"long engagement going to nothing."

Philippines
February 24, 2011 11:24pm CST
I have a friend engage to my cousin, there engage about 12 years but in one mistake ,of one of them they turn to end the relationship. Is the long engaement make the love fade? for me, i dont think so.....mylotters what is ur openion? Thanks to those who responce.
4 responses
• United States
25 Feb 11
Let me tell you something. if a relationship lasts longer than... say 5-6 years and there is no intention of marrying...then the truth of the matter is - they don't plan on marrying you at all. basically you're pretty much in the comfort zone of just doing the things over and over again. that's not going to change. in my opinion, you should know if you want it forever in 3 years. if they don't want or if you don't want...then it's time to move on. there's plenty of women/men out there and you will never worry about finding someone that will appreciate you. Staying with the same person year after year, knowing it's pretty much going to be stay on a flat straight line will eventually fade and eventually die out. TIME FOR A CHANGE!
• United States
25 Feb 11
Married people are in the exact same "comfort zone of doing the same things over and over again". The label doesn't define the relationship. Not being married does not mean you're not serious or committed, it just means you're not married.
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
if love is really there, it will not fade...it will get stronger as time goes... I say this because it's what I'm in right now...my man and I are too young in the eyes of my parents so we have to wait for their approval to get married, and I could say that having a long engagement will ensure your suitability...your almost married, so the commitment is already deep and this is the time you will get to know how your man or woman reacts to that kind of relationship... ...there are many facets that may end a relationship, they may still love each other but there's pride, jealousy, or they just forget what is essential, which is there love, especially in our world today...too much pressure to gain wealth
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Though time is a factor in a relationship and it somehow contributes on how you really know your partner on a certain level, but I dont think that a long engagement can really make their love for each other fade. My cousin has a long time GF of 10years and they are still as good as before. Nothing's changed. The gravity of love, depends on the two lovers and how they keep their relationship IMO.
• United States
25 Feb 11
If the relationship is going to end, it will do so no matter the label on the relationship, married, engaged, whatever. When it stops working, that's all there is to it.