Are men more forgiving than women?

@Humbug25 (12552)
February 21, 2011 7:33am CST
In my experience of nearly 40 years of life (that was nearly!!) I have found men to be more forgiving than women. Men seem to be able to forgive and forget so much easily in my opinion. If someone was to wrong a man in some way then given time he will forgive them but if the shoe were on the other foot then depending on how severe the wrong doing was, I think most women wouldn't care if she never spoke or saw that person ever again. As a mother I am very forgiving of my children of course but depending on how badly I have been wronged by someone will depend on the level of forgiveness, if at all. I think women are more sensitive and so are hurt by wrong doers more easily whereas men can brush things off a little easier and don't get bothered by the things that upset women. Do you share my views in this matter or am I on my own here? Do you think men are more forgiving than women?
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@p1kef1sh (45648)
21 Feb 11
Naturally I agree Humbug! LOL. I have found that some women struggle to admit that they can be in the wrong at times - but then I've met a few men with a similar trait. I think that men prefer to just tick along whereas women have a greater sense of urgency. However, I will cut corners whereas the Boss will do the job properly redoing it again if necessary. I am trying to learn greater patience though. As for forgiving. I don't hold grudges and I am friendly with people that have caused me great offence in the past. Life's too short I think.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hi p1kef1sh Do you think I am going to get responses from men agreeing with me and the female mylotters in total disagreement? It is just how I see it and I have certainly heard more men say that life's too short rather than women too but that's a whole other discussion haha Cheers p1key
@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Did that make any sense hahaha
@p1kef1sh (45648)
21 Feb 11
It made sense. I might wear something as a dare but to feel comfortable and unselfconscious would take some doing. I have a lady friend who allows men to wear womens clothes at her house (no she's not one of "those" women''). But I've not joined her group. Not really my thing... although.. darn now you've set me off on a fantasy! LOL.
@chiyosan (29392)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
Well i guess that is right. I mean i have seen how originated women are and maybe because women are more emotional hence the tendency really is that me forget rather faster than us women. Does that mean they germ over things pretty quickly?? Hmmm. have
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@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hi chiyosan Yes I think that women bare grudges a lot longer than men and as a woman I am no exception. Thanks for responding
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Feb 11
Many men many minds. Thanks....
@rameshchow (5284)
• India
21 Feb 11
yes, men have so kind heart. And men can forgive them life partners faster than women. Because the night time is the weak point for men. They can hold the women legs also.... (with love only.. so men are great, hahaha, i am kidding, women are more great than men, because the word mother is ultimate).
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@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hi there rameshchow Well I am not saying that men are more kind hearted than women or vise versa, I just think men deal with things in different ways an their way is to forgive easily and move on, women bare grudges for much longer. Thanks for your response
• India
21 Feb 11
There is limit for expressing human feelings. I came from out of the limits of your question, sorry my friend,
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
I don't think so my dear. I mean, it isn't my observation that men are more forgiving than women. You as a mother should have known that because as a mother, you have the heart to be more forgiving when your children did something wrong. Women tend to be soft hearted and tend to be forgiving even to their partners. Men on the other hand are not emotional and doesn't know how to express their emotions that is why we thought they are forgiving, but they are not.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hi there maean_19 Like I said, as a mother I am very forgiving towards my children but adults are responsible for their own wrong doings to others and are not so easily forgiven. Like I also said before that it does depend on the severeness of the wrong doing. I think women are very soft hearted but when someone crosses them then it is a different matter. I have seen men fall out before over something quite serious and 6 months later go out and have a drink together. If that was me then I wouldn't want to see or speak to that person ever again after what they had done. It is, however, all my opinion and the experiences I personally have had. Many thanks for your response
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@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
Hi there Humbug! Well, as for me, I think i consider myself more forgiving. I have forgiven the person who cheated and lied to me. Same is through with my friends who lied to me. I may have lost my trust to them, but trust and forgive are two different things. Yes, I had forgave what they did to me and forget, but I could not trust them anymore and won't allow them to fool me again or abuse my kindness.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
I think women are more forgiving than because women forgive even if the other party is not asking for an apology. Women also admits their mistakes easily and ask for forgiveness while men wouldn't even if it is their fault. They seem to find it hard to say "I'm sorry". Instead what they will do is to show that they admit they're mistakes by being so sweet and caring afterwards. And women will accept that as a way of saying sorry. So, i'd say that women are more forgiving.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
27 Feb 11
Hi ya aprilten Hmmm I think it is true that women admit their mistakes more easily and are more ready to ask for forgiveness and men just sweep past it by forgetting about it and try to be nice. I don't think men play the headgames that women do though either, they don't think so long and hard about things. Thanks for your response
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
22 Feb 11
I dont think i'm that good in forgiving --- it depends on the person who hurts though.I would never forget those who play around...such a mean thing to do!
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@Humbug25 (12552)
27 Feb 11
Hi there sunnycool I would never forgive a man if he cheated on me as then that gives him the opportunity to make a fool of me again!! Thanks for your response
21 Feb 11
No i dont think so i feel woman are more forgiving and have put up with alot more from men.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
27 Feb 11
Hi there housechaos7 Oh I have no doubt in my mind that women put up with a lot more from men but maybe that is because they are more tollerable!! Thats another dicussion haha Thanks for your response
@ElicBxn (59654)
• United States
21 Feb 11
I think there is a difference of emotional investment. A woman tends to invest more emotionally so her feeling of betrayal is greater. When a man emotionally invests, as in gets married and deeply loving a woman, then he feels very betrayed and is a lot less forgiving if she strays. I find (as a woman) that other women do tend to emotionally invest more quickly and deeply than men, and I think its part of our genetic heritage that makes us do it. Its why women confide in other women, because of the emotional need to invest. It is what knits the mother to a child, to her mate, and family members. Most men on the other hand, tend to form a different sort of alliance system, still based on trust, but not so much on emotions. Hence, if they feel another man is sorry for a breach of trust, they are more likely to trust him again than if they had that emotional investment in the person who betrayed them.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hi there ElicBxn I do think that emotions have a lot to do with it all and as a rule women are way more openly emotional than men and act upon things more irrationally because of that. Many thanks for your response friend
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• United States
21 Feb 11
Do you think men are more forgiving than women? Perhaps, but it is my thinking that "some" men are not as emotional as women and will not allow to tell others about certain aspects of their lives. I suspect that there are an equal amount of men and or women who can be more forgiving, and I base this simply by my observations with people I know directly. I do know some very sensitive men and also some very bull headed women. So it is possible, but are they expressing their true inner feelings though.
@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hey there hardworkinggurl Hmm I think you have a point there and I guess it does depend on what you have witnessed in your own lifetime and I guess it could be a cultural thing too. I know that in certain countries the women would always forgive their men for example. If a guy cheated on me there wouldn't even be 3 strikes and your out, it would deffinately be, the once - you're so outta here!!! Thanks for your response as always
• United States
21 Feb 11
I think men are not more forgiving than woman. If a woman cheat son a man it's like killing his mother. That man is out for blood. Let him cheat on his wife his wife will forgive him and take his sorry azz back. LOL true to the core.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hi there giftsandbagscom Oh I think that is true in some cases and others not so. I would never forgive a guy for doing that to me, I could never trust him not to ever do it again!! Thanks for your response
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
21 Feb 11
Hi Humbug, But I have a different notion on this subject. Men are more arrogant and revenging sort of towards one he has had a fight or something unpleasant. But women are more forgiving. If you know two women fighting verbally and staying on non taking terms for a long time they would forget everything and be friends again. Therefore there is a saying that do not talk ill of other woman for it could reach the target by any means. This is my experience only.
@Humbug25 (12552)
21 Feb 11
Hi ya krajibg Well I am not so forgiving unless someone is really sorry for what they have done and of course depending on what they have done! Thanks for your response