Will you consider yourself as a person who understand people well ?Why ?

Hong Kong
February 14, 2011 9:28am CST
Sometimes I WOULD CONSIDER MYSELF AS A PEOPLE ORIENTED PERSON and understand people really well. But somehow, I think people are always so complicated and it is just so difficult to understand them. Since everyone is so unique and emotion always change a person .In Fact, people will change in times as well.It is not an easy way to understand anyone including our own "self" anyway. What do you think of yourself? Will you think that you always understand others?Why do you say so?
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16 responses
• United States
14 Feb 11
You can attempt to understand others, but to actually see what they are thinking it just about impossible and useless. I believe its all about understanding ourselves so that we can bring our happiness and joy to others, regardless of how they're feeling. We have the absolute power and ability to do that.
@zendie (10)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
I agree.. But for me I dont think I am able to understand them all. But i am a good listener. I cannot pretend that I understand their views even if their's are really opposite my views. I just respect each unique personality and I think that is different from understanding.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
17 Feb 11
I do tend to think that I am a person that is able to undersand other people well. The reason that I feel that way is because of the fact that I've always been the kind of person that takes the time to listen to other people. I think that we are only truly able to understand other people when we really take the time to listen to them. Therefore, I consider myself to be a very understanding person and I know that I am a person that a lot of people turn to for advice.
@hlgmdt (301)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
I always try to be understanding and non-judgmental about people's actions and their personalities. I think that my degree in psychology has been a significant factor in the way I deal with people. I learned that each behavior has a reason, be it known or unknown to the individual. Yes, I agree with you that each person has his own sense of individuality. What works for the other may not necessarily work for another. When an individual has done something, I try not to jump into conclusion and criticize the person. I always believe that we don't have the right to be judgmental because we are not fully aware of what the other person has been through and is going through.
@Lucifa (42)
• China
15 Feb 11
i don't think i understand people around me well. when i have conversation with others, i always be patience to show my respect. however, people are complicated. Those people who are thoughtful don't want to show their secret with me and it's hard to understand them. i think it is hard to understand every people well.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
15 Feb 11
Well I do try my best to understand people but it's not easy with everyone. Some people are really difficult to understand. But with the people i grew up with, like my best friends, I can just look at their faces and know if something is wrong. They can do the same with me. I miss them.
@SIMPLYD (78776)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Having gotten to this older stage, i have already passed thru life's ups and downs along with understanding the people at different walks of life. I have already fully understood that everyone has their own traits and every person has different way of dealing with the same problem. Hence, understanding people is a necessity in order to know how to handle them.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
For me yes it is many are not understand to the situation but if you will you have many friends but remember love to everyone is follow what Jesus Christ.
@monty21 (120)
• India
15 Feb 11
I am sure about it that i am the person who can understand people very well. I went through it many times. But the problem is they don't understand me well. I met many people in my life that they don't bother about other feelings. They thing that they are right always. Even they don't try to understand other feelings. But my case is different as the proof is i have very good relations with my friends. From my side, i easily understand their feelings.
@naija4real (1293)
15 Feb 11
I am the type that do not understand people very well. I think human are too complicated. However, there are some few people you could easily tell what they represent and you could also read their heart. This psychological complication also affects animal also. You could be playing with a dog or bear that you love so much and quite suddenly such an animal turns out to bite you. In a nutshell, human are one of the most complicatated creature ever to made by God
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I have tried to understand people all my life and expected peopel to understand me! In the long run I always wanted to know how people make in the worl,with finaces. I still do but I used to get obsessed over it! I will always wonder how people do it but that is just part of me! I have gone through life wishing everyone would understand me! I craved it but very few people have understand me! The ones who do are my closest friends and won't back stab in the back like other have! I just realized not long ago not to worry about it! I do have people that understand me and I should cherish that! I reslly do!
@edb225112 (125)
• United States
14 Feb 11
What you are defining is emotional intelligence. I work at understanding people by looking at what motivates the behavior they are performing. All behavior grow out of the emotional needs and emotional defenses. People are trying to feel safe in their environment and have some emotional control over their existence. Just the same as everyone else is. Open up to your emotions and compare those emotions to the ones you see in others. The emotion you feel is the same as the one the other person is feeling. The reason the emotion exists in the behavioral context of that moment tells you something about that person and why they are doing that behavior. How does the behavior make that person feel safe or gives them control? That is not so complex but it does require a committment to understanding yourself and understanding what you need and want.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I think I consider myself one of those people that understand people well. I always know what other people think, know people's feeling... I don't know how to explain it but I just can feel it when things happen on somebody and how they feel.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I think i have aa good understanding of most people. I like to listen to what people have to say. Different people of different cultures and different situations are interesting to me. I think that helps in understanding others.
@RobtheRock (2485)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I think I understand people fairly well. I got my degree in Psychology and that helps me to understand people's body language and other things. I think the best way to understand someone is to "listen" to them. People hear what someone is saying, but they don't listen. When you listen, you're thinking about what they say and feel. So I feel the best way to understand someone is to listen. Yet, I feel that no matter how much of an expert one is, no one can understand everyone or even the same person all of the time. Sometimes it's hard to understand a person, if they don't understand themselves. So while you listen to them, they might say one thing and mean another. Only if you know this person very well, can you tell when they are mixed up in their own mind. I agree that it's hard enough understanding ourselves let alone someone else.
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
14 Feb 11
yes my dear friend i can consider my self for understand people.i agree with you that people are very much complicated and do not understand our felling always want that i understand them.i can understand for what people can feel bad i what time i have to stay like a showpiece.it is so much difficult to make all people happy.i really want to make all people happy who are around me. thanks a lot.
@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
I think that I may also consider myself as one of those who understands people. I do not think that you should possess so much to be able to have this in you. Personally, I think that it only needs curiosity to know what others feel for you to understand why he or she is like that. I would see this as a good thing since it gives me so much variety in terms of human behavior. It helped me in a big way because now, I really do not judge people on why they do what they do. Every time I encounter someone who acts strange for me, then some questions will just pop up my head then makes me find out more of them.