Is there a needy person living inside you?

Feeling needy on some issues - Needy person inside you
@bounce58 (17524)
Canada
February 11, 2011 5:52pm CST
I went to a meeting today where a lot of issues-problems were discussed. As we rattled off discussions, there were some that I was not privy to all the details. My clearances were not up to the level of some of the topics. So when these topics were discussed by the other people in the meeting, I sat quietly on my seat. Mostly listening to a voice in my head screaming ‘why am I not included in this discussion?’ It sounded very needy. To a point where I was surprised that I didn’t know this person inside of me. I even thought to myself, I should get introduced to this person, or voice. Or should I? Do you find yourself feeling ‘needy’ on some issues? Is there such a person or a voice inside you? Have you ever been introduced to this person? Or do you let that person suffer-in-silence inside you?
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8 responses
• United States
12 Feb 11
Maybe it was not your day, and not so much being a needy person. Somehow based on your discussion style I have to say I do not feel you are a needy person at all. I suspect some tension on the job these days have caused you to think a bit more much about a great many areas not only on the job but perhaps with self. Give it a few days and maybe things will lessen so that you can reassess if yes or no there is actually a needy person inside you, as I sense if there is you are not one to silence it. As this is the way I am, that when that needy person inside needs to be let out, I do not silence it, I let it speak freely. I wish you well and happiness, my friend.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
You are a very perceptive person hardworkinggurl! I've always known that my discussions are little bits of me thrown out on the 'interweb', I just didn't know that anybody out there could piece it together. I am impressed! It has been a few days, and I think the needy person has talked its way out of me. For the time being at least.
• United States
27 Jun 11
That has always been my intention my dear friend is to allow anyone online to get to know me by my writing. I can sense from your writing a bit of you, which is good because it shows that when people read what we write they actually get to know who we are as opposed to getting to know us for looks. Thank you so much for my BR!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
29 Jun 11
You're welcome!
@moirai (1471)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
Hmm... Do you find yourself feeling 'needy' on some issues? Is there such a person or a voice inside you? Have you ever been introduced to this person? Or do you let that person suffer-in-silence inside you? Yes, actually. I hear that voice quite a bit... we talk a lot. It can be quite depressing... I think everybody has this 'person' inside them, because this 'person' is you, this 'person' is me. But we become more aware of this 'person' at times when we become introspective, which more often than not is when we're feeling down. The problem here is when we let ourselves get pulled down even more. So I don't think it's a matter of letting that 'person' 'suffer in silence' inside us, because it is us who suffer if we let it. For those people who are truly satisfied with themselves and their lives, this 'person' inside them is happy. =) For the rest who are not, who are wanting in one way or another, it's just a matter of thinking positive, focusing on the good, and moving forward, despite being aware of this feeling of need inside. As for your situation, I tend to agree with hardworkinggurl. Stress at work is probably more than usual these days causing you to feel down and think this way. But I think, more or less, these discussions you feel somewhat left out of are things that are really beyond your area. As you said, your clearances were not up to the level of these topics. So I don't think people are going to take it against you that you had no input in those particular discussions. So don't feel too bad about it. =) If you feel it was something you should have been concerned about, then you can now take steps to become more aware of the things you should take note of for next time. =)
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
I think you've stumbled on a 'truth' moirai. Well at least for me it is a 'stumble' as it is a realization: that if we begin to talk to this person inside, then it becomes depressing. I think I should avoid this person at all costs! It has been a few days since I've raised this discussion. And it has been better. Thanks.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
12 Feb 11
Hi Bounce58 is funny that you mention this point. Yes I have felt needy. Not now, because I´m a stay-at-home-mom and almost all day I hear to my kids. When I am with some "high status" colegues, yes... I meet my needy person. Well however, I just try to be as better as I can, each day. I try to study a bit each day, and I try to work all days, and I try to love, all days. Blessings... Dainy
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
Hello dainy1313. If you're a stay-at-home-mom, you shouldn't be comparing yourself with other 'high-status-colleagues'. I'm sure that whatever progress they have in their business life, it wouldn't compare to the success you have with family life. I'm sure that when it's time for them to have families, they would also be hearing the needy person inside of them. Thanks for the response.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
16 Feb 11
Thanks you for your advice =) Kind blessings!... Dainy
@wongchoiyee (7225)
• Malaysia
14 Feb 11
Yes all this while for 10 years, I have been feeling needy because all my friends busy with their friends, career and marriage and I was once popular are left behind. I did tried to patch up and keep in touch but they seem never worked out.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
I think that's the downside of being popular at a certain time. You get so used to it, that when it's time for others to have the limelight, you end up wanting. And needing some attention. Thanks for the response.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
14 Feb 11
For the most part I don't think that I am a needy person. However, when I am doing things with my friends I do always have to find the ability to talk about myself or my children to a certain extent. I guess that would be the place where my neediness would come into play. But, with the people that I surround myself with, I don't think that I am nearly as needy as the rest of them. It is a weird situation to be in to a certain extent.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
Maybe it is not need. Maybe it is pride! To want to talk about our family or our children. Not every situation lets us do that. And maybe it just looks or sounds like a need. Thanks.
• United States
12 Feb 11
The more you post , the more I realize that being a loner was a G-dsend! I never thought I was suppose to know what was going on. I just assumed if they want me to know , they will tell me. For many years I never knew what was going on at work until I got a boss who thought we All should know what is going on! But before that, whenever people talked about something i didn't know , unlike you, I just tune it out and my little voice and I plan something that I want to do. If they Really want me to be a apart of the conversation , they will tell me. I'm so glad I don't have to go meetings where things are being said that are not meant for me!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
I guess that's the pitfall of having too much information. Curiousity gets to you. Sometimes it is better not knowing a few things. And then you don't have to worry about things that you couldn't do anything about. Unfortunately, it is not that way at my work. Things need to be discussed and out in the open. Unless of course you don't have the clearance for it.
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@blueblink (246)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
HI, you have such feeling because you are not concentrated to the topic. try to give your full attention in the meeting. I think you are just having hallucination.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
Hello bluelink. I wish it were true! That I was just hallucinating. But in our meetings, we really have to be at the edges of our seats. If not, we'd be left behind. Or worse, get tasked with something that you don't know anything about.
@louie847 (350)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
In my part where there are people discussing issues, I would listen first to them on what are there opinions or concerns about the topic. Listening to their point of views will be helpful to me. If I have something to say for myself it would be best to share it at the right time. I am not a kind of person who wants attention during a meeting and overthrow others with pride and bad attitude.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
Hello louie847. Unfortunately, there just things in my company that I am still not cleared for. Things that I shouldn't be even listening to discussions. So I keep quiet. But of course if it were my responsibility, I would voice it out. Without attracting too much attention to myself of course. Thanks.