How can we wish our well wishers with a sweet smile, even we are in problems...?

India
February 24, 2011 5:49pm CST
Friends, ups and downs are the common things in life. But our relations(family, friends, relatives....etc.,) are with us forever. We don't have to disturb them with our problem(of course, we can share with them, that is not the issue). How we do wish them with a smiley face even we are in problems(sad situation) also?
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
25 Feb 11
Hi. rameshchow. We must try to remain strong and tell them that we have God in our lives. We have to speak words of encouragement even if it means relating to them. We have to speak positive so that they can feel confident about their stress and frustrations.
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• India
25 Feb 11
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• Pamplona, Spain
22 Mar 11
Hiya Remo, Smile though your Heart is breaking Smile even though it´s aching this is part of a Song that fits this to a t. Even though the tears maybe ever so near I have kept on smiling and have told everyone no l was peeling Onions which at that time of the Morning I usually do anyway. I have been smiling though my heart has been breaking into two and smiling though it´s aching as well. Some of the things you try to do in life.. You don´t always want People to know that you are upset so you put a brave face on and hope that things will get better. So you smile on the outside and cry on the inside. When I had just lost a premature Baby Girl I was smiling away and I went home and when no one was around I let the tears flow I could not take any more. It´s just our way of coping with given situations that crop up in life.xxx
• India
22 Mar 11
• United States
25 Feb 11
It is always wonderful to consider a friends feelings but we must not consider our friends feeling more then our own, because if we are not strong enough we cannot help our friends. So it is very important to live healthy, which includes a healthy mind in order for us to be there for friends. Not doing so would mean that you will not be healthy as depression can consume a great deal of our immunity. This is why I always mention that if I am not in good spirits it would not be fair for me to pretend and carry on as my friends would know something is wrong, and thus cause me to be a fake person. So I find that when we take a break in life we, rejuvenate and re-energize. It is then that we can go full throttle to help our friends.
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• India
25 Feb 11
Yes you are right "We must not consider our friends feelings more then our own.....", But i don't wanna disturb them with my problems. If they will listen my problems, they get more disturbed. They have to study well without any disturbance, for that only i have to support them. Not by disturbing them with my problems.... This is what my intension is. And i always try to know their problems, i can try my level best to solve them problems..... I found full satisfaction with their smile only(more than myself).
@mythociate (15763)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
9 Mar 11
Remember that All Earthly Things Shall Pass Away, and remember what shall not pass away (The Eternal Love of God)
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• United States
25 Feb 11
It is second nature for me. Until last year , I never talked about my problems , I honestly thought no one would want to listen and that includes family. so I would just be cordial with everyone.
• India
26 Feb 11
Have a niceday Thanks for sharing
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• United States
26 Feb 11
Thanks! Have a great day !
• United States
5 May 11
Thanks for the best response.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
25 Feb 11
Hi sweetie. It's hard to pretend that you are alright when dealing with others around you. You can either share what you are thinking or feeling with them or you can pretend that everything is just fine. Not always easy though. TATA.
• India
25 Feb 11
I do not want to disturb my friends by telling my problems with them, because in this stage they have to concentrate on studies only, they are not in a position to solve the problems. And i do not want to disturb their concentration. I always motivating them my level best.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
25 Feb 11
Then you have to pretend then. Funny how you always listen to their problems. Don't you have to concentrate on your studies as well, remo?
• India
25 Feb 11
Yes, i can concentrate, But i see the syllabus in the realistic view. I can apply the studies into real world applications. I can put some strong marks to remember all points. I have constructed a memory system in my mind. You know i can remember 150+ phone numbers. I am not telling gossips or not playing any tactics. I am telling what your friend remo have.... And i love to listen and solve their problems only. Because..____________?(i tell later).
• India
9 Mar 11
it would be better you dont go to them just stay at home !! for some days till your problem get solved !!
• India
9 Mar 11
Thanks for the response.
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• India
9 Mar 11
hey i think you got hurted from my response i am really sorry for it!
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• India
14 Mar 11
Its all right.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 11
I often have a situation like that. I must always look fine, and smiling in front of my whole family. While I was in a state that is very sad. There is a term, that this world stage. This term is very appropriate to me. Because my life is full of drama.
• India
27 Feb 11
You are thinking about your family members? Individually every one having their own tastes and feelings. Madam, Why you are life is in full of drama?
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 11
My life is full of drama. Because I have always played my role, as people in a state fine. It also must play a role, as a happy wife. And many other roles, who should I play, in my life.
• India
28 Feb 11
God blessings are always with you. Special prayers from me to you....
@joygracia (1328)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
I tend to just hide my ill feelings and just forget my own problems for awhile so I could show them a smile that would say I am so glad that they are there for me.
• India
25 Feb 11
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
25 Feb 11
The best thing to do is to take care of yourself first. If they see that you are working your best to find a solution to your problems and they see you persevering and having strength, they will get inspired and want to do the same.
• India
25 Feb 11
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
I can relate well to your post. Since i am a teacher, my mood greatly affects the kind of atmosphere my classroom has. But no matter how problematic I am I can say I am good at hiding my true emotions. I wear a mask that hides the weakness that's trying to eat me up inside. I divert my mind on other things and not let my problems affect my relation with the pupils.
• India
25 Feb 11
Oh, your are comparing the situation with a classroom. Well said.
• India
5 May 11
It is best not to share your sadness with others and make them sad too, but share your jiy, happyness with all Smiling does not cost any thing keep smiling friend. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
25 Feb 11
When I have problems, I only pray to Him. God is the only one that can comfort us more than our family, friends, relatives, etc. Every time I pray to Him..I can feel His power and that make me smile because I know that I'm not alone.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
well if you dont want them to know that you are sad then that would be easy. my mother is one of the people i love talking with. but since she had a heart attack and her blood shoot up... that cause her to be half bodied paralyze... from then on i always tell her i am okay. i no longer telling her too much. i try to hide to her from what i feel and just smile and tell her i am okay. its not easy but it is easier to do that than to burden her and make her worry.