Tips for Shy Men

@bingskee (5237)
Philippines
February 16, 2011 8:06am CST
In one of my hubpages, I discussed about most men being shy. To quote, [i]While this cannot be true with all men, I think that it is safe to say that one of men's familiar traits is being shy. It is the reason why they cannot actively participate in conversations with other people much more say what they truly feel about matters and worse, about how they feel towards the woman they like or love. In truth, these shy-type men possess most characteristics that women want. But because they are withdrawn, those gregarious men win the women they like. Therefore, if you are the shy-type, I think there is a need for you to consider these tips:[/i] 1. Practice in front of a friend 2. Focus little by little 3. Ask simple questions 4. Do not take her mentioning another fellow as personal 5. Know how to listen 6. Talk to other people. 7. Take notice of small things about her 8. Always look in the eye when talking 9. Do not be afraid of rejection 10. Go out and make friends 11. Start with yourself fighting the trait of being shy 12. Always imagine talking to a friend 13. Respect women There, I hope these will help shy men to come out of the shell.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Feb 11
Dear Ms. Bingskee, Thank you for this wonderful information and the discussion. I must admit that I was and still am quite a shy guy when it comes to meeting strangers - professionally, I am a teacher and that has helped me overcome the fears but it remains confined only to profession. When it comes to personal meetups, yes, I am quite shy and introvert kind of. I have tried and achieved quite some success using the 1. Practice in front of a friend 2. Talk to other people 3. Do not be afraid of rejection 4. Always imagine talking to a friend And the most important is the "Do not Afraid of a rejection" because once you are afraid, you will not dare to come out of the shell Regards, theSids.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
hello, thesids! it raised my eyebrows knowing that a teacher can be shy. why are men always afraid of rejection? have known a few who are just like that. though i have to say this is also true for some women. i myself can get hurt but i could accept the fact that at one point i could experience rejection. and that is a part of my life.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Feb 11
Dear Ms. Bingskee, Yes, that is true with me... Initially I was a shy teacher. But over the period I came to terms with this and now I am more confident... and that is why I mentioned "Professionally I have no problems". On the personal meet-ups, I am still shy and take time to open up to anyone. But when it comes to discussing things anonymously (like on the Internet) I do not care anything and the shyness is not there. For the fear of rejection, I believe it depends on the experiences one has maybe during the childhood days or even between the peers... like maybe someone who is forced to inferiority complex thing sometime during the childhood or the friend circle
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
16 Feb 11
hello friend! i think it is a great types list ever for shy men.i do not like shy men because if men are feeling so shy then what will do women?it is for women not for men.i like to be a wife of a man not want to be a wife of shy man.a man who can do for me everything,safe me from every difficulty.that call a man i like that type of men not shy men.
@Marmot (595)
• United States
17 Feb 11
It is true, shy men always weaker than others, especially in some special situation. That will make their girl feel very bad.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
dreamnishu, there are reasons why some men are shy. it is not a deliberate act, it is the nature of some men.
@Marmot (595)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Wow, that pretty useful a list it is! I used to be a shy boy, at least I think I was. But now I am not. Although I don't follow your list, but I think that should be useful for most of the shy men. Pretty good~
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
good for you, marmot!
@dong88 (796)
• China
17 Feb 11
Ha ha, good way.Actually,I am also a shy man,especially in girls before,I cannot freely performance.Read your hint,to help me.Thank you!
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
performance? ha ha i am not talking about it. kidding aside, appreciate that you are considering the tips.
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Men come in two types those who are shy and those who are like peacocks confident about who they are. The guy's shyness can be traced in his childhood. Whether he was allowed to be confident on who he is. If he is encourage and expose to others at such a young age his personality will be confident. Sometimes shyness can be a men's way of having a hard time to express himself so as not to be misinterpreted especially when it comes to his lady love.Kudos on the tips given above.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
as i have mentioned, there are reasons, and they vary from one man to another. thank you for the insight.
• United States
16 Feb 11
There just as many shy men as there are shy women. Vice verse for the outgoing and outspoken. I, being female do not know what it is like to be shy. Some people by nature are simply shy, yet can have a great many qualities. I suppose if the shy aspects of a male is bothering them then I can see that perhaps a few tips would be beneficial to them. Best of luck to you with your hubpages as there are some great tips.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
hello to you, hardworkinggurl! the tips could serve a guide but not for you ha ha