I Have a crush on a Girl whom People feel has a " Bad Nature"

India
February 19, 2011 7:36am CST
Recently I saw a girl in my college and I feel that I have a huge crush on her. She looks very Beautiful and I must say she is very very hot. I just wanna be friends with her and want to see If things work out between us or not. So I asked my cousin ( A common friend) to just Introduce me to her but he tells me that there is no point in going for her as she has a very bad nature and she keeps on fighting with people all the time. My brother cannot lie to me on that so it is true what he said. But when I see her my heart starts heating up pretty fast. I don't know whether to forget about her or still try for it. I am pretty much confused. Can somebody please help me into this matter.
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12 responses
@Jotomy (6347)
• India
19 Feb 11
Hi pratiksanghvi, how can you say about a girl that her nature is not good or she has a bad nature without knowing about her? Talk to her friendly and find out yourself personally then see, whether she is suitable to you or not. Have a nice day.
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• India
19 Feb 11
I have already mentioned that my Cousin knows her and he told me about it and many of my friends told the same thing too. I am not offending girls or anything like that but I am just saying what I know. I want to check it out myself, but I feel that If what people say comes to be true then I won't like it all. Do you think I should try ?
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@ptower76 (1618)
• United States
19 Feb 11
Well, maybe your cousin tried and was rejected. lol. Just kidding. I think you should try. One man's garbage is another man's treasure. Who are those people to judge about bad nature. Find out for yourself or you might regret it in the future.
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@Jotomy (6347)
• India
19 Feb 11
yes, you better talk to her, may your cousin got rejected because she doesn't want anyone, but talking or knowing her opinion or attitude no body can't judge that she is bad right!. You said you have crush but not love is it. There is lot of difference between crush and love you yourself decide dear it is your personal problem. If you love her then sit with her talk to her know her leave all others' words. These are very personal and emotional things should know by self not be decided or depend on other words or should not see with other eyes. Why she is bad to others check it out with her itself you may get a good response from her, because boys what they think if a girl say no to them then she is not good that is really painful to the girls. Any way all the best dear.
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@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
19 Feb 11
I think you should still try to get to know her, so you can make up your own mind about her. There is usually more to people than what meets the eye, so the only way to know what she is like is to get to know her, no matter if your cousin thinks he knows her or not.
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• India
19 Feb 11
My cousin knows her very well and so do my friends who tell the same thing. I agree with your point that you never know unless and until you try but I don't want to get disappointed at all. I am pretty confused. Do you think I should try ? what if she is committed ?
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@louievill (21344)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
I would agree with puccagirl, how will you find out if you don't try? There can never be a resolve sometimes if you do not take chances, for once forget what other people have to say, it could go bad and yes you can get disappointed but it would just go as far as that, nobody's gonna kill you or hang you if you fail or if things go sour, so what if she's committed? As you said you are only going to make friends for a start, take a chance pal go, go, go
• India
21 Feb 11
You are right louievill that I should at least take a chance. I want to do it desperately but the only thing that bother's me is that when I meet her I should not get disappointed. I am just too low on confidence.
• India
19 Feb 11
Hello friend, If you have this much crush on her, you should talk to her . May be your cousin was right , she might have a bad nature and keep on fighting with people, but so far you are not among those people. There is a chance that she may like you. So why don't you give it a try and find out for yourself. I'm sure it will be worth it. All the best friend.
• India
22 Feb 11
Yes, I will find it out myself and see whether she has a bad nature or not. I hope we get a good tuning between us. I just want her to be my good friend and i will handle the rest.
19 Feb 11
You could get to know her and then realise yourself if she's a good person or bad person. And if she's a bad person your crush on her will just disappear anyway!
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• India
21 Feb 11
Perfectly true. I will just do that and If she is that bad then my crush will go but I don't want the disappointment of losing her.
• China
19 Feb 11
If ,you really have a huge crush on her. you should not listen to anyone. Maybe your cusin is right maybe he is wrong. Everything you should know by yourself..I believe there is no one girl dose not like you if you really love her and want to protect her forever. So , tell her what are you thinking.Good luck
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• India
21 Feb 11
You are right, I should at least tell her what I feel and I will surely do that but first I will try and be friends with her.
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
Maybe whatyou can do is to get to know her yourself. But keep in mindwhat others have observed about her and this might actually save you from hurting yourself because you tried to kn0w the pers0n but with a bit of caution. Peoplehave different perceptions, ideas, and want and of course taste. Goodluck and i hope it tturns out very well for you.
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• India
21 Feb 11
You are right that different people have different thoughts but till now the only thoughts which I have heard are the ones which hurt me. I don't think so many people can be wrong.
@jhaidro (878)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
For a relationship, I have always said it to myself to not care of whatever people say about the person you are with and the thing that you have with her. I see a relationship as something that is just about the two of you. But somehow, there was this one time where a very close friend of mine warned me about the girl I was about to pursue on dating. He told me that maybe it would be better it I see someone else. He did not elaborate on it. He just wanted to tell me that if I want to go on with it, things could go wrong. I did not listen and shortly after, it seems he was right. She was playing me. It maybe good to listen to your own instinct and not listen to people but there are times when what they say helps a lot.
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• India
21 Feb 11
Your answer my friend is like a coin. Two faced. It does not state which face I should rely on.My instinct tells me to at least be friends and I guess I am going to at least be friends with her and then decide for myself what should i do .
@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Do not believe in rumours that easily. You have to find it out on your own. It would be very very unfair for the person if you label her as such without you knowing her on a more personal level.Talk is cheap and everyone can say things about anybody just by hearsays. I pity those who believe in rumours because they are too chicken to find the truth.They have small minds.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 11
Just befriend with the girl and try to know it for yourself if that girl is bad.Just always be reminded about what others say to that girl and don't give your full trust to her. Who knows, if you will get to know each other, she will realize to do good and change her bad attitude.In that case, you might be an angel to her.
• United States
20 Feb 11
Sometimes people get hurt by past relationships and put up "walls" around themselves so they don't get hurt again. Other people tend to see those "walls" as something to use against that person..."oh they have a bad attitude" or "they're not a person you want to be around" (bad nature). Perhaps this girl is one of those people that has been hurt by some relationship in her life. Perhaps you should try to get to know her. You may find that either one: Everyone was right about her; or two: She was really worth getting to know. You never know, she may become your one and only true love. I would not pass up the opportunity to get to know her.
• United States
20 Feb 11
You can get to know her for yourself. Don't take anyones word over knowing her for yourself. She may have had a good reason to fight with those people. They could have disrespected her in some way. I think you should give it a try.
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
20 Feb 11
Maybe just Maybe your the person to make her bad nature go away. She mite be that way so they will leave her alone as she is in college to get a education not a bunch of boy friends. So go and ask her out for coffee or tea. Maybe lunch not dinner yet. Try what do you have to loose and new friend.