Husband , a Wife and a marriage.....views about each of them

India
February 10, 2011 10:21pm CST
I would like to have a response from each and every one, whoever sees this topic of mine. What does a Husband mean and what does a wife mean. When we get married we swear to GOD, that we will be together till death do us apart. But do this really happen in this world ??? What's more important....marriage or personal happiness.....if we get to know that we are not happy with the person we got married.... Is it necessarry that always a wife should sacrifice. Do husbands really understand the sacrificing nature of wife.... I want the meaning of MARRIAGE.....
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@raj7shot (838)
• India
11 Feb 11
Who told wife's only sacrificing their life.. There are also so many husbands sacrificing their life for their wife's. Husband and wife is person who understands the feeling of their partner and share all their feelings each other...
• Saint Lucia
11 Feb 11
Trust me its not very common.Men usually wants their way.
@raj7shot (838)
• India
12 Feb 11
Yes correct .. but all men are not like that...
• United States
11 Feb 11
I anxious to see how many viewpoints you get on the meaning of marriage. I think there are too many personalize meanings of the word "Marriage". You ask which is more important, marriage or personal happiness..I believe personal happiness must come first because if you are not happy then you will NOT be happy in any marriage. Sure, some believe that a person can make you happy, and they can, but it will be only temporary, unless you are truly happy with yourself first. I know this from experience. Ask me if I am happy in my marriage, yes..I am . Now ask me if I am happy with myself, no..I am not. Does my personal happiness affect my marriage, of course it does. It makes my husband feel like he is doing something wrong, no matter how much I reassure him that it is me, not him. I do not believe that a marriage should define who you are, nor do I think it should have all the expectations like it does. It puts pressure on each partner. A marriage is something that two people should arrange according to their values and beliefs. What works for one couple may not work for another. That I believe is why we see so many "open" marriages. I am just thankful that my husband and I , do share the same viewpoints when it comes to marriage. ps. I do think that too many men do not realize how much the wife will sacrifice for the marriage, but that is only because women take more things to heart than men do. Just for the record and sake of argument, Keyword ( too many men, I did not say all men )
• Saint Lucia
11 Feb 11
I love your idea and response couldnt have said it better.
• United States
14 Feb 11
thank you, it comes the heart, and of course my personal experiences !
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
11 Feb 11
A husband does not mean as much to a wife, because family is the most important part of our life. That's one reason why some couples are not divorcing because they had the family's interest at heart, especially young children. On the husband's part, they only want a wife to take good care of the house, let them a home to look forward to. It's that simple.
• India
11 Feb 11
Yes I do understand that family is most important for a Wife....But Does a wife really think about her own identity. What has she got in life. She will strife hard first for the happiness of her Husband, then for her children...I know she will find Happiness in that and finally the conclusion will be, if there is LOVE all these things doesnt matter. So finally it concludes that A Lady of the house has to sacrifice....
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@elena1969 (153)
12 Feb 11
The real meaning of marriage is to put chaince around yourself,and convince yourself that you are not so worth for this world and you want your children to grow up and take care of you.A husband most of the times doesn't understand the sacrifices that a wife makes,but that is part of history,women are inferior to man in marriages.
@huruxiao (39)
• China
11 Feb 11
I have married for one years.Because my wife if smaller 9 years than me,so we have many diffrent viewpoints to life.and we quarrelled from love,and both we have not ever hidden our viewponts,but we never remembered our quarrel.In my opion,a long marriage is a enduring marriage,this enduring is to each other.
• India
11 Feb 11
You might be a very understanding Husband !!!:-) and this only should happen in a marriage. Every Husband and a Wife should have quarrel...or differrences arealways there becoz they are two different people. If there are no differences then there is some problem. I FEEL.....
@capoquek (60)
• Singapore
11 Feb 11
In the first place, one should marry someone that they intend to be with forever till you pass on from this world, and is able to accept everything about their spouse, including mistakes. The most probable reason of a broken marriage is due to the couple have not known each other well enough, rushing into marriage, in which they later on find out more about each other's negative sides as their "romantic" love starts the subside. Then more conflicts would arise and ends up in a divorce. Sacrificing is also needed since there are things in life where we cannot control, for example; the husband got a notice from his boss, and he needs to leave for another country to work. The wife needs to understand that it is for the sake of supporting the family. Either way, if both parties love each other, there wouldn't be a lot of problem in terms of continuing to love one another and be there for each other.
• India
11 Feb 11
I do agree....and above all LOVE is all that matters. But have you seen someone or say a HUSBAND whos in a very good position in his company, but if a wife get a good job in some other country where he can also work. Will he leave his job or try to find another job in that country or agree to leave the country for his wife. ? A Wife always agrees....I have seen that for the good future of her Husband...
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
12 Feb 11
i think a good husband don't actually have to be succeed but must have in hear the willing to provide and protect the family a good wife is comprehensive and can cook, is a good friend to the husband and kids as women are the light of a house, the queen a good kid knows their limit