Is lying to your spouse alright?
By pmccarthy1
@pmccarthy1 (32)
United States
February 18, 2011 12:34pm CST
Some people say it's alright to lie to avoid an argument. As long as it's not harmful they say it just keeps the peace.
My opinion:
I feel this is detrimental to the overall trust in the relationship. You can never hide a lie, the truth will always come out. When it does you've then damaged the foundation of a relationship. No matter how large or small a lie, it's a deal breaker.
What do you think?
3 responses
@outlawgirl3464 (97)
• United States
20 Feb 11
I don't think it's ever OK to outright lie. To not tell EVERYTHING you know is another matter altogether. But if you have to lie to your partner about anything, then perhaps you should think about your relationship with that person. If you know that you can't tell them the truth and not get knocked through the wall, then perhaps you don't need to be with that person in the first place. If the relationship can't stand up to take the truth then it's not a good relationship.
@pmccarthy1 (32)
• United States
20 Feb 11
I believe if you don't tell everything it's still ultimately a lie, but that's just my opinion based on my own experience. When you choose to share your life with someone then your partner has the right to absolutely everything as everything directly effects their life too. If there is a fear of telling the truth for reaction then I would have to agree with you; there's nothing healthy about that relationship. I have always been told the truth is better than a lie and consequences will always be worse when you lie.
@valentinesdiner (1214)
• United States
21 Nov 11
I am with you- - a small lie is a lie and will effect trust, the most important part of any long-term relationship.
@casualkT (140)
• Canada
6 May 11
Doesn't look like a right decision. You did say that everything that is secret is a lie . you can't predict the outcome of a lie because it may turn the other way around /all in all if you tell the truth and the deal breaker whoever they are is a bit soft then why lie to you/them unless you or they really did not know about it
