I want to change my life

@indahfth (11173)
Indonesia
February 14, 2011 9:57pm CST
Now I want to change my life. I do not want to dissolve in grief again. I want to fill my life with happiness. Starting two days ago, I promised to always be happy, even though there is that makes me sad. Already a lot of precious time I wasted in grief. I was not able to enjoy life. I will not repeat again. I will enjoy my life.
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@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
15 Feb 11
the key to the happiness is trying to forgot all the mistake that we had done. starting a new beginning with blank page will help u a lot to make some happiness. it is not easy to forget the mistakes, but try to make other view that human can't be separated from mistakes.everybody makes mistakes
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Yes, you really ifa. I had to forget all my fault, I feel I have been punished by mistake I have done. and all the sadness that I experienced, was enough to be punishment for me. I must begin this new chapter of my life. I should be happy now.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
if you are blame again someday for all the mistakes that you had done, try to remember other mistakes and compare it with you. sometimes i do that to release the feeling guilty in my heart
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
I now will not feel guilty about the mistakes I've made. Any guilt I have re-emerged, I would think, why I make mistakes, and what I have gained from the mistakes I've made. And I say to myself, that I was not entirely my fault. My guilt be gone, and I can live with mild
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I'll pray for you indahfth, I know how frustrating you may feel and only G♥d can help you and give you the peace you need.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Thank you. God would give me easy to achieve the happiness that I had long hoped.
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• United States
17 Feb 11
Yes He will..:)
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Hi indahfth good day to you..life is full of sadness and grief and everything. If you're happy now, tomorrow you might be sad. As long as we are here living we can't escape that. No normal people would not experience this cycle of our life. It is up to us how we encounter this. There's a lot of ways how to do it. In your case I think we have the same fate. I have a problem right now (as I write)that pushing me too much. It is more on financial problem. This problem pressured me so much for a couple of months already or even more. The pressure and stress I've felt makes me think I don't have the right to laugh, right to smile because of my big problem. Sometimes I was thinking of doing some unlawful actions to sustain my needs and to solve my kind of problem. But I never did because I am afraid to do so. Making problem to solve another problem is just like your multiplying your problem. Well, what I did, of all what I've done to find solutions and I still failed on what I positively expect, I would face the problem and reason out everything.. And this is what I going to do now, say, 4 hours from now. In our case, as long as we strive to solve the problem and yet we failed, face the reality. We must not force everything that untimely not yet given. Act naturally,if we don't it will fall back to us. And the more we suffer if our health deteriorate due to our problems. Be happy my friend..if rich people has their own kind of problem how much more for the poor people like me... Thanks indahfth..be happy Mobhomeir here..
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
For too long I'm sad, I do not want to live in misery again, If there is something that makes me sad, I will soon be overcome and the back facing life with a smile. I do not need to wait for tomorrow or a few minutes from now, Even now there is something that makes me sad, but I do not want, creating a protracted. I'm so happy, you can overcome your problem by not doing things that will make your problems become magnified. You have a very good idea, I hope you will always think positive,
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Change is always good. It is important to be happy and I think everyone deserves to be happy. Happiness is found within and when you strive to be happy, it will happy. Maybe not overnight, but it will be happen. I wish you all of the luck.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 11
Yes. every person has a right to be happy. so also with me. I hope I can enjoy the happiness before I die. Before that, I feel happiness away from me. But, I am aware. Happiness away from me because I do not want to approach happiness. Now I will keep close to my happiness.
@webearn99 (1744)
• India
16 Feb 11
That is a good resolution, I wish you all the luck and blessing of the God you believe in, to be happy.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 11
Thank you, webearn99. I very much hope, God ease my way, to always be happy.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
16 Feb 11
I wish you all the best, happiness will bring good health and long life. I know there are things in the world that will make you angry, but you can try everyday to be happy and then it will become part of you life style. All the best.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 11
Thank you, jak. I will try to be happy whatever happens.
• Singapore
15 Feb 11
There will always be many challenges in life that you will face. Remember that God will not put you up for a challenge if He does not think you can take it. As such, always rely on Him, the Almighty. He creates us and we belong to Him only. He will always be there for us when no one in this world is. So pray hard, let go and move on...
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Yes, there will be many challenges in life that I have to face. But any heavy challenges, I will face with a calm heart and full of smiles, and always prayed to God. God not give a trial to me, outside of my ability.
@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Feb 11
Happiness has a lot to do with attitude, so if you decide to be happy, and do things that make you happy, you probably will be happy!
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Yes. I will do all the things that make happy, and forget all the things that make me sad, Forgetting is very difficult, because yesterday, today, or tomorrow, there is still much sadness that I have experienced. But I was determined to live happily, so all my sadness will overcome.
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Everyone wants to be happy. However, in our weakest times we tend to lose hope. We forget all the wonderful reasons to live. We lose our strengths to survive. But we are still lucky because we do have a healthy life and that we should take care of. Dying and sufferers of illnesses have the great desire to extend their lives as much as possible. So, let us not shorten ours. For every single minute we live is really worth it.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Yes. Everyone always wants happiness. But sometimes, a lot of people who surrender to the circumstances, and lamented the fate, without trying to improve and make things better. I was one. In the past I was too desperate and felt unable to change my circumstances, and continue to dissolve in grief. Now I will change all that, I should feel happy, and I am very happy now, although there are still problems that haunt me.
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Hello indafth! That's more like it..that's the spirit..life should be enjoyed. Life is too short to be spent in misery. Spending your life grieving for things you cannot have or for the things you have lost, is futile and would just make you miserable. Live with what you have now, even if it means living with a husband who doesn't know what's caring is all about, living with people who seemed bent on making your day be filled with misery and even if it means not having the things you have longed to have. Enjoy your life, it is a must. We only lived once, but if we lived right, once should be enough.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
I strongly agree with you. Live only once, and live only a short, we should enjoy this short life. Living in sorrow, just hurt us. Now I am more able to enjoy life, my life has become more mild and pleasant. Supposedly, I realized this sooner, so the sooner I can feel the life of pleasure and fun.
@Bionicman (3967)
• Czech Republic
15 Feb 11
Good lucky. 1st step of making life more enjoyable: get off mylot
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Yes. You are absolutely right.
@Alexanda (47)
• China
15 Feb 11
yes, i think u r positive person,sometime we always suffered from the sad things or happy things,but,anyway,everything will be gone. after many days ,even a year,or ten years ,when we rethink what happened before,maybe we will think its like a piece of cake,and appreciate too much the life give us,becz the life is a treasure. when i experenced some grive things , i tried to concentrate on some things i am interested in,after i finished them,i would become happier and happier.and i would forget the unhappy things very soon.hope u have good mood and nice days.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Yes, for 8 years I dissolve in sadness, and I think I have to stop all my grief, and facing all who make sadness with a smile. Happiness has long been my hope, and happiness will not come, if I continue to decline into misery.
• India
15 Feb 11
Well sister, the only way is to follow the right path of Allah. You are in this world temporarily and you are being tested with sadness and happiness and if you remember Allah at both times you will succeed. Have faith in Allah and repent for your sins.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Previously I wanted to say, welcome to join in MyLot. I am very grateful for your suggestions. Your advice is exactly right for me. I will always try on the right path, in accordance with the teachings of religion.
• China
15 Feb 11
very goog idea! but i don't think that's the correct way to get happiness.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
In your opinion, how the correct way to get happiness?
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
15 Feb 11
i do hope this point or discussion is the start point you to change your life from a sad time with a happy news.. i realize most of us always get many problems..but dont worry..you must be happy must be happy for your kids
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Thank you, Adhyz. During this time you always give encouragement to me. I will now try to enjoy my life with happiness, even though every day I have to deal with something that makes me sad. But I will face it with smile and joy.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Try to be around people who love you and whom you love. And surround yourself w/ positive things. Lingering on negative stuff and people wont do you any good, they will just pull you into sorrow and grief. Be happy and think about how God loves you.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Unfortunately I can not be near the people I love and love me. Because they live far away from me. But I'm sure, although I was nowhere near them, I will be able to make myself happy, In recent days, I could overcome my sadness, and I could feel a little happiness. I really hope that someday the perfect happiness, there will be for me. Despite the happiness that I get now is not perfect, but I was very pleased.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Yea for you! May you keep that attitude. May I suggest that you read happy stories, and stay away from people who always have a negative attitude.
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@write23 (53)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I'm giving you a big hug! I hope it helped. I'm sorry you have been feeling sad. Just remember, no matter how bad things are....this too shall pass. Happiness is a choice. I'm glad you chose to be happy. You deserve it. :)
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@neliasni (76)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 11
Create something fun. Occasionally, do something fun but very rarely you do. Sometimes people saturated and can not enjoy life because they have to endure all of life's problems alone. Not because they do not have any friends, but because it chose to save all alone. Though increasingly stacked inside, body and soul even more burdened. Should looking for a trustworthy friend and start vent with them regularly. Share the load will make your life more lively and more relaxed. Life depends on the lens that you wear on your eyes when you look at life. If you choose to wear glasses that good and positive, then you'll likely enjoy life and see things very well even though prevented by saturation.
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@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Feb 11
You are the only one who can change your life. Put the sadness behind you and move forward. Sometimes it is difficult but just take it a day at a time. That is about all that you can do. Positive affirmations are good to go over daily too. They help me alot when I remember to read them. Books and research into co-dependency might be of help to you too.