February 21, 2011 1:26am CST
hi. Iam very reserved and shy person. it is very difficult for me to express myself and this is creating more problems for me. I can speak to one person at a time, but in group i just become speechless. Just because i don't speak much, people misunderstood me and they labelled me as arrogant person. are you able to express more openly or shy away from people like i do?
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21 Feb 11
Hi there ksmita! You remind me of the old me. I was once like you before but thankfully I was able to overcome it. It takes a lot of boldness to take your first step but once you take your first step for sure you'll want to take another step and then another. Though it might be slow at first but in the long run you'll find how expressive you are. I was shy before because I was afraid. Yes afraid that I will sound ridiculous and they might laugh at me or maybe my idea will not be accepted or out of the context. But that happens to a lot of people. I suggest do something you are comfortable or confident with. Show what you've got and always give your best shot. You can join clubs as well to expose yourself to other people. People usually are shy because they are not used to it. Hope you'll be able to overcome this. Have a nice day!
21 Feb 11
I used to be shy and timid in high school but through college, I learned to overcome this. I really have to cause my career will depend on how much I will be able to speak infront of many people. I guess overcoming this will help you, try to assess yourself, build up some confidence ,join forums and soon you'll find yourself talking, expressing yourself well!
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22 Feb 11
Same problem with me too. You are not the only one though. When I surrounded by bunch of people I don't know, I feel shy and out of topics to discuss. So, that make two of us here. I should work on this issue right, because I really want to hook up some girls, so this is the biggest obstacle to me now.
21 Feb 11
Maybe you feel intimidated by your friends who speak so much when you are with them, that's why you choose not to speak anymore. You should not be shy when you are with your friends. Try to be with them always, so that you can more or less gauge their likes and dislikes so you could butt in when they are talking about it. Okay?
21 Feb 11
I recognize the things that you write about, and I understand how you feel. I was very shy when I was younger, and that created many problems for me. Groups were especially difficult for me, and I wasn't able to talk in a group. I hated group projects and group discussions because I wasn't able to express myself, and I always felt that I was different. Many people thought that I was unfriendly or arrogant, but that was very far from the truth. I wanted to participate and I wanted to talk to the others, but I couldn't. Now I have become less shy, but I clearly remember how hard it was to be very shy.