Choosing relationships

Vietnam
February 22, 2011 10:43pm CST
I have many friends whom choose very clearly their relationships. A boy friend said me that his wife would be a rich woman or her family must be rich. And she must live in this city for a long time. My friend look for this girl for a long time. Now, he also see a person whom he like. Do you think that we should look for relationships following some standards which we want to have?
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@fherfher (259)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
There is a lot of people put standards before entering a relationship.Because they are thinking for their future. Most are being practical and they want to marry to a rich man/woman.Some are looking for a good looking person or a perfect husband or wife that they can display. And some people choose their partner based on the man attitude. But as for my experience. I fall to a man that not even meet halves of my standards. I love him with unknown reason. ;). I just love him, that's all.
• India
23 Feb 11
if you love someone without any reason but if you love someone for money or for compromise that is not love that is compromise if im not wrong.
@fherfher (259)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
I agree with you. You will not find happiness or you will feel always empty if love doesn't exist between the two of you. Its like you are still looking for something you can't find. :)
• Vietnam
24 Feb 11
Hi everyone. I have been loved a man without reasons. I'm happy with this. But when I heart the story of my friends, I turn back to ask myself that if I want to love a person who have better conditions, I can do that. A truth that if we're too poor, it's hard to keep the happiness in our family. Do you agree about this?
• United States
23 Feb 11
I think its important to have keep in mind an idea of what we want. But thats all keep it in mind, we have to be realistic and not stuck on what we want and it must be that way. You'll never find anyone being like that. but we do have to be realistic to ourselves and thats why we should look for relationships following a standard but we shouldn't let those standards take over completely and overshadow what we really need. you could be so wrapped up in your list that you miss the true perfect someone for you so don't let what you THINK you need overshadow what you really need.and also be who you wanna find, if you want to be with someone who likes to workout you yourself have to like to work out what makes you think that that person wants to have someone that doesn't work out you know? So, just be open but also constructive. =)
• Vietnam
24 Feb 11
You mean that we must pay for every things we want to, right?
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Everyone would like to marry someone rich. Marrying just because someone fits all your standards is a bad idea and most people regret it. You can't control who you fall in love with, and should marry someone you love. You should have some things in common for it to work out though.
• Vietnam
24 Feb 11
You know, there are many people go to this city to work. Living is too expensive so they can't buy a house or to have a good jobs. So, they need to get married with a city person. After this wedding, they can have a house and a number of inhabitants which can help them have a better work. There are more and more people do the same my friends.
• India
23 Feb 11
it is really not good for any relationship any relationship started like this would not last for long time as the boyfriend does not love her he just love her money.and i dont think gf like that.relationship is something which does not see status or bank account.
• Vietnam
24 Feb 11
Oh no, my friend loves his girl. But certainly, before he loves her, he choose her family or her money. He said that he met many girls whom are rich, but finally he choose a girl he loved and this girl is rich too