We've been betrayed....watch out: Maybe it would be coming from you family...
February 18, 2011 12:02am CST
I admit it was all my fault..I was just too much confident and feel relax to express all of my sentiments and life frustrations to my only known friend, my sister in law. We sometimes commit mistakes and nobody can deny that. We humans are subject to commit mistakes. The sad thing was, we've been mistakenly the source of all troubles happened not the issue of the mistake done but to some other issues. First and foremost, she (my sister-in-law) kept on complaining before while her mother stayed with them at the U.S. Kept on complaining her mother's attitude towards their friends. One of the major thing she never like much was by being talkative of (her mother) regarding their personal problems in their home to their friends. Telling their common friends all supposedly not to be told because of the confidentiality of the case. She kept on telling me how her mother being so talkative with their friends, which is really true because it is really true. Being closed with each other in terms of problem sharing I did share also my part every time I felt burden, troubled and nowhere to go to but to someone close and can be trusted on my personal and confidential issues. There's no other way of doing it except by email because I can tell completely all what's in my feeling through writing than talking. The situation was mutual for the past years. Not until when there was family problem erupted not on this issue but another issue. I was shocked to know and even saw it personally all emails that I had sent to her being printed out. All that were printed were all of my emails dated October 2009 being sent to her, expressing also my sentiments at that time. Of course, arguments erupted obviously with my mother-in-law herself pointing us, blaming us that we were the one telling her daughter at the U.S. that she had a bad attitude to her children and blah blah blah.. We were being betrayed... The two, (my parent-in-laws)came to our house and got back all that were given to us by her daughter including also what they all had given to us as what they've been instructed. So hurting right? There was nothing we can do but to give back all what we remembered were given to us by my sister in law. I instructed my wife never to accept anything from them AGAIN even if good terms between us be backed. On the other hand, I could have been counter back also if I would because I had also some of what my sister-in-law's email sent to me about how bad is her mother during her stay with them. But I never did that because I know troubles only be worsen. I just pitied much my wife. She couldn't help but only to cry. Thinking all the shameful act of her sister to us. I said to my self, from now on, NO on anythings they would give to us. I conclude also that my mother-in-law and my sister-in-law are birds with the same feather..(are birds..)no wonder!! I turned this incidents into positive way of pushing me upward. An inspiration to work more...exert more effort and let them see "we know how to rise-up with our own legal ways of achieving it" And to all of our boastful detractors, backbiters and "fans" watch out.. research how the boomerang operates.... I had nothing against my in-laws because in the first place we committed mistakes. It would just be fined if the mistakes committed is the issue-but it was different that turned out of "getting-back-things"..a shameful act to us.. Now is your time..soon it would be ours..Ours is the last hurray!!! Sorry if it's too long for you guys to read..my first time, right? Mobhomir is
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19 Feb 11
hello Martin, I was shocked ..really i am. First,i can feel what you feel while reading your topic. Great,you were able to express what your heart's screaming (pain) Okay,it's done,and i knew it's not easy to forgive and forget (but we must) NEVER throw stones to someone who threw stone unto you (i pretty sure you knew that) There is always a good reason behind these incident (GOD has a purpose,just wait) We learn from mistake,we rise from every fall down (with good faith) Learn from it my dear brother,it opened your eyes (trust no one,but GOD alone) GOD will always do the last thing,let GOD do it for you. Just cry it out,scream if it is needed,shout,whatever you want,just release what you feel (it will help) Then,after that,smile as if nothing happens. Who cares...if we commit mistake,let no man judge you...they're not perfect enough to make any judgement (GOD alone knows what's inside your heart) Finally,it's done,don't look back (you are not condemned) Think about today and dream of tomorrow. Pick up the pieces and start from each piece until you're done to the last piece. Life is full of surprises...be ready with the next one (you're tough to face) Smile dear Martin ...there is always a reason to smile
20 Feb 11
Hello my bonita mia..how are you doing my bonita?/ I really feel sorry for my self after the incident. Well, you're right I have rise-up with my own, turning those upsets into positive...thanks for that inspiring statement bonita..i will remember that mi bonita...have a nice day ahead... Mobhomeir here..
19 Feb 11
That's really a bad experience. You know, that's the reason why I avoid saying bad things about one person to another person, especially if that person is related to that other person, like your mother in law and sister in law. The fact remains that they have a parent and child relationship while you are just a son/brother in law. The best person to whom you can air out your disappointments with your in laws is you own family, a brother/sister of yours or a friend of yours, or even your wife. Cause when things go wrong, like what just happened to you, they can go against you because they are still related by blood. It's a good thing that you did not show those emails of your sister in law because it will only worsen the situation, like you said. And worse, it might even backfire to you. Just let things be for the meantime, put what happened behind you and go on with your lives. Let time heal the wounds and it will.
20 Feb 11
Well said my friend...I admit that..it was all my fault. I will never do it again not just for my in-laws alone but to all friends around us. Well, no need of thinking it back. Face the reality, I must have to rise up and face all my adversaries and let them see I can do it.. Thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here..
18 Feb 11
How awful that you are betrayed this way we all moan and chat with a person we consider we can trust and its often the case that they are not to be trusted its very sad and all turns around on you this must be learned from and remem ber there are very few people we can totally trust in our lifes put this down to experiance and try to remember to be open and honest how you feel with the person issues are with.
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18 Feb 11
You must have felt very bad being betrayed by someone you trusted. You should never have said anything bad in an e-mail. Anyone could read it, and the internet is not the safest place, but still I am sure you didn't expect anything to be printed. It is probably a good policy not to put anything in writing. On the other hand, everyone needs someone to tell their problems to. Were they just printed to hurt you or was there another reason? When I first got my computer, I printed everything. After replacing the ink in just a month, I stopped doing that.
18 Feb 11
The lesson we learn from this is we must keep our mouth shut whenever someone is pouring out their sentiments over someone we both knew. We must always safeguard our interest and just give them what they deserved, only listening ears and no more no less. Thank you for this discussions, it will be a good reminder for all who has in-laws like that!
18 Feb 11
Perhaps that is why humans have two ears and only one mouth. Talk less and listen more. I sympathize with you, But then "The arrow which has left the bow and the word which has left the mouth" have to go somewhere. Unfortunately they landed you in a predicament, a very difficult one. Things will quieten, in time. Just make shure you do not repeat the same mistake again. My sympathies again.