Mom/ Dad loves you best!

I have one sister and I'm three years older. My parents didn't compare us for most things but I do remember there being some contention when my sister started college. I have a Business Admin degree and my parents pressured my sister to do the same thing as I had done. They saw it as a path to "getting a good job." For the most part, because my parents did not have extensive educations themselves, I think they weren't really familiar with the types of degrees and programs available and what I had done was just what they knew. My sister went into a Retail Management program instead and she confided in me years later that she had only done so to not give in to the parental pressure. She did extremely well, mind you, but I wonder if she ever regrets the reason for her choice. But, besides that, our parents never played favorites... they treated us very much the same at all times and were very critical of any family members that didn't. We had one grandmother that tried to favor me over my sister and my parents put a stop to it right from the get go.

Well, parent's did not avoid to compare there children for the purpose of showing how some of their kids to be.... The comparison method of parents to correct and device the good behavior of their children did not mean they don't love the other... This is one of the ways they know to see that one of the children follow...But it really some children did not see it at a method of their parents to make them a good citizen someday...but they rebel instead of following the example of their parents

I have a sister who is 7 years younger. Though looks-wise we are very similar...we are very different as individuals. I don't remember being compared when I grew up. And as in your case, we weren't raised together....when I was a teenager, she was still a little girl....and she started her teens when I was out of it. I was married while she was still in high school. So, I do not remember any time we were compared. But now my sister stays with our mom and she says that mom compares her a lot with me. She doesn't like it one bit. Though mom would tell me the same stuff when I was her age...she never compared us (I guess she couldn't since my sister hadn't been through that phase yet). As far as favourites go, both of us have complained that the other was our parents' favourite :) lol...guess that's a normal phase that all kids go through. We've now reconciled to the fact that I'm dad's favourite and she is mom's. Having kids of my own, I know it's not true though.

This figures in today's top discussion list (27th Feb). I am elder to my brother and was not compared to him, rather he was compared with me.

well i am a twin, and i feel that my parents have never been with with what ive done. they have never been happy with any of the jobs i have done compared to my sisters, they have never really been happy with any of my boyfriends compared to my sisters, my twin got married, has 2 kids and my parents were thrilled. i have never been married, was with my ex for 12 and a half years and when i got pregnant both times my parents basicallyhad the complete opposite reaction to my sis. i have always been the brunt of jokes in the family too.

I am home only daughter,so what you say,but I find it hard to understand,I have had an idea that in the future the birth of my child I must have just one child,unless pregnant with twins because I want to give my child a full of love!

gud evening friends, i have a sibling, we used to fight so much in our childhood but now we are like friends.My parents usually don't compare but when ever we fight my mom supports any one of us then v'l f8 on that issue.I start saying that u people care her most rather than me and my sister also use the same words but more often she uses b'coz my mom supports me quite often. But as i'm the first kid my mom loves me more and my dad prefers my sister. But our's is a cute family:-)

Hi Making a comparison between the sibling can be the worst thing that parents can ever do. This really makes the sibling rivalry more hostile. I was lucky because my parents never made comparison between us and I was the elder brother supposed to be protective towards my younger brother.

I am the oldest sibling. i have two younger brothers and a younger sister. Unfortunately, i received the unasked for task of setting the example for everyone else. if my younger siblings did something wrong my parents would find a way for me to share in the blame. i know that my parents loved us equally but they had their ways making you feel more or less love at times. I always seemed to get mom and dad love you best because you were first but i don't believe that was ever true.

I wouldn't say I was a favorite, but I think my brother and my sister always got compared to me. I am the eldest, and I was the one to first fly off the coop. I studied away from home, worked first, and moved my family away from my hometown. So whenever I get a chance to get home, I feel like a favorite. And often I would here those comments.

That is very common to happen, our parents love us to the fullest compare to anybody else. I have seen some parents not being fair to their all kids, may be based on gender but that ratio is very less. I would never want to see this happening around me. I just hate this situation.

I knew this from when I was young. It was okay for me. It acted as a motivation to try an extra effort over everything.

sometimes we don not want to be compared with a younger brother or sister, but it is the way our parents to teach us. We know that we love mom and dad. i love you all

My sister's & brothers were a lot older than I am so they were all pretty much out of the house when I was really young. After my brother moved out thats 5 yrs older than I am I was the only child left in the house. My dad tend to play forvoritism towards me after I was born then put my brother on the back burner from what I was told. I always felt my sisters & brothers were able to do more than I was able to do as teenagers. I see it from one view but my siblings see it from another point of view. With them being older I am sure they have seen and know more than I do.

mon and dad's love is the greatest love in the word.we should love them forever.

I am the youngest that is why Im my dad and moms apple of the eye. I got 4 jealous brothers who does nothing but makes my life miserable but I got my parents to protect me and love me all the way. I love them all my life and Im glad I got them. I really thank GOD for them. THank you for sharing.

Dear friend, wanna ask you a simple question, answer immediately, "Which side eye you love most right eye/left eye?". ha ha ha.... Your question is also like that. I am not joking friend. Parents(mother and father) are the two eyes for Us. How can we see differently. Thanks for sharing your thought.

mom/dad love is the best ..and we cannot compare their pure love with any other love