I Don't Want to Be Stared at

@SIMPLYD (90727)
Philippines
February 26, 2011 12:41am CST
I find it insulting when someone stares at me. It's as if something is wrong with me and it makes me self conscious. Specially in those jeepneys, where you sit face to face with the passengers on the other lane, i don't like it when someone stares at me. Whenever i see someone staring at me, i feel like asking her/him "what's wrong with me" . I just simply look away, but sometimes you can still feel the stare even if you are not actually looking at her or him. Do you feel that way too?
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38 responses
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
And that's the reason why I avoid jeepneys as much as possible. But just try not to mind them. Maybe it's just because you're a pretty woman and they cant help but stare.
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• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Oh, I KNOW so. You ARE a very pretty lady.
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
I just hope so that they do think that way.
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Thank you.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
1 Mar 11
I hate that too~but what can I do?Perhaps they are looking somewhere else~
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 11
that is all??
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
I think everybody hates to be stared at.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
10 May 11
You cannot help it. May be you look beautiful and they cannot stop themselves looking at you.. Best way is to ignore those looks and think in your mind that you are travelling alone in the Jeepneys is no one is sitting around.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
11 May 11
You are in fact beautiful dear! Putting dark glasses on your face is one of the best options to avoid eye contact and the agony of being stared.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
11 May 11
I just hope so, that they do find me that. Sometimes, i just close my eyes and put on my shades.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Thank you. When i have my shades on, it's my turn to stare .
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 11
I often feel who way. Everyone looked at me, I also always wondered, is there something wrong with me? When who looking at me is people I do not know, I have thought who they vary widely, there may be something in me, or people that mean-spirited to me. When who looking at me is people I know, I have thought maybe he did not like my presence here, especially if that person is staring at me with who cynical view.
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
A person staring at you with cynical look should be confronted as to what is it that gives him that look to you. Am sure, he will be embarrassed of himself.
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@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
When someone's staring at you then look yourself at the mirror and check if there's dirt on your face. If the make up is fine, the dress on the other hand is looking fine as well then the only reason i can come up with is that you look good. if you're comfortable there's no reason to be self conscious. There are a lot of good looking people that are good to look at and you can't help but stare, these good looking people who knows that their good looking just ignore the staring eyes. Personally i don't want to be stared at, well, there's no reason for people to stare at anyway. But maybe when I was younger, my wife is the one who tells that some her colleagues are staring at me .
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Well, they find you handsome, that's why those girls stare. Your wife should be proud of you.
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
We cannot avoid this situations and I guess my reaction depends on how I was stared. Well I stare also but most often I stare because I admire something from that person, or because that person looks familiar to me and trying to recall my memory, or something interesting I see from him/her. But staring too long at the person is rude. That is very awkward and uncomfortable. Well I don't know what is running in the mind of those people but oftentimes I just ignore it.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I do stare also specially if i find someone beautiful or handsome, but not when the other person is looking. After that, i keep on side glancing at him or her, just to take a second or third look.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
No matter how the stare was done, to me it's making me self conscious and uncomfortable. I'd rather have that you tell me frankly what's the matter. Only then, will i be settled.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I do the same simplyd. As I have mentioned that it depends on how we stare. Of course a maniac type or stalker type of stare would be so irritating. If ever I was caught staring then I just look away or give a friendly smile. Sometimes it opens a way for conversation and to make friends so it just really depends on our motive.
• India
11 May 11
Yes, I feel that way too. For one, I’m taller than the average girls you see in my place so people stare. Secondly, most men I come across just love staring at ladies… I don’t know why, we girls don’t gape at men, do we? Sometime, I just feel like going across and slapping them tight (that is what they deserve). I don’t know about other places, but at least in India, most men don’t know how to behave with women…they just stare or gape and pass comments.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Yes, most men are fond of gazing and staring at women. I would really pass by them, when i go to the jeepney stand in the morning. I don't even look at them when i pass by.
@ceres31 (141)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Same here, I also hate being stared at. Its very annoying and comfortable. I sometimes snob at them especially to girls if I feel like they're also talking about me. When guys stare, I also snob at them especially when I'm in a foul mood coz it feels like they're thinking something and you dont know what it is. Either there something in your face or they appreciate what they see, I still hate their stares.
@ceres31 (141)
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
Yeah, one of those might be the reason. But a glance will do, staring is kinda uncomfortable. It may be flattering to be stared at by guys if those were the reason. But everybody knows what "self-conscious" is. =)
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Correct!
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
But you know, from my experience , if a woman keeps staring, she's jealous at either your looks or your clothes or your bag or your shoes. But if it is a man, who keeps staring, he finds you cute, or beautiful or pretty. However, it's rude to stare! Period.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
11 May 11
I find it annoying too when someone stares at me. It`s a very rude thing to do, and can be unconfortable for many people. I`m often stared at by people in the street, in the train, etc, so I just decided to ignore them. If the world is full of rude people, I`m not going to follow their game and let them ruin my day
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
11 May 11
yes, let's just ignore them. But sometimes they could really be so annoying though.
• India
18 May 11
When i was young , in college girls used to stare at me Dina, i looked cute and attractive, but now i am a grandfather.. Yes in public vehicles, streets, this is a common phenomena, there are street Romeos who not only stare at ladies but pass nasty comments.. some times the police here posts female police officers without uniform ofcourse in college campus, bus stand etc, so once the romeos pass comments they are bitten on the spot left with warning or arrested.. Thank you for sharing your experiece Enjoy life to fullest. Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
19 May 11
You must have been really cute and attractive when you were young. Even now that you are a grandfather, it still shows. Oh really , they can do that in India , for those who stares and pass comments? How i wish that could be done too here in the Philippines. A lot will be warned or arrested here if they do that.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
I don’t think it is polite to stare at people. It would really make them uncomfortable. I personally don’t want to be stared at. When people stare at you it’s either there is something good with you or there is something wrong with you. Although, I would have preferred the former. You seem to be under the lens of a microscope when people to that. I try not to stare at people but sometimes there are just some people that I cannot take my eyes from. Specially those good looking people that you just so admire. I don’t really stare at them but I always give a glance every 2 seconds so as not too become too obvious.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Actually, that's what i do whenever i find somebody to be so good looking or very nicely dressed. I would glance every now and then , without being obvious.
@shrijsr (574)
• Bangalore, India
26 Feb 11
Hello friend, I too find it difficult if I'm being stared at! I'm very uncomfortable with such a thing! All I feel at that point is, "why the hell do you stare at me! For heaven's sake, I even don't know you so please stare out of my way!" Once we look back, some people turn away, but some still continue to stare even after we let them kno wthat we notices and thats the worst thing! I just feel so annoying when such a thing happen!
• Pakistan
26 Feb 11
having them keep staring even when you show them that you've noticed!!!Thats the worst! What are they thinking when the keep staring i wonder..................
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
That's really true sometimes. I feel like going back and pulling their hairs. It's obvious they are thinking something about you.
@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
10 May 11
I hate being stared at too and I also find it hard to maintain eye contact. I often think too if there is really something wrong with me. Sometimes though I think I am just too paranoid that I tend to give meaning to things which means nothing at all to the opposite party.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Well, i guess i just have to think that way so i won't get irritated.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
10 May 11
Even if their stare means nothing at all, it is still wrong to stare at a person. You make the person uncomfortable when you stare. Even if you stare because you find the person beautiful, it's still not nice to stare. Maybe a glance or two is okay, but stare . . . .no.
@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
10 May 11
Well you've got a point there. But to console yourself just think of it that they are staring at you because you're BEAUTIFUL. Hehe..
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
28 Apr 11
I think most people feel a little creepy when someone just stares at them. I find sometimes I stare when someone has something on that is especially attreactive..if they catch me doing it I excuse myself and explain I was admiring their clothes, or jewelry, or whatever I was staring at. Maybe because you are very attractive, they enjoy looking at you? :)
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
I guess they just find me fascinating because i wear high heels and gray stockings with my uniform in skirts. I have some make -up and maybe they find my bag nice too.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
10 May 11
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
9 May 11
That might all be true. So instead of feeling creepy you can feel flattered :)
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Mar 11
SIMPLYD I hate to be stared! That why since January I began using sunglasses everywhere, I don´t mind what they think of them... I love my sunglasses... I love peace! =) Blessings!... Dainy
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
So now you can stare at anybody without them seeing you too!
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 11
well, there was a time that i feel that way. but then i just ignore all the stranger who stare at me. everybody have a free will to judge me, and i can't prohibit them
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
That's very kind of you. I just hope i could stay that way too when i am being stared at.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
I don't feel that way, my friend. We don't blame those people. They maybe look at you so beautiful and not avoid to stared at you or maybe your so sexy and very attractive that is why people starred at you especially men...
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
I guess you don't feel that way because you are a man and men are the usual starers. I juts hope they do think that way to me when they stare.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
27 Feb 11
It used to other me to be stared at. I use a walker or some other kind of aid to walk, and sometimes a wheelchair. Everyone stares at me now and I have gotten used to it. Children stare a lot. Adults try to hide it, but children don't know any better.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Those stares are not meant to ridicule you. In my opinion, it would be more of "what could have happened to her, why does she have a walker?"
@garson (884)
• United States
7 Mar 11
Well, I would not like being stared for long periods of time either. But, there are some people that cannot help it when staring at some beautiful people. Maybe, your look catch their attention.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
I just hope so they find me that.
• China
27 Feb 11
I don't like that,too.But sometimes you had better blame yourself,as he or she is looking at you for your appearance appeal,and you are really a bit oversensitive.You are right,the better way is to look away,you can't lose temper and quarrel with the others for that.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Yes, that's what i am trying to avoid. To be nasty and quarrel with that person.