be a good moment for me then. Being a liar won't help you fulfill your dream. You might loose your dream job as soon as they find you lied to them. You should consider there is a small chance that the employer will appreciate your honesty and will give you the job because of that. Is this a hypothetical question or you really are in such a dilemma?
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Hi inu, Yes, the fact of being caught and then spoiling out everything for bad is the point to be kept in mind. I asked this question not for me but for one of my clients. I work as a part-time career counselor here and this guy has some health issues that will not allow him to get to his job. I always mentioned out my illness once I came to know of it and today I do not apply anymore.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
16 Feb 11
'morning thesids, I wondered why did you ask such a question, as I knew you are more like a freelancer.
@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
I think that it would depend on what job you are applying for. In the medical field, your situation is crucial. I would rather give up the job than making others suffer more with their illnesses. If you are a medical professional, your job is to take care of sick people. If you have a serious illness, you would make the condition of your patients worse. Nosocomial infections are common in hospitals. These are infections you get from the hospital. It may be from other patients or from the staff. If the sickness you have is not contagious and can not affect the people that you may work with in the future, I think that hiding your true condition will not hurt.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Feb 11
Hi jhaidro, You are right dear, we should be aware of the illness and to be honest, I did not have this aspect of contagious disease in mind. Thanks for adding this one here on the discussion
@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
No problem thesids. So I guess that there is no problem since the illness is not contagious. If it would not do harm to anyone, lets just pursue our dreams.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
11 Feb 11
I would surely lie about it. I would have probably learned how precious life is so I would take what I can in anyway to have lived my dream.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Well you have a reason and a point here for sure
• United States
10 Feb 11
Here in the States it is against the law to discriminate against a person with an illness or a handicap or a person who is challenged.As long as a person can do the job , they should be considered as a candidate for the job.And if they are not, the person Can sue. But if this weren't the case, And I Knew my illness do not stop me from doing the job, I wouldn't tell . I would just do the interview and see how it goes.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Hi behen And I Knew my illness do not stop me from doing the job, I wouldn't tell
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 11
When we are chasing after our dreams, we need to do it no matter what, including hiding our illness that the company might not like it. But this can only be done if you know that your illness will not actually affect your job and performance in the long run and the most important things is your illness will not getting worst if you do the job. So, just do it my friend, if you think that it is worth to do it, just do it, unless you will not feel regret to do it if you don't get it. Cheers!
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Hi yspmyl, True, if the illness is short one and we know that it would be cured within a small time span like say common fever kind of, then we may hide it and move ahead. But if the illness is somewhat critical and will cause issues with my performance at the office I think I should be honest
@jujunme (2413)
• United States
9 Feb 11
Whether it's a dream job or not, i think it's always best to be honest with your potential employer, since if you did get the job by leaving out this information, or lying about nay medical condition you may have and later it was found out, you would most likely lose the job anyway and possibly because of this would hurt your employment record.and actually, depending on what medical illness you may suffer from, you may still get the job anyway, as long as it wouldn't interfere with the job you were hired for.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Hi jujunme, Exactly that is what should be thought of in such a situation. The illness cannot be kept hidden as someday or the other it would surface out and you would be caught. But in this process, your entire goodwill is at stake
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Hello my friend! It's really a tough decision to make but I would definitely not lie about the illness you have. You see,my hubby's dream is to work in a cruise ship but the fact is,he did not finish college and this had been the issue. He really wanted the job so all I have to do is to support him,I said if it's really meant for you papa,it's for you whether you did not meet their requirements or not and so to make the story short,he said the truth and submitted only the records of his high school transcripts. And to our surprise,that day we recieved a call from the company and said that he should accomplish all the requirements needed for his departure! My hubby jumped for joy and embraced me! So it's really meant for him friend. If it's God's will,it will really happen. Just be honest with it friend,if it's not meant for you,maybe God has better plans for you. See yah my dear friend!
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Hi mtr, Yes, you are correct here that if I cannot get this one, there sure is another one just for me and I have to wait till I get to that special one.
• Canada
20 Feb 11
In my country, it is illegal for employers to deny you a job based on a medical condition. In fact, they are not even permitted to ASK if you have one, and if they do, you do not have to answer. This does not apply to certain jobs, like police officers, where you need to have a certain minimum level of physical conditioning, of course. But it applies to the vast majority of jobs. They are not allowed to ask you your age, either (only if you are above the age of majority or not) and they cannot ask you about family status (do you have kids or intend to have them) either. This is to prevent discrimination. If you can do the job with your medical condition, even if you require a few minor considerations because of your condition, there is no reason they should not hire you.
@topffer (34590)
• France
9 Feb 11
It depends of the illness. If it is a serious one that can really stop you soon after getting this job, I would not try to lie. If it is an illness inscribed in a list that prevent you to get this job, but has never prevented you to do your work -- you see the difference --, I would lie if it is the job that I want to do in my dreams.