girl bestfriend

@jpaxxx21 (170)
Singapore
February 27, 2011 10:19am CST
would it be ok for you if your boyfriend has a girl bestfriend? that's a no no to me. can u imagine your boyfriend had to call u up to cancel ur date because his bestfriend is having a problem & she needs company??? what if they were friends since birth and he just can't get out of her life because they're inseparable? how will u handle such a situation? i'll probably be nagging to my boyfriend everyday...and i will turn green-eyed the whole time. i am not a possessive type but i just can't take it when my boyfriend has to divide his attention between me & his bestfriend. just a thought.
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16 responses
• United States
27 Feb 11
I would not mind being my best friend is a man. I think it would make me mad if I saw that she had other feelings for him. But,a true friend is something we all could use. I am happy that he does not have a female for a best friend but,he is welcome to have one should he find one. I would never want to see him lose a life time friend over me. Frinds are rare to find.
@khalida (1130)
• India
27 Feb 11
aww that is quite sweet of you. i guess, for me, it is when once in a relationship, it should be quite strong that he can consider you as a buddy and talk and do things as how he would do with a best friend, irrespective of male or female
• United States
27 Feb 11
Thanks very much.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
hi there. ummmmm i don't know but even though i trust my boyfriend and that we have been together for so long, i dont think i would like it and be okay with me for him to have a girl best friend. i am not being mean but if he likes that, i would have to have him choose between me and her LOL :) awwwww but to me, my boyfriend is my best friend. my girl friends are just there when either, they need something from me or they have something to show off heheh.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
1 Mar 11
haha.. i think i kinda agree with you :) i tell my boyfriend everything. he is my bestfriend too!
@hieuhanh (98)
• Vietnam
1 Mar 11
Well , if that girl think of you , and understand your pain , maybe she will not make bother your boyfriend like that ! You should keep silent and about a long time , your boyfriend will know you're the most important person in his life , not her . Have a good day !
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I say that would be a case to case basis, as to whether my boyfriend can be trusted, and if his so-called bestfriend has ever had issues. If you trust your guy that much, it could be a good thing. For one, there might be some things about girls he don't understand much, which could turn into complications. If he has a girl bestfriend, he could confide, and the girl could give him some hints. Girls know other girls better than men do.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
28 Feb 11
A relationship should have enough security that jealousy would not have to enter a male and female best friendship. If you can't handle such a situation it could be trying on your relationship together in the long run.
@nj1022 (5)
28 Feb 11
I really dont mind my boyfriend having a girl bestfriend as long as my boyfriend knows his priorities.
@iwrite (5042)
• Singapore
28 Feb 11
Have more confident of yourself my friend, I know it is not easy especially if they are very close, a good trick is to be very close to her and then get her on your side. Turn the table on your boyfriend.
@elisse27 (181)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
For me, this is fine although I get jealous at times. Although we need to understand that some guys do not have girl bestfriends but is too attached to their group of friends and even spend too much time with them
• Canada
27 Feb 11
Hmm... interesting topic. The way I look at it is, I put myself into the other person's shoe. Let's say I am the best friend and I need desparate help what would I expect my boyfriend who has a girlfriend to do? I think I would talk to my boyfriend and ask him to speak with his girlfriend and see if it was ok for her that he spent some time with me. I would try my best not to be overly demanding. Now to answer your question, if my boyfriend cancelled the date and went to take care of his best friend, who is a girl, once or twice would be alrite but if it happened too many times (more than three) then I would have a discussion with my boyfriend and see how we can sort it out. Boyfriend or no boyfriend, it is always good to be understanding of other's situations. There is nothing in this world that cannot be solved with peaceful discussions and there are solutions to almost every situation. It depends on the what result we are trying to achieve. Situations are always going to be there and it's our job to deal with them the best way we can. Even in married life a husband/wife always/sometimes have to go back and take care of their loved ones that does not mean we throw them out of our lives, atleast this is my thought.
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
27 Feb 11
hello friend! no i do not think so that i will feel ok if my boyfriend have girl best friend.i want to be his best friend.because i think friendship is a great way to know him.i will have so much problem with this.i think i can not tolerate this.it is not possessive it ok you have this right friend.be happy. thanks a lot.
• United States
27 Feb 11
I think it would be ok if you trust you boyfriend or girl. If there going to do something wrong they will. but i also feel that what if that girl was your friend since childhood, should i break friendship just because of a person that have trust issues?
@khalida (1130)
• India
27 Feb 11
That is a good one. no matter how practical you are, at one point or the other a girl would get irritated in such a situation. what one can do is, get to know that girl well and be a good friend to her so that she starts sharing her problems with you than your boyfriend now that would be cool right!? Or hook her up with someone so that she gets a boyfriend and understands your relationship better and tries not to disturb you guys
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
27 Feb 11
That's a yes yes to me. My husband's best woman friend is happily married with two children. She is a good friend of mine, too. Since one of her kids is a baby, she often calls us in the middle of the night to have her driven to a hospital (her family doesn't have a car), or just to talk if she needed to. This was never a problem to me. All depends on how strong the relationship in your family/couple is, on the level of trust you have to each other. And let's not forget that a boy/man in a relationship, especially without the couple being married, should not be restrained much. Otherwise, instead of just dividing his attention between his lover and his best friend, might turn his back on the girlfriend/lover and choose not to spoil a good friendship.
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Ugh. That sounds like a recipe for disaster. I don't like the thought of my boyfriend having a girl best friend other than me, especially if their kind of relationship is very close. I don't know, I may be wrong, but for me it's impossible for males and females to have a really close platonic relationship. Not unless they're both married, or they have a huge age gap.
27 Feb 11
My girlfriend has a boy bestfriend and I'm perfectly fine with it. Yes, there are times when I get annoyed and I AM the jealous type, however I trust her and I know he is just a friend. I think it is just a matter of trust. As for the spending time with the bestfriend over the partner, well I wouldn't like that one bit. I would have a talk with the partner
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
27 Feb 11
At one time I had a male best friend for 13 years. During that time I had two boyfriends while he was still my best friend. I knew my best friend before I knew those two boyfriends and my boyfriends had met my best friend. One of the boyfriends was my first love (really only love). My best friend was my best friend but my boyfriend was even more important. I believe males and females can be best friends without any other agendas. Luckily neither of them forced me to choose. And now none of those people are in my life any more