forget birthday???

@Nadinest1 (2016)
Canada
February 17, 2011 5:45am CST
You may all remember I wrote about my MIL 'forgetting' where she put my son's Christmas present. So that when everyone, including all the grand-children were opening their gifts....there was none for my son. My husband thinks that she never bought a gift in the first place. my husband went to her house and freaked out about starting to write lists if you can't remember anything. I am still pi$$ed over this. I haven't been to my MIL once Christmas Eve.....I just don't need this type of crap in my life. Well.....back to yesterday....my MIL birthday.....I conveniently 'forgot' about it....didn't buy a card or gift...nada, not a thing. I know this all sounds immature, but I am done with this woman. I need to concentrate on my husband and kids.
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9 responses
18 Feb 11
I don't blame you, i would get mad as well, specially when its people that are meant to be close to you.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
She is my FB friend....and she got lots of B-day wished on her FB wall.....but none from me. She needs to know I am serious.
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@GardenGerty (157049)
• United States
18 Feb 11
She needs to shape up or she will be the loser in the end. Is she random or is it always the same people she hurts?
• United States
17 Feb 11
Your not the first, although, there really is no excuse for this, unless she is developing memory loss, but even then, that is not an excuse. Again, my great-grandmother and my step-father always remembered to get each and every child and grandchild gifts. No one was left out, but another thing that my family did was keep lots of pictures and records. The minute a new child was born, he or she was put into the books and also had their pictures hung in the house. My great-grandmother, and now my grandmother holds possession of this book, this book contained the names of at least five generations of my family, and no one got left out, and if one book was full, another one was started. There really aren't any excuses.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
Check out reply # 11-ziyadahinc212.
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• United States
19 Feb 11
I saw his post, but it looks like it now got taken down. I disagree with him though because unless this woman has Alzheimer's or Dementia, there is no excuse for her to not give your son a present.
@GardenGerty (157049)
• United States
18 Feb 11
I guess that is okay. I think you do need to concentrate on your immediate household. Does she happen to be old enough to be experiencing some kind of dementia? She is likely not to notice that you forgot.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
No, she doesn't have dementia. She is 62 and just dim-witted, like my mother would say. She does this kind of thing often....we are waiting to cut b-day cake because grammie is coming to visit....after 2 hours we cut the cake anyway because she still hasn't arrived....my husband says: I knew she wouldn't come. She didn't even have enough tact to call. I have had it with this woman.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
it does seem sort of petty but i understand your frustration. did she say anything about you forgetting her birthday? i will be interested to hear what will happen in the next few days.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
well I did not call or anything. I usually buy 2 b-day cards...1 for my MIL(16th) and 1 for my mother's b-day(19th), but this year I didn't buy for my MIL. I thought she's my husband's mother, not mine...if he wants to buy her something-go ahead. In fact, he forget about her b-day as well. Oh well....
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Just stopping worring about this woman and forget about her! She is stressing you out and being a pain in the butt! You are better off without her in your life and yours families life,too! Worry about your kids and husband! They are more important then this MIL person!
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
Thank you, my friend.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
I remember that discussion. It's really funny how she can be forgetful. Even if she is suffering from Alzheimer's, it is interesting that she chose your family to exercise selective memory. I don't think you should have this drama in your life. If you are fine without her, then just move on.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
....and the thing is that she doesn't have alzheimer's. She has been doing this sort of thing for years.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Good for you! I did the same thing to my ex. Mother's day came and went and he never bought me a thing...or helped the kids buy anything....so one night he sits down with the Sears tool catalog and starts showing me what he wants for fathers day....I said..you are getting the same thing for Father's day that I got for mothers day....he said I can't remember what you got....I said...NOTHING...and that is what you are getting...It was hard not to buy him something because I love giving gifts...but I did it!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Your relationship with people is always your choice. Right now both Hubby and I are having a difficult time retaining relationships with our kids. I know that we are old and they all have children and grandchildren of their own. But I have tried to maintain contact, it just becomes more and more difficult. One can only push so far for attention and then one just gives up. Blessings
• United States
18 Feb 11
This situation adds stress and frustration to you so avoiding seems like the right thing, as getting upset over her actions will interrupt you and affect your happy home. I would have done the same as well as I would not want to put myself in direct tension with her either. I do remember your previous discussion and I believe you did right.