What do You think about It?

@AKRao24 (4248)
India
February 16, 2011 10:25pm CST
Early in the morning I received a message from my friend which reads as follows- " If every one is happy with you, then surely you have made many compromises in your life! If you are happy with every one surely you have ignored many faults of others! Good Morning!" How sweet the message is! It made me to think for a while and I feel it is so true and almost applies to every life! What do you think about it! Your views will be highly appreciated!
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@isloooboy (1741)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Feb 11
Well the message is very true but its very very hard to find such kind of people in now a days. I am the one who always try to make others happy and ready to sacrifice but even when I am sacrificing for others but some times they don't recognize my effort which hurt me most. I don't know why people are so selfish?.
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@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
17 Feb 11
That is very true dear Islooboy! Many of us do lot of sacrifices and compromises for others and they hardly pay any attention to our efforts , this hurts us most! I also used to feel the ame thing! But then in 'Bhagvat Geeta' it is aid that "Karma Kiye Jaa,Phal Ki Chinta Mat Kar!" which means Perform your duties diligently without anticipating for the results! So now a days I don't think any more about these aspects of life. I do wat ever possible for me to help out others and I don't expect anything in return! This to some extent keeps us happy as we are mentally prepared to face such situations in advance! Well friend life is like that and we need to lead it!Thanks for participating!
@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Feb 11
Hi AKRao I believe those who expect anything in return of the "sacrifice" cannot be referred to as people who sacrifice... I believe that if you donate using the right hand, even your left hand should not know that you donated and in this there is no way I can expect if I was to be called as a donor.
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
18 Feb 11
There you are dear thesids, I fully agree with you, charity looses its charm the moment it is canvassed or any attempt is made to make it known to public! This is some thing like getting written the name of a donor on the walls of temple which really looks cheap, as the donor was not actually interested in donating some funds but was interested in getting his name itched on the wall of the temple! sacrifice and selflessness go together, so any thing anticipated in return would not be a sacrifice! Thanks dear friend! Have a nice day !
• United States
17 Feb 11
Isn't life a path of compromises? If you are married you compromise. If you work you compromise. Possibly this means equality and ultimately love in a marriage. Is it better to compromise rather than ride a razor edge and causing upheavel everywhere you go. Then it seems time is spent being angry or steaming about the upheaval created. Ignoring faults, if you do not ignore other people's faults then you should not judge either. There is only one judge and it is not any one of us. Live to be happy, not to be critical!!!!
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
17 Feb 11
Oh dear Arabgirl! What an appropriate way of approaching the topic.I fully agree with your views and endorse them! Life Is a big compromise and we are compromising at every moment to maintain the harmony and peace in our life! Regarding the faults part yes, let us not judge anyone as the best judge the Almighty will take care of it! Thanks a lot for responding! Have a nice day! Thanks !
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@isloooboy (1741)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Feb 11
My question to both of you is, "Why I sacrifice always why not the others?". Is it fair that one is always sacrificing and the 2nd one is always right even he is always on the wrong end?.
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@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
17 Feb 11
Dear Islooboy, We can sacrifice as it is at our discretion but how can we make other's to sacrifice that is not under our control! If you are sacrificing that is your good quality you are depicting to the World! Thanks !
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@Jotomy (6157)
• India
17 Feb 11
Hi AK Rao, yes such messages gives us some warm happiness early in the morning and i feel those are just inspire us thought out our day. I don't have much friends indeed who can send me messages but i will be receiving from two friends and also from other sites. Have a good day.
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@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
17 Feb 11
Hi Dear Jotomy! Yes,I feel I am lucky to have some friends like the one who has sent this message, who send such meaningful messages from time to time! These messages they serve as soothing agents when we are very tensed or under lot of work pressures! These messages makes me happy! Like this message I received in the morning will keep me busy through out the day in the form this discussion! Thanks a lot for responding!
@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Feb 11
Of course, Life is all about compromises even if you cannot be a great one who sacrificed. However in today's world where people are so materialistic in thoughts, and actions, it is quite difficult to keep everyone satisfied and yes, many a times we are forced to ignore the faults of others... not a healthy sign but still works for around 75-80% of the cases. Thanks AKRao for such a wonderful discussion... I am deeply motivated...
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
18 Feb 11
Actually this message is very much applicable for today's materialistic World where it is difficult to be happy and to keep others happy! That's why we have to take the help of compromise and ignoring the things in order to have a harmonious life! Thanks Sid, I am happy to know that you are motivated and wish you all the best!
@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Feb 11
I just realized that we are not together... Togetherness helps in understanding and sharing the knowledge... Sent you an FR
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
18 Feb 11
Oh that is so nice of you, I warmly accept you as my friend! Thanks !
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
17 Feb 11
Hi dear, This message is 100% true for me. People who have a good heart and loving mind has to suffer a lot and this statement must have created observing people like me only. Some people used to tell me that I never change and because of your nature, you are being exploited and once they gain from you, they will always forget you. But I used to reply that I don't have a complaint and I will suffer. yes, still I am suffering, suffering a lot from my good deeds. May be it is my nature and I never learn from experiences!!! Thank-s
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
18 Feb 11
Hi Dear Thanks ! It is really very nice gesture from your part that in spite of knowing the consequences you are not changing and continuing your nature of helping others ! I agree that such people they suffer a lot in their life, but then all the sufferings are wiped out with the contentment and satisfaction one gets out of this gesture of his/her! This is all the life is about! May God Bless You!Thanks !
• India
19 Feb 11
Hi dear, When things come closer and directly in front of us, things are far different. We cannot always think such people would definitely will mind it. It is not necessary also. But if we have a good mind and which gives us peace of mind, I think that is enough and after all it is life, we cannot predict much on this. But having certain calculations and pre concepts would make our life little easier. Thanks for your comments and best regards. Thank-s
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
18 Feb 11
I read it again and again and find that it is so true of the saying and I have no doubt about it at all. If we are happy with everyone, we would live more happily. My colleagues say to me that there is no bad person in my eye. I quite agree with them because I like to see the good sides of them and ignore their faults. It not makes me happy, but makes them happy as well. This way I find life and work more smooth and easy-going. Take care, Akrao.
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
18 Feb 11
Hello Dear Williamjisir! I fully agree wit your thoughts! If we just ignore the bad side of others and look at the good side, then where is the problem! But being Human beings it is difficult to do so, that is why it is said here that if we are happy means we have made some compromise and if others are happy means we have ignored their faults! Thanks dear Sir for responding!
@Alexanda (47)
• China
17 Feb 11
i dont know whether its famous saying that when we cant change the world ,we should change ourselves.that means compromises and sacrifice in the life.indeed, compromise exactly make us happy and keep warm relationship.in my case,i always think of others and do more without expecting in return,but sometimes when we have differnt opinions,and i think my opinion is very good,i will try my best to understand opinions or respect them and keep silent ,because the life is colourful,everyone is different,although we can find a little common.i am also happy.
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
18 Feb 11
Hi Alexanda, First of all Warm welcome to this wonderful site of Mylot! I fully agree with your views! Actually this diversified opinions only make the World colorful, and if every one had the same opinion the life would have been a big bored one! And again this diversified opinions are root cause to which give birth to 'Compromise' and to 'ignore' others faults, so that every one in this World should feel happy and live without and complaints! Thanks for responding!
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
17 Feb 11
What a good message. It is so easy to judge, and so hard to close our eyes to other people's flaws. I think to judge my own really helps me to shut up, :) That's what I try to do. Now accept people, it's beautiful, that's love.
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
17 Feb 11
Hi Dear Katie! That is so true, we all like to judge other people without realising the truth that this right is exclusively with the great judge the Almighty! He is there to judge us! Though it is difficult let us learn to simply ignore others faults and try be happy and make others happy! Thanks !
• China
17 Feb 11
There is some reason in what your friend's message said.We must learn to be lenient ,live and let live to,don't quarrel over trifles,keep firmly in mind,One cann't think of everything.
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
17 Feb 11
Hi dear Changjiangzhibin, I think you are right! We have to be lenient and positive to have a happy life and letting others to have the same. But then to be positive is not an easy task especially when you are facing many negatives. thus converting these negatives of the life into positives is all we call as Compromise ! And compromise and happiness often go together! Thanks for responding!
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
17 Feb 11
The message is very sweet and true. Now days it is very hard to make everyone happy because every individual has different tastes and perceptions.To be able to fit into everybody's expectations is a daunting tasks and needs compromises and adjustments. To ignore others flaws and faults is also very hard because it is human nature to be judgmental.But a real human being does both these tasks with great ease and perfections.
@AKRao24 (4248)
• India
17 Feb 11
Hi dear Bamrahkirti, I agree with your views. With so many different natured people n this World it is impossible to go with every one without making any sacrifices or compromises! This is a part and parcel of life! Similarly to commit fault is a human nature and to ignore the same is a noble nature! Let us try to have some of this nature to mend our lives though it is very difficult to practice! Thanks dear friend for responding!