breaking up is painful especially if you don't want it to end... (cont'd)

Philippines
February 25, 2011 5:09am CST
As i forgot to say, it has also something to do with the culture. it's the family's tradition that if one wants to have a relationship, and then they have to move out from the house. it is like that if you want to have relationships you must be independent for such cases that might happen like unexpected pregnancies and the like would not be an embarrassment for the name of the family. some Filipinos are still blind for the thing such as called liberation; there are still many families that do not go with the flow of the generation. the girl in this story had been given a chance to choose between marrying the man and she has to move out from their house as a consequence of this is to stop studying and be with the man, of course, without any helping hand from either of the two families of each lovers. the other choice is to break up with this man neither to see him again nor having any connection anymore and continue studying, also living just like before. i could say that the girl has good family standards in the society as they are not too rich but has well financial status. it could also be said that one of the girl's father's concern is that, the man does not have any quite financial aids, as the family of the guy is only on the middle class.
4 responses
@kramsgir (146)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
How old is the girl?..I have seen situations like this from my neighbors and my classmates. As what i've observed, they are having hard time letting go of the person they love. Their parents anyhow are just thinking for their own good, i'm not saying this just because i'm not in their shoes but i'm saying this according to what i think is right. If they continue the kind of relationship which is forbidden, sooner maybe they will elope and pregnancy comes in. That's another problem since both of them don't have work yet and the one who will suffer greatly is the baby if ever this will happen. So, they should also consider the consequences if they will continue their relationship..
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
the girl is 19.. the guy is 18
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
For me yes it is totally feeling that way but if you want it to end you are suffer it for only one month.
• United States
26 Feb 11
honey i've been here so many times.. i remember crushing n this guy in middle school around 8th,we started out as friends and stayed friends because he was with my bff and well its a really long story.. but it was an on and off kind of thing,, i loved him so much and still do.. but if you love someone then i guessyou never really can let go of tht feeling. it'll always be there, whether you want it or not, or if your trying to move on..deep down.. that feeling will always be there.. even if you fall in love with some else..
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
This story only proves that Filipino Families are still governed by traditions. In some cases this can be advantageous caused traditions are basically rooted in morality. But it is also a means of oppression. The best thing that the girl can do now is to obey her family until she has no guts to do what she has to do, get out from the binds of her family and proves to be her own being, then nobody can dictate her of what to do with her life.