Why do women always fall for bad boys??...

@davido (1623)
Canada
February 19, 2011 7:38am CST
Bad boys are the guys that smooth talk their way into the hearts of women, only to leave them wondering what went wrong as they soak their pillows with tears. They are the Mavericks and Lotharios of our time who know exactly how to make women putty in their hands so that they fall hard but leave you shamefully wanting more. But I think most women loves the bad boys...right? Agreed am a guy, so I hope a lady too can ask why do bad girls always get the good guys...lol
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@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
21 Feb 11
This is a generalisation. I am a woman and I do not go out with bad boys as you put it. Each woman is different, although culturally they are brought up to look for certain types and many of them want to rebel against their upbringing. First of all women like men who appear to be sympathetic, who appear to be listening to them, who appear to care about them. These smooth talkers always do all that when courting a woman. Once they have their conquest they tend to move on which leaves the woman bitter and in tears because she got sucked in. Too many encounters like that can make a woman hard and suspicious of every male. Women tend to like men who are masculine. Natural. Trouble is that men who are macho tend to treat women as things to score with and while some women like that most want someone to love them. The macho types have real trouble with the love and romanace side and get aggressive when asked to talk about their feelings. It is all extremely complicated. Too many people these days rely on movies for ideas about romance etc and that is all nonsense. Their expectations lead them to fail every time.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Emmmm...i dont intend to generalize but its just that its so common more than 50% among women if I am right. Your explanation takes on the women who uses their third eyes to look out for the guy and are not carried away by the frivolities of the smooth talker. This guys can act, talk and do anyhow appropriately just to get what they want but attitude is like a smoke...but most ladies refuse to see or smell the smoke up to the extent that if anyone tells them to watch out 'there is a smoke' they tell the person to wake up out of hallucination! Yes people think what they see in movies is the ideal thing...been in pain with a sick, smooth talking, abusive, psychopathic, psychophrenic devil that look so sexy and macho. Failed expectation.
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@mythociate (15761)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
20 Feb 11
First, they don't always. In fact, they hardly ever do. But the bad boys (or we good boys who sometimes become bad ) offer something more-fun---call it 'a thrill.' The thrill is why I enjoyed slamming my head into things from the fourth- thru the ninth-grade: because--though it was potentially/temporarily harmful--the human immune-system (by the power of God) works to erase the effects of such things.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Yes true.....so good boy can be bad boys if they want to at times only they chose to be good boys due to the after effect...rite?
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@mythociate (15761)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
21 Feb 11
"The after-effect" is what they'll be taking the blame for, whether it's good or bad, no matter WHAT the 'before-effect' may be
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• Slovenia
20 Feb 11
goodtoo see we've got some guys over here too who ask questions like this, not only women. so to answer you, I think it's not really 'bad boy' attitude that attracts women, but because it's like forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest and about bad boys we all hear stuff like, dont go out with them, they'll only play you etc etc and it's kind of tempting to us I think, cause deep down qwe kind of feel we're stronger than them, or that maybe we'll be able to dominate them and nsomehow this way show others they're not really that bad.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
hmmmm and also maybe the most beautiful and good looking fruit taste so bad..lol So its just a matter of trying to satisfy appetite or curiosity sometimes that make the lady to try the bad guy out...and maybe for fun and excitement....but they still come out to show how bad they are later...i think...rite?
• Slovenia
24 Feb 11
lol yes, you may be right. I'm a woman myself, so I should know something, no xP yep, you're right some may, but there are also rare exceptions who mayact all bad while with friends and stuff, but when they get in a relationship and fall in love some may completely change and drop this bad guy attitude. after all I think it's just all up in the head of the guys just as some kind of defending mechanism with which they kind of wanna hide weakness all human beings have, but men will be men, right and men are kind of labeled as stronger than women, hence some choose bad attitude over the mellow one lol
@swissheart (6486)
• Romania
19 Feb 11
I was asking myself the same question and to tell you the truth I simply can't find an answer. I have the same problem. I can't appreciate a good uy who really cares for me. instead of that I keep thinking about this jerk who broke my heart into little pieces. love s***
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
As I said earlier that these guys or bad boys know exactly what they want and how to get it. With every flirting technique in the book up their sleeve, they have a chivalrous aura, exude animal magnetism and unforgivingly know exactly how to charm the pants of a woman with their wittiness....so its hard to appreciate a good guy that you see my dear Swissheart.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Yeah...so no matter how a guy think he is nice or how nice a guy is he must learn to be bad sometimes so as to make his relationship not boring.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
19 Feb 11
Hi. davido. I am a female and I wonder the same thing too. I see the good men with trifling women.. And I see the no good men with these good women. It is vice versa at times. Men and women just need to wisen up and be true and real to the person that they are with. Women need to do the same thing too. People just love the rugged and bad boy mentality. I don't like this kind of attitude.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 11
Maybe they do because opposite poles attract? :(
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
These Casanovas which they are, are well versed when it comes to smooth talking the ladies and keeping them engrossed and until they are hooked. Maybe its the opposite poles that is in motion then. And the ladies just find them hard to walk away from.
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@ada8may21 (2419)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
I am a gal, I fall in love twice. First in the father of my son who leaves me after knowing that I am pregnant. Then next to the man I love now, who I caught cheating on me. However I dont consider them bad, its just that they have their flaws, mistakes and imperfections.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Well you can say that again. While you see it as mistake and imperfections which is a normal thing in human beings, some of this guys in them it is a permanent thing namely to be irresponsible! hopely these men did this act only to you and not to other ladies they come across in their lives- to abandon and to cheat as usual.
• Mexico
19 Feb 11
Women also tend to be very flaky, except they are flaky at the beginning of the relationship, when they have nothing to loose and where there is not so many consequences.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
I am a lady and I also observed that lots of girls really easily fall in love with bad guy. I have one friend that says she loves a rugged guy because he seems very protective and will do anything just to please her. I think some women thought that good guys are just too good to be true and lack initiative and so serious that sometimes turn the relationship so boring and no challenge at all. But personally, of course I won't fall with a bad guy because the situation in the future, you know the things that might happen the scenario and everything, is pretty much given.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
24 Feb 11
A bad guy will be very rugged and protective, even over protective as he is having and eaten what he wants for now and also think other people are like him, but the day he snaps back and shows the kind of person he is...Oh my! One has to look and think much on the future...unless on just wanted to catch the fun and not really expect anything thing out of the relationship with a supposedly bad boy
@dodo19 (33320)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Feb 11
Even though I am a woman, I'm still not sure why this is. I ask myself this question as well. Personally, I can't entirely figure it out.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
The bad boys know exactly what they want and how to get it. With every flirting technique in the book up their sleeve, they have a chivalrous aura, exude animal magnetism and unforgivingly know exactly how to charm the pants of a woman with their wittiness. Thats why it is very difficult to figure out.
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@sriroshan (2586)
• India
19 Feb 11
Davido I do agree with you to some extend since I have also noticed that so called bad boy by the society always happen to be friendly with the ladies from good family may be because of the talk or the their straight forwardness and some other quality. But all women ARE not same as you think
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Yes they are not...but they are few. And the other few that can join them are scared of what people will say...because people, families, friends see a good guy but she sees a different fella in the smooth nice guy.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 11
In my case i don't fall for the bad guy. But in my point of view, it's the obsession to tame the hearts of a lion that increases their passion to pursue them. It's like they are thinking that it's not too late for these people to take a turn in their lives. Good guys and girls who fall for the BAD ones still hope that their love could melt all the badness in them with their love... :) Good luck! :)
@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
there is just something that allures the ladies back and wanting more its the untamed masculinity. And ladies feels as you have said that they can tame, melt and control them...but no way!
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@rameshchow (5284)
• India
19 Feb 11
The boys who are looking bad are not really bad. They are very much kind hearted. And they wanna show their REAL CHARACTER TO THEIR LOVED ONCE, i.e., TO THEIR GIRL FRIEND/LOVER. And they are very much openly talking with their girlfriends, and they are very much sensitive with them. Like wise they are sincere in their love. So automatically a girl wanna live with him.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Then if the girl lives with him successfully and he act responsively then he is not a bad guy, he is a good guy he only has the outlook of a bad guy and the outlook does not determine who a person is. Right? Thanks
@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
...I mean to say responsibly and not responsively...note.
• India
20 Feb 11
Today lovers, tomorrow couples, money needs will make them busy...
@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
I think that this is the major problem for women. I cant understand their reasons why this happens to them but they always fall for it. I do not want to judge or anything like that but maybe it is about being on the spot lite. Most bad boys are popular wherever they are and maybe, just maybe, some women wants to share the fame or whatever you want to call it. Its just sad that most endings of these relationships, the women are left with nothing and the dude does not even bother to look back.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
It’s the overflowing swagger and the boldness that they have that leaves women swooning, allowing them to get away with the stuff they do. They are popular and yes ladies want to be seen to be the one going out with the popular guy with the super swagger and be famous for it....but they seems to know it is for a while!!!
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@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
Whenever I see people like this, I have a awkward smile on my face. I see them as a happy couple but for sure that in no time, it will be a roller coaster ride.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Yeah sure and even if an angel fall right in their eyes from heaven and tell them to be carefull they will throw their shoe at the angel..lol they have been carried away by the swagger.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
23 Feb 11
Hi Davido I´d fall for a bad boy if I were affraid of him. If I were affraid that he could damage me emotionally, and if I had no more options rather than him... if I had no reason to rest with him... I´d just Rrrrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnn, before I get more involved... (damage+damage+damge)... Hehehe... Blessings!... Dainy
@davido (1623)
• Canada
24 Feb 11
Better...nobody said we should not run or avoid to get involved with some nasty fellas either male or female...unless or otherwise stated...lol. Cheeeers
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@raj7shot (842)
• India
5 Mar 11
you had done gud.. but y u cant able to find it first... How you can love him without knowing him fully.. Then its not love dear...?
• United States
20 Feb 11
You explained it. The bad boy Knows how to woo a woman. And.. they play by their own rules.That is exciting and a little dangerous. You can't predict a bad guy. so the good girl that is attracted to a bad guy is seeking the danger that comes with it. But there are many , many women who Want a good man. They are seeking out the nice guy. but not a boring nice guy. I know there are guys who are nice and Not boring all at the same time. They are just hard to see right off. the bad guy Sticks out. Puts himself out there with the attitude , take it or leave it. Nice guys are around but the don't put themselves out like that and many woman never notice them.It is sad because the nice guy can be just as exciting as an bad guy.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Sure Sarahruthbeth22 well said. There are nice guys but are on the more reserved side and somehow the ladies just overlook them simply because they are not loud with their original gold attitude but here are the fake ones who knows and have studied all the rules and are out and loud and ladies think YES! I got it...too bad they got the guys that took time to look a their weakness and capitalize on it. Yeah nice guys can be exiting only they are careful and not carefree.
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@akangirl (2437)
• India
20 Feb 11
I did fall for one bad guy or you can say a womanizer.He was adventurous like me and even though i knew his past reputation of having so many girlfriends , but it felt like a challenge to me which is exciting.Good guys are mostly shy in bedroom area whereas bad guys are confident,bold and wild which is exactly what i or any other woman look in a guy.But in the end the relation ends.But i didn't regret it as it was just fun for me and as i knew his reputation so i knew that this relation is not gonna last.I wish good guys were also confident, passionate like bad guys.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Thats cool Akangirl. Since you already have it at the back of your mind that this is just for fun and pretence...but if it works out good, if not life continues. You got what you wanted because you know the antecident of this player of a guy. I hope ladies will help to make there good guy more confident and passionate in the bed, room and in generality of their life...maybe...
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Women love a challenge. I think it's secretly every woman's dream to be "the girl" that changes a bad boy to a good one. It makes them feel more special. Bad boys tend to know what women want to hear too, so they end up falling for them.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
They all for these guys because they are sleek, smooth talking demons..lol and they go all out to get what they want armed with all the arsenal in their sleeves. So women keep falling because these women refuse to see with their third eyes.
20 Feb 11
well im sorry but i dont really like the bad boy. being hurt by a boy/man doesnt appeal to me. if the women are silly enough to fall for them then thats up to them, but some women never learn and obviously dont want to find the right guy.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Yeah...maybe those women love the pretence and loves living in the fantasy worlds and at the end of the day when all crash down they weep for a week or a month and they start all over again into the fantasy world of 'bad boys'
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
I love bad boys when I was in high school and college, I think it's more of the thrill that it gives you, and it gives you a different feeling when a known ladies man got his eyes on you.. though I admit, I have been cheated on more than once, but I just say charge it to experience, and I had fun, that's why I just laugh at it when I think back.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Good to laugh it off than not cry over it....yes everyone of us want to be in the happening things...and want to be among the happening guys and babes but it must have a limit or it becomes a dearth that eat deep and makes one to be irresponsible....
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
20 Feb 11
I think it all comes back to fate. If a person is fated to love somebody, nothing can stop the chemistry that draw each other together. Scientifically, it has been proven that unlike poles attract, like poles repel.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
I hope fate will not close the eyes of our understanding then...
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
19 Feb 11
I was played around by one of those bad girls and well i suffered enough because of her .
@davido (1623)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Interesting, so you must have learnt your lesson and learn how not to give in to a bad gurl right?....must have been a real suffering for you. I heard the story of a guy who was played like that and he ended up sending this bad girl to school, pay for all the tuition while he was working whole heartedly for his 'love' at the end the babe absconded (well no written agreement between them..lol) with another bad boy that later showed his true color after 8 yrs of marriage.