what would you do if you were me ?

China
February 16, 2011 3:26am CST
me and my boyfriend has been together for 4 years, but i don't know why my parents do not like him right now and do not want me marry him. what should i do?
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43 responses
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
16 Feb 11
Given the fact you and your boyfriend had been together 4 years and yet your parents cannot accept him, there must be something they know that makes them be so sure of their decision. Is there something they know that you do not? Or are they concern about other issues? For example, you did not share much about your boyfriend. Do they see him as reliable? someone who is able to support you, their precious daughter. Could it be some incompatibility that you do not see? While the easy solution is to go with your heart, remember that your parents have your interest at heart. If you are close to your parents, stand in their shoes...maybe you can see better? Hope all works out well, whether for you or your parents. I am sure they are reasonable people, so reason (not argue) with them.
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• China
17 Feb 11
thank you have a nice day
@kh_rabbe (196)
• Bangladesh
23 Feb 11
its really hard to say what to do....if i were you i would ask you the same? but you know what, as my thoughts every parents love their child they can scold them beat them but can't throw them out from their life. If we ask for it to them with love truth and if our relation is true off course we can do it......i mean we can make understand our parents.........
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@fjclolazy (859)
• China
16 Feb 11
i would ask the same question,lolllll```
• China
16 Feb 11
i don't know what to do
• China
17 Feb 11
talk with your parents again.and how much u like your boyfriend?if let u choose one between your lover and your parents.your answer is?Don't be sad,everything would be ok
@Ichiru101 (285)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I would really consider going to talk to my parents about it. I am sure both of them are very important to you. So why not confront both sides about it. Don't do anything to rash cause you really might regret it later on.
• China
17 Feb 11
thank you ! have a nice day
@tash01 (2032)
• Jamaica
16 Feb 11
First i listen to your heart,because love conquers all things.And the other hand i think you should as your parents why they don't like him. some parents are like that and you have a reach a point in your life where you are big enough to make your own decision in life. You should sit down and have a talk with your parents. Have a nice day.
• China
17 Feb 11
thank you have a nice day
• Saint Lucia
16 Feb 11
Well parents are almost always right when they are look out for your best interest and not their own.First i suggest you talk with your parents about why they dont accept him,then talk with your boyfriend about the situation and last try to bring both him and your parents in for a discussion.It maybe they dont accept him because they misunderstood him or dont know him well enough.After those discussions you can make you choice.
• China
17 Feb 11
thank you have a nice day
• India
16 Feb 11
Well there are 2 things you can do... 1) Making sure that your boyfriend will always be there for you no matter what happens i suggest that you would marry him. But later make sure that you don't regret that. 4 years is a long time so i am thinking that he would support you. try to reason why your boyfriend is the best for you. However also try to see your parents opinion on the same. 2) Listen to your parents. They have known you since childhood. They know what's best for you. They think that you have been taken for a ride with this guy. So drop him or rather break up with him if you value your parents more. Just hear them out once. By the way i also suggest that you see some other people's discussions. They must have been having similar kind of problems. Most importantly make sure that you would not regret the decision later! Cheers!
• China
17 Feb 11
thank you have a nice day
@raj7shot (842)
• India
16 Feb 11
Check with your parents for the reasons and convince them... Arrange a common meeting and try to understand the situation and work accordingly... Have a nice day...
• China
17 Feb 11
thank you hava a nice day
@aerous (13468)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
Well, if you really love that person. I don't see any problem...because parent's has no right to manipulate our life. They are only our guidance in terms of relationship... It is up to you. If you really being affected and follow your parents want you to do. But for me I follow my heart and mind which love the person I like so much
@joryll88 (11)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
your parents dont seem to like him right now. Does that mean your parents used to like him? First of all if he really loves you, he can make a way to prove to your parents that he deserves someone like you. Eventually, your parents will learn to accept him.
@Janexiao (173)
• China
26 Mar 11
I know this kind of thing often happend, if you think that this man is really the one you can rely on and worth you being married to, it's ok, your parents will accept him one day, because what all parents want are your happiness
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
I think you should first talk to your parents and ask them the reason why they dont like your boyfriend. Your parents definitely must have seen or known something which caused them to not liking your boyfriend. From there, you can think about their reason and consider it also in deciding whether to go on with your relationship or not. On the other hand, you may also ask your boyfriend to court or build a good relationship with your parents. Probably, your boyfriend is not even trying to talk or make a good impression with your parents. I am sure that if your boyfriend does this, and your parents also see that he loves you very much and that you are in good hands, then they will like him also.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
First and foremost, how old are you? Are you still in school? If you're still in school and are young, then regardless how awesome the boyfriend might seem, no parents would ever permit the daughter to be with the guy. Remember that parents' priority is that you finish school and then after that you could choose your own life. If you're already out-of-school then perhaps they see something in the guy that you don't really see because you are blinded by love. Remember the thought: Love is Blind and Mothers know best. Our parents would never do anything to lead us to harm. So if they say that they don't like the guy, then perhaps it's time for him to show them that they thought wrongly about him. Or perhaps, you yourself should assess your boyfriend more.
@JEROCESS (31)
20 Mar 11
your parents dont like him right now? i think it will be ok maybe tomorrow or the other day, just focus why your parents dont like him and do your best
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
16 Mar 11
i think you could find out why your parents don't like him, and follow your heart. to be honest dating someone for 4 years and not having a clue as to why your parents do not like him could cause a problem in itself. so talk to your parents, and do what you think seems best. it could be that they just want the best for you and not sure if your boyfriend could provide as they would hope. anyway good luck w/ all!
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
16 Mar 11
They should have a reasonable reason for not accepting him. They should want the best for their daughter. Any idea why they disaprove of him? If yes you can discuss it with him and try to make him change or ameliorate so as to make them happier.
• United States
16 Mar 11
i think you should sit down and have some time to taalk with them about how you want to make your own choices in life, and how you love your parents but also your boyfriend. tell them how much he means to you. good luck
@youless (95327)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Mar 11
No matter what, you shall find out the reason why your parents don't like your boyfriend suddenly. And then you will judge whether this reason is reasonable or not. Otherwise it is difficult to remain this relationship. I love China
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Hi. CentralPerk. Welcome to myLot! I think that you should stay with this guy that you are with. If you have been with him this long, then he must be a pretty decent person. You will have to decide upon this for yourself. My family hardly likes my husband at all. We have been married for nine years and they still carry a funny attitude towards him. Some of them do, but just not all of them. I think that you should let God lead you to the right path on this decision. Take care.
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
2 Mar 11
Maybe they are too possessives. Try to make them discover the quality of your boyfriend.