does the love means physical relationship?

India
February 20, 2011 5:41am CST
hello friends i am here to discuss you my most important incident in my life. i don't know everyone's mind or their way of thinking but i think i should discuss this with you. one day i had found one couple having their hand in contact. i asked the boy in alone that what is this? he told me that this is love. what a shameless person he was i think and i had told him a very important thing about love, but before i discuss it with you i want you to guess about it or explain me the real meaning of love and if you are the true lover then you should able to explain it, am i right? please tell me what ever you think no matter right or wrong, only i want to tell you reality, have a nice day and god bless us.
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@dodo19 (33590)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Feb 11
I don't think that love is just about having and/or being in a physical relationship. I think that it's only a part of it. I think that there are many aspects that comes into play with love, in my opinion.
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@mythociate (15946)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
21 Feb 11
Love involves 'touching' like the Earth's atmosphere involves 'people breathing.' Love is the life you live. If your life requires you to do something freaky, then you will do it and--when they see that life made you do it--those who love you will 'help you do it' (usually by referring you to someone else who can help you better).
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@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
24 Feb 11
Lovely comment! Blessings!... Dainy
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
You know, friend. There is no stable meaning of love. Because love never be quote by one person alone. It will define by many and those definition are all differently...
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@amirev777 (2820)
• India
20 Feb 11
Hi No, love does not mean physical relationships. But human beings are used to expressing their love through some physical gesture like hugging, kissing, caressing, etc. There are some physical relationship that are based on pure lust. So kissing your girlfriend when you are sexually aroused can be a way of expressing lust, while a small kiss on the cheeks of your younger sis can be a way of expressing your love for her.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
There's a saying by a famous author Antoine de Saint-Exupery: "Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction". If I were to interpret this based on your question, the phrase "gazing at each other" means the physical contact of two persons in love. And the other one "looking outward together in the same direction", means, as long as you both feel that you love each other, there's no need for physical contact. Love is feelings by the heart and mind not by the skin.
• India
26 Feb 11
hello friend and thanks for your response and i want to tell you that you are right, but there are some more things involve in love that is to whom you love you have to be honest with that person including both physically and mentally. but i don't think it is present in many gulf countries, am i right? have a nice day and god bless us.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
Yes, honesty is very important. You should first be honest to yourself so you can be honest to anyone. But I'm not sure about the gulf countries actually, why did you ask me about that? Have a nice day also khan! Godbless...
• India
21 May 11
hello, first thing is that i am sorry for replying so late. is that means you are not from gulf country?
@chavezrmc (5777)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Love is deeper than that. But when you love someone any phsical contact means a lot. Holding hands means that you are aware of you partner presence and it can give you warmth knowing that you are proud of him/her to be held in public. Theres nothing wrong with that. Its acceptable to the public and people have different way of showing love. Love can be felt in any simple ways that we do.
• India
26 Feb 11
hello my friend and i respect your feelings but can you tell me if you do in this in public place then what it will effect on surrounding? please understand my feelings, i am not the enemy of love but i want to tell you the truth about love. the love is second name of worship at least according to me. so i will tell you if your worship is true then your life will be wonderful and if your worship is false then you will definately find the result in your life in form of your children. what you will say now? please reply soon and have a nice day and god bless us.
@chavezrmc (5777)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
i love to see people holding hands in public, i can see the affection, i can see the sweetness and hopefully that is not for public display only but also even when they are in private as well. its far different from kissing in public which is for me is too much display of affection. I have a clean mind, and as far as i know there's nothing wrong with that. if you show love only in private then maybe it's far from love, maybe it is lust, im sorry to say that. But there's nothing wrong with holding hands in public, not at unless you have a negative understanding of it. Anyway love cant be shown by holding hands alone, its just one of the ways.
• India
17 Mar 11
hello friend and thanks for your response and tell me what you will tell if you come to know that your behavior of holding hands and kissing is making bad sense and thinkings in others then will you still do this?
@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Defining the true meaning of love is one of the hardest things to do. Each individual has his own way of giving the word love its meaning. I understand that it may be strange for you to experience or see people trying to touch or be a little more closer to the person they say that they are in love with. I have nothing against that however given the difference people have, they also express their love differently. Some people are more physical in nature. They want to hold your hand more and hug you often and do other things like it. It is just their ways. Actions speak louder than words right? So I guess that is it. People express their emotion through their action.
• India
23 Feb 11
hello friend and thanks for your comment.before proceeding further on this topic i would first tell you that please read the comment i had given above your's comment. if you are finished of reading of that comment then please tell me that how much you are satisfy or give your opinion on that comment. first thing i would like to tell you that i am not the enemy of love. i also the big fan of love because the love is the second meaning of worship. i agree with you that all people having their different sense on each thing, but can you tell me true or honestly that only they are hugging each other and touching their hands? if you notice this things then you can get what actually i am trying to tell you. if there is one child and he or she is started smoking and we say that let it be it is common then my dear friend i will tell you that he/she will then have so much courage that they will start drink and it is only begining and you know at what it ends, isn't it? please tell me if i am wrong anywhere. please ignore if i had done any wrong thing, have a nice day and god bless us.
• India
26 Feb 11
hello friend Graptopetalum, i had saw you many of places in my discussion and thanks for answering some of comment as i am not free. i would like to tell you the main reason of this increasing dirty things is our elder. please have a look on this sentences now: you know whatever the parents do naturally the child of that person do? there is one very good natural motto " if you put one spoiled onion in the bag of fresh onion it will naturally spoils the others" and this is the law of nature which can be also happen in our society also. the sentence you wrote about drinking is very far, we can control the child from drinking by making our atmosphere good. because your child will get very soon from parents and if you believe in god the there is one very good sentence in Islam that Almighty Allah treat us with all deeds which we have done in our life before, so nobody can escape from their deeds this can be also say in other form that " you will have whatever you sown" what you will tell about this? have a nice day and god bless us.
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
20 Feb 11
hello friend! Of-course it is wrong my dear friend.i do not believe that love means a need of body.i think it is only a part of love.love is so beautiful gift from ALLAH.it makes our life so great.yes i also feeling shame when i saw people think love means physical relation.how can we teach them about real meaning of love.love is now fashion for young generation.yes friend you are right. thanks a lot.
• Canada
24 Feb 11
So you express your love in Allah's way by marrying four women, making then walk behind you and cover themselves up all the time while you walk around holding hands with your male friends. You don't like this love fashion? Perhaps you should go back to the 6th century where your belief should have stayed!
@ceres31 (141)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Love has no exact meaning, cause it has no boundaries. Love can be express through actions. If you know the real meaning of love, then that is not love. =). You cant say I love him/her because he/she is intelligent or etc... Love cant be seen but felt.
• India
17 Mar 11
hello friend and thanks for your response. i am agree with your sentences and i respect your feelings. can you tell me one thing that is there is true and honest love in this age most of the time, i don't think so please tell me honestly.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
When you are in love, you want to touch your lover's hands, to kiss him, to embrace him to let him know how much you love him. Lovers do this thing, physically expressing feelings for each other. But of course, this expression comes with respect. You can't do this in public. If you really care for your object of desire, you can do all of this things with discreet!
• India
26 Feb 11
hello friend thanks for your response and i want to tell you that you are very correct that this things cannot be do in public, but i think you just missed one thing, even if you do this thing underground( hiding from others) but this will be also not a true love. because this excitement can not be named as love. this is only our wish, isn't it? because if you are in true love with your partner then you should be honest with him or her including physically and mentally. i had saw some people, they are changing their partners as they are changing their clothes, that means one day with one and other day with other, can you name this love? because the love is the feeling of living with the one all over the life, isn't it? i think that this is not a true love at all, i respect your feelings, please reply soon and have a nice day and god bless us.
• China
20 Feb 11
No love means not having physical relation. But when two people are in true love then they can do physical relation. Love means respect each other believe each other and understand each other. Love means special feeling for each other which is not physical relation which could be romance.
• India
26 Feb 11
hello friend and thanks for your response and i want to tell you that you are right that people who are loving honestly to the partner can have physical relation with him/her but don't you think if this is happened in public places can have bad result in surrounding. ex. there are so many cases about rapes and so many dirty things happening in this surrounding which are making us uncomfortable as well as dangerous for us, isn't it? if you are the true lover then you can understand this, the physical relationship in public places addict some other people which can be result in the rapes and other bad thing, do you agree with me? have a nice day and god bless us.
@raj7shot (842)
• India
20 Mar 11
Love must come through mental relationship and not through physical relationship.Love coming through physical relationship is not love its something named other...
• Canada
24 Feb 11
I'm really shocked about this! Having their hands in contact? You found that offensive! What planet are you living on? In much of the world it's perfectly normal for couples to hold hands, hug and kiss in public, whether they've just started dating or have been married for decades. OK, it often goes too far but I think the strict Islamic thing of keeping women under wraps so you don't see their disgusting bodies while you hold hands with your male buddies is far worse. It's the difference between making people stay away from the sea so they don't drown or letting them go down to beach, swim and surf. It's funny that societies where women tend to wear more revealing clothing, find their own husbands and get to know them well before marriage have much more respect for women than fundamentalist Muslim countries.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
24 Feb 11
Wooooooooowwww Khanrabiullah love is the hardest topic to talk about. About my personal experience I´d tell you that love is my motto. Love is the energy that makes you be positive. Without love, the hells comes over. There are many kinds of love. But the love between a man and a woman, needs physical touch. Since you are already for physical touch. I mean, you need an age. Where you are physical and emotional ready. God says, when you marry by the Catholic Church, that both, man and woman became one... is just one body, one heart, and one soul. And since my soul is on a body, touch is needed, even if it were once each 2 months, or once each I don´t know... but it is indeed needed. Your body catches that energy that reaches your soul. But, just if you have the age. Sometimes words cann´t express more, there are limits for words, deeper limits... so there... where there are no more liable words... the pshycal touch can express more... even if is just a hand touch... even just a kiss... Blessings!... Dainy
@naani533 (72)
• India
20 Feb 11
hi friend... love doesnt mean the physical relationship. this is a relation with heart.but in love physical relationship is not bad. it is their right when they are desiring each other with whole heartly
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Love can be shown in many ways, either physical,emotional or spiritual. There are different kinds of love depending on the person whom we give it. For me love is an affection one feels to the other. Here's one of my quotes to publish on my blogsite and i want to share it with you... "God's love is Divine; Woman's love is sacrificing; Man's love is endearing but my love for you is beyond anyone can imagine...." This is my brief description of love...it has a deep feeling...a profoundness that those who has it feel and understand its meaning.
• Thailand
20 Feb 11
Hello, for me i think there's no right or wrong thing in this world. Everything, including love, can't be judge by "Right" or "Wrong" they are just "Different". Some people might say that love is emotional and it is something you can feel, not through physical contact but by heart. For me that saying makes sense. Everyone can feel love but how do you express it? Love can be so great that we dont know how express it, that's when physical contact comes into love. Holding, hug, kiss, is the way that we know how to express love. Think about it, if you love someone dont you want to express it to him/her? Since you cant see love because it is emotional you have to express it by physical contact. There's no shame in expressing your feeling (well other people may think it's inappropriate if you hug, holding hand, etc. in public but that's what people around you "think"). I dont think we should say that the boy is shameless person since we are judging him from our experience. He just acted different from what people said "Right"
@hlgmdt (301)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
To answer your question, I would like to share a concept in psychology which I have read. According to Robert Sternberg, consummate or 'perfect' love has three components: intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy refers to the physical aspect. It includes being together physically and having physical contact. Physical contact, I believe, is a significant aspect of love but it shouldn't be treated as the most important or the only thing to consider in love. Love is more than having a physically intimate relationship. It requires the decision to love the other person (commitment) and the desire (passion) to be with that person.
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
You know, when you are in the right stage of life you will realize the true meaning of love. That love is both carnal and platonic. Platonic meaning pure, with respect and all other virtues. It is also carnal, that's why couples produce babies. If it is only mere physical - then it is not love...
• China
20 Feb 11
No love means not having physical relation. But when two people are in true love then they can do physical relation. Love means respect each other believe each other and understand each other. Love means special feeling for each other which is not physical relation which could be romance.