What really could be the reason for Couples who separates?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
February 9, 2011 8:35pm CST
We very well know, that physical abuse is one of the primary reasons why couples separates.
I have know a lot of couples who separated and from their reasons i have concluded that Pride could be the reason.
Their pride is hurt when the husband falls for a younger woman. The wife would right away think that separation is the answer, most specially because she has a job anyway to support her and her children.
One couple i know separated because the husband was sent abroad for a scholarship, so the wife also applied for a scholarship, just to show that she too is as intelligent as his husband. Pride again is involved here.
Had they been humble and tried to find ways to solve it, it would have not come to separation.
3 responses
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
12 Feb 11
More than pride, I think it is being unprepared for a life together. I know that young people easily get swept with the euphoria of love and being together, but when they get tested, they find that they are not prepared for the consequences.
And of course if they let their pride take over, then it hides the fact that they were unprepared when they got married in the first place.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
Also, pride sets in when they have separated , recovered from being unprepared and realized they still love each other. No one would like to initiate the move to be reconciled .
@pringu (151)
• India
10 Feb 11
Hi friend, in my opinion there could be various reasons for couples to seperate and these days reasons are even more. They could be misunderstanding, fights, pride as you say, or maybe doubting each other etc. Pride for sure is one common reason among couples these days since unlike earlier, girls are more educated now and they get jobs as equivalant in status with guys. In my opinion. pride becomes the major factor for seperation when the lady has got a higher paid job than the guy. This creates some kind of complex among them which evetually grows and ends in parting. Also, in comparison to earlier days, girls are not afraid of being abandoned since they have got jobs to support themselves. But then, i like ladies to be a bit circumspect to men because thats the rule of nature and it looks sweet when it's like that. Saying that, men should understand the weakness of women and shouldn't take advantage of them rather make them feel good with their presence.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Very well said. That's exactly what i am trying to point out , why pride is sometimes the cause.
True, we should always try to understand our men, because actually in the bible it says that we are to submit to our husband. However, we should do it not so blindly.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Accepting someone to be your spouse means accepting him as you are. You will then tagged as the better-half of each other. So what the fuss to compete with your better-half? His/her achievement will be credited to you anyway.
Maybe they don't see each other as a friend, helper, supporter, assistant, partner, collaborator, an ally.........
There's a problem... they should find someone who'll be of help to make their relationship fruitful.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Yes, true , we should accept our spouse as better half, and accept each other as they are.
