Would you engage in an extra-marital affair?

Philippines
February 23, 2011 11:07pm CST
While technology is becoming more and more advance, the norms, values and morals of people are somewhat deteriorating. Why did I say so? Nowadays, a lot of what traditional times had called "immoral acts" are becoming the norms and fads of this generation, just for instance having an extra-marital affair. I have seen such acts committed and most people are staying mum on it. Male and female alike are engaging in this kind of relationship. I say so because some of my friends were caught guilty in doing it. Some of them says that it's just for the thrill of it, while others are taking it to a higher level where feelings are getting involved. I can't seem to know or understand as to what benefit they could get from this or are they even thinking it out when they decided to go for it? What do you have to say on this?
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13 responses
@voldrox (7204)
• India
24 Feb 11
There is no thrill in doing that. I would never do that, neither will i ever understand what thrill they get from cheating their partners. Pure betrayal.
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
Well, that's what a friend told me when I chance to lecture her about what she's doing. I told her that even if it feels good, it's just not right. If she wanted thrill she could go right ahead and ride a roller coaster. That would keep her thrilled. hehehehe. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting.
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• United States
24 Feb 11
I agree with you. It is horrible.
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@voldrox (7204)
• India
24 Feb 11
Could it be that your friend was just kidding.? But if not, tell her you are going to make things more thrilling for her by giving a few hints about this to her boyfriend ? Lol, don't you do that. Happy mylotting, both of you! :)
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 11
I notice that, too. Scary thing, isn't it? Maybe that's why I stay single, up to now. So many men and women doing it that it is difficult to find a man who do not do it or would not do it. I told a friend of mine to let me live in a fantasy in romance books and let me stay single.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Happy for you. But I would say once the love bug has a bite of you, you won't find time thinking it over. Stay happy. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 11
I think the love bugs did bite me several times, but I stayed single. Either, I am not worth a love a guy cast on me or I have a thick skin that the bites would not penetrate.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
Well,it's pure cheating,forget the thrill,fad things...it's all about cheating and betrayal. Now,why some married people engaged in it,it is becoz they liked it. Yes,some engaged in higher level involving emotions that caused broken families and kids suffering the consequences (which is all cause by LUST) This happens when one doesn't respect themselves,and never think of their kids. Moral/self dignity is the best plaque we can give to ourselves and we can be proud of (walking with head held up high) and we can look to anybody's eyes right directly becoz we never hide anything from our closet. It's their choice (cheaters who engaged in extra-marital affair) NOTE: there are cases in where most women do this,to get even with their cheating husband (we can not blame those ones,but feel pity for doing wrong)
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
Cheating has now become a fad? Wow, i can't imagine that this is going on like this. I am guilty of flirting online but i wouldn't even bother to meet that person and do whatever i please and by the way i don't like that kind of pleasure that can hurt other people. It's possible that i might have an extra-marital affair not because it's a fad but probably i have fallen out of love with my husband due to maltreatment, physical and mental abuse. But then i wouldn't cheat, i would call it quits with my husband first before jumping into another relationship. I don't understand women who cheats as a form of revenge because they are not helping the relationship at all but they are destroying it. They always have a choice to leave their cheating partners anyway.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Yes you're right. I don't agree with cheating women because their husband is doing it to them. You cannot make right by doing wrong. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
27 Feb 11
I don’t understand it either. Putting morality aside, I fail to appreciate what would make to people sneak around and lie in fear of being caught no matter how good it felt to be together and to live with the knowledge that you are betraying the person you once loved enough to marry would be too much for me! The way I see it is, if one is unhappy in one’s marriage get help or separate but don’t cheat, it is not a good way to live...
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
I like what you id. If one is unhappy in one's marriege, get help or separate but don't cheat. Cheating is never a solution. You can never correct a mistake with another mistake. Thank you for responding and happy mylotting.
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• United States
25 Feb 11
Never, I just imagine how i'd feel being the person in a marriage giving it my all only to discover, my " mr. right" couldn't careless. its just awful, if you can't be with someone break up with them, don't drag it on cheating on them would you like to be cheated? I didn't think so, as with anything if you do unto to others as you would like done onto yourself, those words just aren't a lie.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
That goes the golden rule, don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
@amirev777 (2820)
• India
24 Feb 11
Hi Certainly not! I think extra marital relationship is not worth it as one is under constant tension, because there are always possibility that the truth may come out. You certainly cannot have an extra marital in open, and need to be constantly hide it. Best option, if you are unhappy with the present marital situation, discuss with your spouse and if possible get out of it before you start the other relationship.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Exactly. Oh how I wish those friends and colleagues of mine could read these. They are just too blinded by what they feel, physically and emotionally. There's actually no worth taking risk in it. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting.
@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
no, I will not engage in extra marital affair. This is just going to be trouble when lf I engage into that. I will not go give myself a big problem like that. I would rather be single than engage in that.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
I hope my friend thinks that way too. I mean, involving yourself in an extra marital affair is a big problem. Not just personality wise but spiritually wise. It's like challenging the values that you believe. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
24 Feb 11
It might sound like something to add excitement to your life, but this is something I could not do. it would not matter how tempting another person might be. I could not cheat on my husband.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Good for you! That's what every woman has to put in their mind. It's not about the thrill or to spice things up. It's about decency and respect to your partner. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
@marcmm (1806)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 11
If it is lust, yes of course. All of people do this because of lust. And there is a case where a man who have 2 wives still go to seek thrill outside. So what can we said, it is just lust of having different woman than your own partner. But if rational thinking, of course I would say no. Just cherish and treasure what have been built for years. Of course I don't want it to be destroys in seconds just because I cannot control my lust and desire for another woman.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
There's a solution to a very active libido. My professor in college said that it really happens in marriage wherein the spouses no longer feels the same towards each other. The remedy is to rekindle what had burned out a long time ago. Putting a spark to the old flame. Like if couples are doing the act in the comforts of their bedroom, they try doing it some place else. Go on a trip or check in a motel or hotel. My professor added, if couples do it on bed, why not experiment and do the act in a staircase or somewhere very risky. If thrill is what couples need to rekindle the lost flame, do as they please with each others mutual interest. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting.
@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
For me those people engaging in extramarital affairs are those people with lowest self esteem and lowest self values. If they love thrills then there are lot of thrilling things they can do with out hurting or stepping on other people's toes. They can jump from Mt. Everest. That would be a great thrill they can have, or volunteer their selves in Afghanistan or Iraq to eliminate those cruel terrorists . Most people engaging in extramarital affairs always says that they were pushed to do such because of their spouses shortcomings. They always find reasons to justify their sweet sin. But was it really easier to commit adultery than to get out first from a deteriorating relationship before jumping into bed with another men/women?
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Well, as far as I know filing an annulment of marriage or a divorce is very tedious and work some. So I guess the answer to your question is sad to say a yes. Easier to commit adultery than to move out from a deteriorating relationship. That would not be a problem if the partners are not married though. Extra-marital affairs I think are result of wanting to boost ones ego. Yes, your right they are people of low self esteem. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
i don't think i would want to do that.. given the choice i will of course stay away from things that might hurt my family.
• China
24 Feb 11
I think technology advance doesn't warrant our having extramarital affairs which is unfaithful to marriage partner.In general,our generation like me keep up tradition and despise those who do so.we consider loyalty as the most important virtue in maintaining a good marriage.
@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 11
without associated with the advancement of technology. From year to year, the human moral will also be increasingly eroded by age. This is not to be separated from the view of human life all the more practical demands, including also in terms of relating between the sexes. They are demanding faster without having to be bound by a social or religious rules that do require a long time process